AvianChaos Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 My ex dumped me 2 years ago, we have both had other relationships since then, and I have grown immensely as a person. She asked me out to lunch on my birthday last year in a text and i told her that it wasnt a good time (out of respect for my then-girlfriend). I have had some time to heal since my more recent break-up and she's asked me to lunch again. This time i said yes. We were very much in love; and it was a wonderful, long relationship. She is, however, significantly younger than I am and i think that was a major factor in our relationships demise. I've had a lot of time to heal from the devastation, but i still think of her a lot. And now, I can't stop thinking about her with our impending date just one day away. I am not sure if i would want to enter another relationship with her, and I'm not sure if that's what she wants either. I suppose I just have to feel out the situation tomorrow. Honestly, I want to offer her friendship, but i dont want to kill any chance of a new relationship either; I just think what we had was very valuable and its a shame to hide from each other forever. Is offering friendship pathetic? will she lose her attraction and respect for me?
anne1707 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 From reading your past posts, it obviously hit you hard when you both broke up. Will it re-open old wounds to see her again? Also, are you sure she wants to rekindle your relationship - maybe she just wants to be friends too. You can't really be sure unless she has actually said this. One thing you said sounds odd to me - if you want to offer her only friendship, why would you be worried that she may lose her attraction for you? Surely that would be a good thing unless you were actually still interested in more than just being friends.
Author AvianChaos Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 From reading your past posts, it obviously hit you hard when you both broke up. Will it re-open old wounds to see her again? Also, are you sure she wants to rekindle your relationship - maybe she just wants to be friends too. You can't really be sure unless she has actually said this. One thing you said sounds odd to me - if you want to offer her only friendship, why would you be worried that she may lose her attraction for you? Surely that would be a good thing unless you were actually still interested in more than just being friends. No, it wouldn't open up old wounds. I have seen her recently a few times, but we've never really talked since the break up. I guess what I'm really asking is: if i want there to be some hope for us to reunite in the future, should i avoid any sort of "friendship"? Maybe not now, but at some point i really think we could be happy together.
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