L0stOne Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I'm seriously stressing out here. I had unprotected sex with a guy who has a girlfriend and now I think I might be pregnant. At first I didn't want to say anything because if I'm not I don't want to feel stupid, but now I don't think I should be going through this alone. It's been almost 2 weeks since I started feeling it, and I've been keeping it to myself and everyday I get more nervous to the point when I think about it I can feel like my nerves shaking. But I'm worried if I tell him now, he'll say oh stop playing u cant be pregnant, and would think I'm just trying to break him and his girl up or might even say if I am, it's not his. I'm going home tomorrow and my best friend is taking me to a place she knows that gives free tests, so I'll know for sure on Monday, but I really want to tell him now.
myname Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I'm seriously stressing out here. I had unprotected sex with a guy who has a girlfriend and now I think I might be pregnant. At first I didn't want to say anything because if I'm not I don't want to feel stupid, but now I don't think I should be going through this alone. It's been almost 2 weeks since I started feeling it, and I've been keeping it to myself and everyday I get more nervous to the point when I think about it I can feel like my nerves shaking. But I'm worried if I tell him now, he'll say oh stop playing u cant be pregnant, and would think I'm just trying to break him and his girl up or might even say if I am, it's not his. I'm going home tomorrow and my best friend is taking me to a place she knows that gives free tests, so I'll know for sure on Monday, but I really want to tell him now. It's only two more days, wait until you know, unless you would be in touch with him anyway and then tell him you're worried about it if you feel you need to.
Author L0stOne Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 I guess I can wait. It's not like he can go with me since he'll be here in NY and I'll be back in hot a$$ florida. Guess I'm having selfish moment thinking why do I gotta be the only one stressing when he was part of it, but I'll wait. Hopefully I won't have to say anything but I really think I am.
myname Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I guess I can wait. It's not like he can go with me since he'll be here in NY and I'll be back in hot a$$ florida. Guess I'm having selfish moment thinking why do I gotta be the only one stressing when he was part of it, but I'll wait. Hopefully I won't have to say anything but I really think I am. Can you get a home pregnancy test? Or is money an issue? How late is your period?
Author L0stOne Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 I could of gotten a home one, I was just waiting to see if I got my period. It's not late, I wish it was cause then I wouldn't be worried since I'm always late. My breasts always hurt right before I get my period. Last time I had it, it ended april 22. I had sex with him april 27. Around may 2, they started hurting. First I thought damn again, but the more I thought about it, the more I started thinking it might be something else. Almost 2 weeks later, still hurting a little, no period.
BB07 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 As someone else mentioned why don't you get a home pregnancy test? Seems that would be an end to part of the stress or maybe all of it.
Author L0stOne Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 I was going to get a home test, but when I told my best friend what was happening, I think on may 6, she said she knew a place where it's free. I figured well I can wait to see if I get my period plus it saves me $20 I could use for gas. No point in getting one now since i'll be going the day after tomorrow. Plus I figured if I am, I'll already be at the doctors.
BB07 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I was going to get a home test, but when I told my best friend what was happening, I think on may 6, she said she knew a place where it's free. I figured well I can wait to see if I get my period plus it saves me $20 I could use for gas. No point in getting one now since i'll be going the day after tomorrow. Plus I figured if I am, I'll already be at the doctors. Obviously I'm not you but you've indicated your worried and upset by it so I don't understand your thought process because if I were in your shoes I would beg or borrow the $ and I would find out like yesterday if I was pregnant or not, then you can move on or to the next steps. Putting off knowing makes no sense to me.
AuthenticBliss Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 A PG test can be purchased at Dollar General or the like for less than $5. I assume it's worth $5 for you to find out? It's not scientific, but most women ovulate for 2 days about 14-15 days after your last period started. It's suggested to not have intercourse 2 days before or 2 days after that window. I don't know when your period started, but it doesn't seem like you were within that window.
