sarah1221 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I fell pregnant in 2007 and my partner at the time left the country and was not involved in the pregancy at all he did not know if i indeed carried on with the pregnancy or not! I tried to contact him late in my pregnancy as there were complications with the pregnancy but i could not get hold of him he didnt want me contacting him. ( the relationship consisted of domestic violence and he was charged for common assult) nearly 4 years on my mental health took a downward spirial and i needed to be admitted into hospital as i needed a change in medication this however opened a major can of worms and social services refused to give me my child back until they had done assesments etc.... this matter went to court as social serivces wanted an intrum care order which they got, because it has gone to court against my wishes social services have gone out of there way to contact my daughters father in another country to which he has responded too. he wants full custody of my daughter and to be involved with everything even though he still isnt in the country his family are living in the UK though not far from where i live. social services are still doing there assesements on me but i hope for a rehabilitation early in september. how can i prevent this man from becoming involved im scared he will take her, we met in a pysciatric hosptial i was his patient he lost his job when the hospital found out which ment he could not afford his rent so he moved in with me thats when he started beating me. i am so scared i dont know what to do any advice will be much appreciated thanks
mopar crazy Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I don't mean to be harsh but at this point, I don't think your child will benefit from being w/ either one of you. You need to get your life back in order in to be able to take care of your child. You are not able to at this point in your life until you get the full help and recovery that you need. It's great that you are taking that step. As for bio-dad, he doesn't deserve custody either. He wasn't part of your pregnancy, birth, nothing until this happens? And NOW he wants to step up and be a father? I call bull****! Is there anyway your child can be ward of the State and be placed in a temporary Foster Home until you can get your life back in order? You should be able to get supervised visitations. I don't have much more advice for you other than I'm sorry this is going on. We all run through rough patches in our lives and I'm proud of you to know that you need the help. GL!
Author sarah1221 Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 my daughter is in a foster home right now and will continue to be so until i have more assesments a parenting assesment etc this will all be compleated in september when they will make the final decsion if she can be returned to my care or not, I agree i am not perfect and i am willing to take any help on offer and work with those who are involved. I beleive her father is only using this matter as a way to get back into the UK the problem is its just bad timing and i dont know if there is anything i can do to stop him.
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