brokendreamz Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Hi I'm 34 and recently single. Although I am still devastated about the break up, my mates have been dragging me into town for a few nights out and I have attracted alot of attention from 19/20 year old students. Thing is - I don't feel comfortable doing anything other than talking with them, one gave me her number and basically demanded that I go on a date with her but being 15 years older just seems wrong!! My mates reckon I should fill my boots! But I'm honestly not sure. What do you think? Help!!
Ginger Beer Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 It does seem a bit dodgy, but it's legal and they're consenting so... Just make sure you're honest about what you're looking for. If you care what other people think then it's probably best you don't do anything. Personally, I wouldn't go for a relationship or anything other than a ONS in your situation, but I don't do ONS' so I wouldn't do anything. Well done on getting attention from teenagers at your age though.
sagetalk Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I think you already know the answer. It's a bad idea.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I don't see anything wrong with that age difference.
collegeguy_24 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Personally, I am against because of the age difference. But what is important as well is doing what you feel is comfortable. Obviously you don't feel comfortable doing it, so don't do it just because your friends want you to.
musemaj11 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 A lot of young women with daddy issues out there. Take advantage of it.
sanskrit Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 It's a fine idea, go for it. Consider not foreclosing opportunities if you are ready, on age alone lower or higher. Read on this board and you will find people posting very few dating and relationship problems relating to age alone. Evaluate them on how you get along and how they treat you.
fishtaco Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 It's legal. But young girls tend to be extremely flaky. And chances are, you won't find a match for LTR with someone that young. Possible, but unlikely. The relationship most likely will be lopsided and temporary. But it's legal. Why not. Men in their early to mid 30's is in the golden age. You still have enough youth left, plus men in their 20's most likely can't match your financial stability. You actually have an advantage over your competitors in their 20's. I say have fun, but be careful. Don't assume just because they're young, they're innocent and naive. The bad apples start young. Add a healthy dose of not fully understanding the consequences of their actions, your eyes should be kept wide open.
Fondue Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 As long as it's legal, go for it. I wouldn't expect a relationship with these women, but why not have some naked fun with 'em? Honestly, I'd say go for it .
singlelife Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Totally do it. They don't want a relationship they want to have fun with a grown ass man.They will move on. So don't feel bad.
Author brokendreamz Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 thanks all! Went out again last night and... Got chatted up again!! Can't believe it :0) Think I'm going to take advantage of this situation - life's too short! I'll be sure to let them know it's nothing serious and see what happens from there!
Flgirl44 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Take heed of what the other poster said about just because they are young doesn't mean they are innocent. My ex dated younger girls 19-20 when we broke up because he thought they would be more "pure" and "clean" then older women. Only to find out the 19 yr old he was with had been with well over 25 people and gave him a weird rash.
smudge21 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Age is just a number, aslong as things are legal, then why not. The thing I mainly would be concerned with is maturity and how well you get on with that person. I'm similar age yet I have a lot of friends, male and female ranging from 18 upwards. One girl from that group, 21, and I get along so well everyone always says we should date (she's already with someone). We just seem to connect - she is very mature for her age and I'm a typical guy (we never act our age do we). I'm thinking we meet somewhere in the middle at around mid to late twenties on a mental level. If things were different, she'd be the perfect girlfriend. However, that said, there is another girl who's 22 and she acts way younger. We get along okay, but there's no way I could ever date her. If you find someone you like and get along with, then don't let age get in the way. You're as old as you feel, and that is so true.
Flgirl44 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 My point is, that girls that young are usually only interested in having sex with older men. And you have to wonder how many times they've been around that block. STD's are most prevalent in that age range. Another thing too is say you meet someone closer to your age that you would consider a relationship with and she finds out your most recent dating history is a bunch of 19-21 year olds.....that would be a little bit of a red flag for me. I would definitely live it up while you can but be aware of certain consequences (as with anything).
Ross MwcFan Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 It's legal and they're conscenting adults. Go for it.
NoMagicBullet Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Hi I'm 34 and recently single. Although I am still devastated about the break up, my mates have been dragging me into town for a few nights out and I have attracted alot of attention from 19/20 year old students. Thing is - I don't feel comfortable doing anything other than talking with them, one gave me her number and basically demanded that I go on a date with her but being 15 years older just seems wrong!! My mates reckon I should fill my boots! But I'm honestly not sure. What do you think? Help!! thanks all! Went out again last night and... Got chatted up again!! Can't believe it :0) Think I'm going to take advantage of this situation - life's too short! I'll be sure to let them know it's nothing serious and see what happens from there! OP, you say you're not comfortable with it, but your friends (and many posting here) think you should go for it. So you are going to. My question is, are you doing this because you really want to, or because others expect it of you? If you aren't comfortable with it, then don't do it. You don't need another reason. An aside: I dated someone significantly older than me once, and he couldn't get past the age difference. He didn't break up with me (I had to dump him), but he regularly brought up the fact that he was older, sometimes subtly, sometimes not. It got old, no pun intended. I mention this because if you really aren't comfortable with the age difference, it will show, and it will ruin the fun for both parties. Also, despite how much sexual experience these girls might have, they are still emotionally young, so be prepared for some drama, regardless.
Author brokendreamz Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 Thanks Magicbullet. I will be making it abundantly clear that I'm not looking for a relationship. The reason I posted was to see if anyone thought it was gross, but no one has said that so I'm going to see where it goes with these girls. I'll probably have no luck now though lol!
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