Author L0stOne Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 (edited) A PG test can be purchased at Dollar General or the like for less than $5. I assume it's worth $5 for you to find out? Yea, I seen those dollar ones. I think I'm gonna go to Walmart when I get back tomorrow. I seen them for $10. That's cheaper then $20-$40 ones here. It's not scientific, but most women ovulate for 2 days about 14-15 days after your last period started. It's suggested to not have intercourse 2 days before or 2 days after that window. I don't know when your period started, but it doesn't seem like you were within that window. It started April 17, the day after I got here, ended April 22, we had sex April 27. Boobs started to get sore about May 2. But I'm ALWAYS late like when I do get my period & I try to remember the last time I got it, I cant cause that's how long it's been. Plus I didn't wanna believe I could be especially since it was the first time we met in person, so I was hoping this couldn't be happening. Edited May 14, 2011 by L0stOne
alexandria35 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 A PG test can be purchased at Dollar General or the like for less than $5. I assume it's worth $5 for you to find out? It's not scientific, but most women ovulate for 2 days about 14-15 days after your last period started. It's suggested to not have intercourse 2 days before or 2 days after that window. I don't know when your period started, but it doesn't seem like you were within that window. This is true but no two women are exactly the same and ovulation can fluctuate a great deal in the same woman. The last time I concieved it was on day 17 of my cycle, which is rather late. The time before that, it was on day 10 of my cycle, so that time it happened early. This is why for some or most women, counting the days is not an effective method of birth control. So is your period late or isn't it? If the first day of your period isn't due yet a pregnancy test may give you a false negative. Some of the home pregnancy test now say that it can detect a pregnancy as early as four days before the first day of your period is due. But this really depends on how much of the pregnancy hormone (can't remember the name now) is present in the urine. Some women have extremely low levels of this hormone early on, even if their pregnancy is normal and healthy. If you do decide to do the home pregnancy test, don't buy it and run right home and use it. Put it in your bathroom and then test your first morning urine as this is when your urine will have the highest concentration of the hormone. No sense telling the guy until you are certain. I am one of those woman that seemed to just know for certain when I was pregnant, almost from the day it happened. lol..I don't know how, call it intuition I guess. If it turns out you are not pregnant, then please start using some kind of birth contol. If the guy you are sleeping with also has a gf then you should definitely be considering some sort of protection from std's. Actually all sexually active adults should use protection. I want to say it isn't necessary if you're married but by reading these boards obviously that isn't true. And on the topic of home pregnancy tests I just remembered the first one I ever used over 20 years ago. Now the home tests are amazing! You just pee on the stick and wait a few minutes to get your answer but you should have seen the first tests! OMG!! The first one I ever bought was in a box that contained an eye dropper, a test tube, a wooden stand, and two vials of some sort of chemicals. You absolutely had to wait until you were at least 2 weeks late before you tested. If you were certain you were that late, then you could take the test. It involved putting percise and measured amounts of urine and chemicals into the test tube. Then you had to cork the test tube and turn it over an exact number of times. Once you had carried out these instructions to the letter you then had to prop the test tube up on it's little stand and wait 2 full days for the results!! At that time you had to carefully look at the bottom of the tube to see if a little faint ring appeared. If there was a ring you were pregnant. I saw the ring and I was, in fact, pregnant! So the test actually worked if you did it right, but I felt like a mad scientist actually doing it...lol.
Author L0stOne Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 So is your period late or isn't it? If the first day of your period isn't due yet a pregnancy test may give you a false negative. Some of the home pregnancy test now say that it can detect a pregnancy as early as four days before the first day of your period is due. But this really depends on how much of the pregnancy hormone (can't remember the name now) is present in the urine. Some women have extremely low levels of this hormone early on, even if their pregnancy is normal and healthy. If you do decide to do the home pregnancy test, don't buy it and run right home and use it. Put it in your bathroom and then test your first morning urine as this is when your urine will have the highest concentration of the hormone. No, it's not late. My friend said to do a online ovulation test which would never work for me since I'm always late but I put when I got it last & the 28 days cycle & it said my period would come May 16 on Monday. No sense telling the guy until you are certain. I am one of those woman that seemed to just know for certain when I was pregnant, almost from the day it happened. lol..I don't know how, call it intuition I guess. If it turns out you are not pregnant, then please start using some kind of birth contol. If the guy you are sleeping with also has a gf then you should definitely be considering some sort of protection from std's. Actually all sexually active adults should use protection. I want to say it isn't necessary if you're married but by reading these boards obviously that isn't true. I know I was stupid not to use protection. I thought about it when I was getting undressed, but I did't say anything for reasons I should've said something. I'm sure I'm not the only one he's messing with. He's never actually told me about anybody else that he's slept with, but I know about webcam stuff he does. I'm not gonna tell him until I know for sure there's something to tell him. I wanna know so bad now I think I just might suck it up and pay the ridiculous prices here today.
