Daaanz Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 So yesterday we were texting a bit, he always only puts two kisses on the end of texts, whereas when we were together he used to put quite a few like 6/7. So yeah we were texting and I suddenly got this text with like 7 kisses and I was a bit like wtf? I said what'd you do that for and he was like I got a bit carried away. However, when he was with me he always used to accidently put loads of kisses to his friends cause he was in a habit of always doing so many. So I started wondering, maybe he's in a habit of doing so many to another girl now, like I asked him on the phone later and he said he was just in a good mood and there was no one else, but I don't think he would tell me if there was. I don't see why he'd just randomly send me so many though.Sorry this sounds a little crazy but :/ I'd rather just have the truth from him. Thing is, we have a holiday booked for June, if he has a new girlfriend she's hardly going to be happy with him going away with an ex. We've only been broken up two weeks after a 2 year relationship... He said eventually he wants to be with me again and hes ready to try again after exams, which would be the day we're going on holiday, but I have a feeling he's just messing me around? What do you guys think?
Author Daaanz Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t277983/ background to what's happened...
rayne05us Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 He's stringing you along....he's not ready now, but he'll be ready after exams?! That doesn't make a lick of sense. I mean, if you still have major feelings for him (which it clearly sounds like you do) then you too can't be real friends right now. He has you right where he wants you...on a string. May I ask if you two broke up, why you're still going on vacation?
Author Daaanz Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Basically cause the vacation cost a lot of money, and I can't really afford to lose the amount of money that I would if I cancelled it... Thats the main thing thats confusing the situation at the moment, if I didn't have to go i'd call a NC.
rayne05us Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Well you have until june to have no contact with him so take advantage of that. Trust me, by the time you do go on that trip, you may somewhat have your head together...Give him a little mystery and let him wonder what you're up to until then. If for some reason he contacts you, keep it brief and neutral....don't express feeling about what happened etc...keep it light ya know?
confused1989 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 So there's no way possible to cancel the trip? It might have cost a lot of money but I'm sure you can get a refund for whatever it is you had planned or credit or something. If you guys are broke up I really don't think it's a good idea. For me, things went stale in February and we had a trip planned for April that we booked over the Christmas holidays. Well even after we broke up we still planned to go together on the trip initially. The only reason I wanted to go was because I was holding on to hope that things would work out. I later realized that was a stupid mindset to be in, and although I was not happy that she ended up going on the trip without me I still feel like I'm a stronger person because of it. Try and see if there's some way you can not go. He's choosing not to be with you right now, it's not fair to you that he gets to choose when to pause and restart the relationship and keep you wondering. I just think it's going to be very difficult to go NC with him for the next few weeks and then go on a vacation together. A lot could happen between now and then.
rayne05us Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I agree with confused. The money you lose would be so worth showing him you don't need to be with him and it will actually make you feel more in control of your life/emotions. I know it doesn't seem like it , but trust me...it would definitely help you in the long run.
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