saint666 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Hi everyone. I'm currently with this girl for almost two years now. A few months ago, she suddenly broke up with me, saying that she feels like she doesn't love me anymore. I think this was partly because we spent 3months apart while I was doing an overseas internship. However, we managed to save our relationship and now we're back together again. But ever since the break up, I've been feeling really insecure. I keep thinking that she broke up with me cause she found someone better or she fell for someone else. We tried to talk about this paranoia of mine a couple of times, but now whenever I try to talk about it she would get pissed and says it's my problem, and she's tired of explaining anymore. I don't want to ruin this beautiful relationship but I just can't stop myself from thinking about the possibilities of her cheating on me. Like a couple of nights ago, this guy that she used to really like posted on her facebook wall, asking when is she coming back to her home city so they could meet up. After seeing that post, she immediately sms him and asked him to download whatsapp so they could chat. Do I have anything to worry about? Considering that in the past, after getting together with me, they were still exchanging emails talking about how close they came to becoming an item. Thanks in advance. This is really driving me crazy.=(
Kari Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Do you trust her? Without trust, there is no relationship. If you trust that she wouldn't cheat on you and that she is happy then there is no need to feel insecure. If she has reassured you countless times, then it's normal to become annoyed by the subject. However, if she hasn't given you reassurance and is just being defensive then it is a red flag. If you feel that her feelings as else where, perhaps it's best to move on. If your gut is telling you that she is sneaking, it may just be right. Follow your instincts. Hope things turn up for you.
Chi townD Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 The only problem I have is that she contacted him and told him to download a certain app so they could talk privately. That's kind of a red flag for me.
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