FieldFlower Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 (edited) I guess I'll just never understand why anyone in this day and age would have unprotected sex. Then again I grew up in the day when HIV/AIDS made its big debut, and watching my favorite artist Freddie Mercury die from it, sorta just imprinted into my brain no condom=no sex. As the poster above pointed out, ovulation can fluctuate from women to women and even month to month. Trust me I know, I "charted" to conceive my children, and every month there was a difference of a few days, but most women do follow the 14 day rule. Also, I've seen pregnancy tests in the dollar store for a buck, not sure how reliable they are, but there are ones out there that can detect HGC before your period is due. I'm with BB07, why put yourself through that torment of not knowing any longer then you have too. I would drive myself nuts, and everyone around me too. I would NOT tell him either, unless of course it turns out positive. There is no need to add any additional stress right now to your life, if you don't have too. You can't predict what his reaction might be, so I would go with keeping quiet until you have a defintive answer. One of the first signs that I had that I was pregnant before my period was even late, was the veins in my puppies were extremely prominent. Freakin road map, and the smell of coffee made me want to puke. Good look, and (shaking finger at you), don't ever have unprotected sex again, a baby would be the LEAST of your worries. There is no reason, none, and never let the heat of the moment, or worrying about his response have any influence on your decision to keep your body safe. Also, he has a girlfriend, and I think you know what the implications of that are... Good luck. ETA. OMG, lostone, I didn't realize that you were the one that posted about the webcam incident. Is this the same man? If so, then you do NOT want to say anything to him, not unless your sure, and then I would seriously consider getting some additional support from anyone that has your best interests at heart, if you are indeed pregnant by him. If this is the same man, you can forget about him being supportive of you, in any way shape or form. In fact, telling him just may be to your detriment if you do not have someone to back you up. Can you talk to your mom about this? Friends, a family doctor? Edited May 14, 2011 by FieldFlower
blueroses10 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 A PG test can be purchased at Dollar General or the like for less than $5. I assume it's worth $5 for you to find out? It's not scientific, but most women ovulate for 2 days about 14-15 days after your last period started. It's suggested to not have intercourse 2 days before or 2 days after that window. I don't know when your period started, but it doesn't seem like you were within that window. At dollar stores or 99 cents stores, they are only $1. Very small price for peace of mind.
fooled once Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I'm seriously stressing out here. I had unprotected sex with a guy who has a girlfriend and now I think I might be pregnant. At first I didn't want to say anything because if I'm not I don't want to feel stupid, but now I don't think I should be going through this alone. It's been almost 2 weeks since I started feeling it, and I've been keeping it to myself and everyday I get more nervous to the point when I think about it I can feel like my nerves shaking. But I'm worried if I tell him now, he'll say oh stop playing u cant be pregnant, and would think I'm just trying to break him and his girl up or might even say if I am, it's not his. I'm going home tomorrow and my best friend is taking me to a place she knows that gives free tests, so I'll know for sure on Monday, but I really want to tell him now. Like everyone else, I do not understand why you didn't go and get a $10 test. And considering you aren't even late, all the stressing you are doing could actually cause you to miss your period or it being late. So is your period late or isn't it? If the first day of your period isn't due yet a pregnancy test may give you a false negative. Some of the home pregnancy test now say that it can detect a pregnancy as early as four days before the first day of your period is due. But this really depends on how much of the pregnancy hormone (can't remember the name now) is present in the urine. Some women have extremely low levels of this hormone early on, even if their pregnancy is normal and healthy. If you do decide to do the home pregnancy test, don't buy it and run right home and use it. Put it in your bathroom and then test your first morning urine as this is when your urine will have the highest concentration of the hormone. And on the topic of home pregnancy tests I just remembered the first one I ever used over 20 years ago. Now the home tests are amazing! You just pee on the stick and wait a few minutes to get your answer but you should have seen the first tests! OMG!! The first one I ever bought was in a box that contained an eye dropper, a test tube, a wooden stand, and two vials of some sort of chemicals. You absolutely had to wait until you were at least 2 weeks late before you tested. If you were certain you were that late, then you could take the test. It involved putting percise and measured amounts of urine and chemicals into the test