Superfish Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I got dumped by the man I love. I've posted my story here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t277878/ I am having such a horrible time dealing with it. Or should I say not dealing with it. I can't help but to think that in time he will come around and realise he loves me and wants to be with me. We had such a great time together even though we had our problems. The problems are fixable, so I just can't let him go! I have no desire to live without him. My life is meaningless and nothing is enjoyable. I have nothing to look forward to. I am so utterly lonely. I talk to my friends, but there's only so much they can do. I'm just lost. I don't want to be around anymore. I don't want to die, but I don't want to live either. I asked him to stay away from here for a few weeks so that I don't have to see him every day and can focus on myself. He agreed. But I miss him so intensely. I miss everything. I can't bare the thought that he actually doesn't want to hold me close anymore. That is all I want. I want to be near him. I need it so badly. I don't know what to do with myself.
Fufu Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I got dumped by the man I love. I've posted my story here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t277878/ I am having such a horrible time dealing with it. Or should I say not dealing with it. I can't help but to think that in time he will come around and realise he loves me and wants to be with me. We had such a great time together even though we had our problems. The problems are fixable, so I just can't let him go! I have no desire to live without him. My life is meaningless and nothing is enjoyable. I have nothing to look forward to. I am so utterly lonely. I talk to my friends, but there's only so much they can do. I'm just lost. I don't want to be around anymore. I don't want to die, but I don't want to live either. I asked him to stay away from here for a few weeks so that I don't have to see him every day and can focus on myself. He agreed. But I miss him so intensely. I miss everything. I can't bare the thought that he actually doesn't want to hold me close anymore. That is all I want. I want to be near him. I need it so badly. I don't know what to do with myself. I got dumped by my ex whom I really truly loved. However, he dumped me even when we had bought engagement rings to get engaged end of this year. The problems with my previous relationship are fixable too. Sadly and the most hurting truth, a relationship will not last if one partner chooses to walk out and refuse to work issues out. Conclusion: He doesn't want to be with me and no point and no use for me to push/force/assume that he stills want me back. Being lonely is better than being in a relationship unhappily or with a person who doesn't want to be committed to you. Whether he will come back or not, no one knows, even for himself. The best thing you can do to yourself is to continue encouraging yourself to move on and forward with your life. Never wait around for a person, never break up with yourself when someone chooses to leave you. If you are still not feeling good, don't be too hard on yourself. Perhaps, you can think of other ways of how you can help yourself to move on and away from the break up effect. Break up hurts, but the good thing is they don't hurt that LONG if we start doing the right and best things/actions for ourselves.
chloe56 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Great advice from fufu. I can only tell you from personal experience that, accepting it is over is the hardest part, unfortunately we have to and we have to respect others wishes too. Lots of hugs, and wishing you the very best. You are strong and you WILL be fine.
Author Superfish Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Thank you so much for your words, they help! The mornings are worst. When I wake up, for a second I feel good. And then I remember he's not here any more. I have a hard time getting up in the mornings, I just want to sleep the pain away. So I try to fall asleep again and dream, but I keep waking up with that painful knot in my stomach. This can go on for several hours. Luckily I have a friend visiting these days, and she helps me get up and get moving right away. Right now my ex is in another city. I asked him to stay away for a while, which he was happy to do to make me feel better. And it does help. But sooner or later he will have to come back and I will see him every day again. Can't be avoided, we study at such a small place. And during the summer we will be working at the same small office... I dread it. I fear I will fall back into the sorrow and pain I felt a few weeks ago when it was at its worst. I know I have to be strong and put on a happy face, but it will be so hard. I like him so much too. Can't be angry with him. It's not his fault he lost his feelings for me.
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