tube. Then you had to cork the test tube and turn it over an exact number of times. Once you had carried out these instructions to the letter you then had to prop the test tube up on it's little stand and wait 2 full days for the results!! At that time you had to carefully look at the bottom of the tube to see if a little faint ring appeared. If there was a ring you were pregnant. I saw the ring and I was, in fact, pregnant! So the test actually worked if you did it right, but I felt like a mad scientist actually doing it...lol. OMG Alexandria, you brought back bit time memories for me when I got PG with my son. It was like a science experiment doing a home test! Today, it could not be easier! I know I was stupid not to use protection. I thought about it when I was getting undressed, but I did't say anything for reasons I should've said something. I'm sure I'm not the only one he's messing with. He's never actually told me about anybody else that he's slept with, but I know about webcam stuff he does. I'm not gonna tell him until I know for sure there's something to tell him. I wanna know so bad now I think I just might suck it up and pay the ridiculous prices here today. So you didn't use protection with a guy who has a g/f and is a known player? Do you just not care about YOUR body? Do you think he is going to give a crap if you get an STD? For heaven's sake, have some respect for yourself and do not have unprotected sex! Pregnancy is one thing, which can be terminated or whatever; an STD can kill you!!! I guess I'll just never understand why anyone in this day and age would have unprotected sex. Then again I grew up in the day when HIV/AIDS made its big debut, and watching my favorite artist Freddie Mercury die from it, sorta just imprinted into my brain no condom=no sex. ou don't have too. You can't predict what his reaction might be, so I would go with keeping quiet until you have a defintive answer. Good look, and (shaking finger at you), don't ever have unprotected sex again, a baby would be the LEAST of your worries. There is no reason, none, and never let the heat of the moment, or worrying about his response have any influence on your decision to keep your body safe. Also, he has a girlfriend, and I think you know what the implications of that are... ETA. OMG, lostone, I didn't realize that you were the one that posted about the webcam incident. Is this the same man? If so, then you do NOT want to say anything to him, not unless your sure, and then I would seriously consider getting some additional support from anyone that has your best interests at heart, if you are indeed pregnant by him. If this is the same man, you can forget about him being supportive of you, in any way shape or form. In fact, telling him just may be to your detriment if you do not have someone to back you up. Can you talk to your mom about this? Friends, a family doctor? I will never get why people have sex on camera - especially when they aren't even committed to each other. I have no sympathy for women who end up being on the internet doing the deed with someone. And in today's world, employers can easily find this stuff and any job you try to get you will not get because of this. What the hell is matter with women these days???????? Where in the self respect? Why do they think some dude recording them having sex is a good idea???
whichwayisup Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I know I was stupid not to use protection. I thought about it when I was getting undressed, but I did't say anything for reasons I should've said something. I'm sure I'm not the only one he's messing with. You should also get tested for STD's, just incase. This guy has slept around on his girlfriend, you're not the only one, so IF there is a next time with this guy, USE protection! Though, I don't know why you'd want a guy who has a girlfriend and is known cheater..
Author L0stOne Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 ETA. OMG, lostone, I didn't realize that you were the one that posted about the webcam incident. Is this the same man? If so, then you do NOT want to say anything to him, not unless your sure, and then I would seriously consider getting some additional support from anyone that has your best interests at heart, if you are indeed pregnant by him. If this is the same man, you can forget about him being supportive of you, in any way shape or form. In fact, telling him just may be to your detriment if you do not have someone to back you up. Can you talk to your mom about this? Friends, a family doctor? Yea he was the one, but I think I'm good I was out to eat with a friend and after dinner I was going to go to rite aid and get a test, but before we left I went to the restroom & my period was starting I'm so relieved. I was so mad at myself thinking not even two months of graduating college and I f***** up everything. If I was he probably would've said I can't have it which I was leaning to that choice anyway though I always said I'd never do that, but I said the same thing about web cams before that day. I don't even know if I'm gonna tell him that I'm coming back here next month. I think I'm just gonna try to work it out with my ex boyfriend, and my friend can stay with his girl. Plus having to walk from his car to his apartment like I didn't know him wasn't cool.
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