Timmeh Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I doubt loveshack has ever seen a problem this bizzare as the one I'm having. It's definitely not your run in the mill relationship problem, yet it keeps happening to me. I can't make it stop, and it always happens on important days such as valentines day, her birthday, or when I plan something special for her. The problem I have is vomitting on that special occasion.... Everytime without fail I have succesfully found a way to make myself sick and vomitt on a special occasion I've planned for my SO. Before I started dating her I hadn't vomitted for 3 years, something about her just drives my stomache wild! It started out from the get go on our first date. We took a trip to an island (try getting away from this date) and we ate lunch, saw a movie, etc. At the end of the date I felt sick and... ended up bent over a trash can vomitting my guts out. Luckily we were friends first so I didn't get dumped right on the spot! The second time was on Valentines day. We went to a sushi restaurant and I ended up vomitting violently afterwards at her house. The third time was something nice I planned for her. I took a lot of time and care planning this outing and at the end of it... well I threw up. Four days ago was her birthday, I had dinner with her family and her at a nice restauraunt. I was feeling a tad bit full but nothing I've never felt before. We went back to her home and watched a movie. When I was heading out the door and that all too familar feeling came on.... On her pourch I had the most violently intense vomitting session. The contents of my stomache started pouring out of my mouth, it was as if I somehow conjured up the waters of muddy missippi from my stomache. The sheer volume and content was astounding and at the end of it my eyes felt like they were going to pop out of my head. Tears were flowing down my eyes, and I couldn't see very well. This all happened right infront of my poor girlfriend. I feel really bad... everytime it has been in front of her on an important occasion. I feel especially bad since it was supposed to be a special event for her. It's getting to the point where it's hilarious, yet it's very sad at the same time. Does anyone have tips to help me avoid this in the future......
Mr.Raindrop Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Try to avoid eating when you go on a date with her?
Author Timmeh Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Try to avoid eating when you go on a date with her? We both love food though! We enjoy eating meals with each other.
Mr.Raindrop Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Hmmm, do you only vomit while you're on a date with her? Or does it happen every time you eat?
Author Timmeh Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Hmmm, do you only vomit while you're on a date with her? Or does it happen every time you eat? Only when im with her on special occasions.
Mr.Raindrop Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Only when im with her on special occasions. Have you tried taking something for your nerves before you go on a date?
Jazzari Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Are you Stan from South Park? Sounds like a Mind Body Connection problem. Basically, your mind doesn't want to acknowledge something or perhaps repressed memories are rising to the surface. Your subconscious mind wants to avoid thinking about whatever it is to such an extent that it causes you to experience some physical symptom. In your case, vomiting. You are distracted by the physical and so the thought doesn't happen.
ladyinlimbo Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 (edited) I doubt loveshack has ever seen a problem this bizzare as the one I'm having. It's definitely not your run in the mill relationship problem, yet it keeps happening to me. I can't make it stop, and it always happens on important days such as valentines day, her birthday, or when I plan something special for her. The problem I have is vomitting on that special occasion.... Everytime without fail I have succesfully found a way to make myself sick and vomitt on a special occasion I've planned for my SO. Before I started dating her I hadn't vomitted for 3 years, something about her just drives my stomache wild! It started out from the get go on our first date. We took a trip to an island (try getting away from this date) and we ate lunch, saw a movie, etc. At the end of the date I felt sick and... ended up bent over a trash can vomitting my guts out. Luckily we were friends first so I didn't get dumped right on the spot! The second time was on Valentines day. We went to a sushi restaurant and I ended up vomitting violently afterwards at her house. The third time was something nice I planned for her. I took a lot of time and care planning this outing and at the end of it... well I threw up. Four days ago was her birthday, I had dinner with her family and her at a nice restauraunt. I was feeling a tad bit full but nothing I've never felt before. We went back to her home and watched a movie. When I was heading out the door and that all too familar feeling came on.... On her pourch I had the most violently intense vomitting session. The contents of my stomache started pouring out of my mouth, it was as if I somehow conjured up the waters of muddy missippi from my stomache. The sheer volume and content was astounding and at the end of it my eyes felt like they were going to pop out of my head. Tears were flowing down my eyes, and I couldn't see very well. This all happened right infront of my poor girlfriend. I feel really bad... everytime it has been in front of her on an important occasion. I feel especially bad since it was supposed to be a special event for her. It's getting to the point where it's hilarious, yet it's very sad at the same time. Does anyone have tips to help me avoid this in the future...... Have you considered that you possibly have some kind of food allergy? Do you have any known allergies? Do people in your family? (it's usually hereditary but not always). Looking back over these 4 occasions, can you think of anything in particular that you ate that might be similar? eg) seafood (a lot of people have or develop shellfish allergies....you'd mentioned eating sushi and some sushi contains shrimp, so just wondering....). Sounds like each of these times it involved eating. Common food allergens: nuts, strawberries, certain food dyes, dairy, shellfish....but can really be anything. Can you remember what you ate for the other 3 occasions (as we know sushi was one of them)? Do you get yourself so stressed out that your stomach gets upset as a result? What age are you? Have you considered, seriously, talking to your doctor about this? You really should. Edited May 15, 2011 by ladyinlimbo
Kamille Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Do those occasions make you nervous? How long have you been together? Alternatively, are there any other substances involved that could make you sick?
rayne05us Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Do you have like a bad memory of a special occasion that makes you have anxiety and vomiting??
little.skittles Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 She probably thinks you have an eating disorder and that your not very good at covering it up. I would suggest taking a ginger supplement. People do this before going on roller coaster rides to keep from getting sick afterwards.
ladyinlimbo Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Tried to add this into my response above but it won't let me edit it now so here it is: Have you considered, seriously, talking to your doctor about this? You really should. To rule out any kind of underlying health issue.....eg) major build-up of stomach acid due to stress and that irritates lining of stomach so profounding that you toss your cookies. Or the food allergy thing. My cousins are plagued with various severe food allergies; they get this from their Dad. One of them, she was fine for years until about age 7 when she would vomit violently after eating. Took some investigation but it was found that she'd developed an anaphylactic reaction/allergy to tree nuts. Prior to that she'd been fine. Because her brother had various food allergies (eggs, dairy, shellfish) though was born with these, she started to wonder if the girl had maybe developed some kind of allergy...and sure enough she was tested by an allergist and tree nut allergy confirmed. The times she threw up, she hadn't actually eaten tree nuts but had eaten foods that contained traces of them which is why she didn't have the typical anaphylactic reaction (throat swelling up which is of course an immediate medical emergency). Now she just carries an Epi-Pen but is careful to read all labels and will not eat anything unless there's an assurance on the label that there is no traces of nuts and that whatever it is was manufactured in a nut free facility.
spiderowl Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Could be stress and excitement making your stomach more dodgy than usual, but perhaps you are eating in cafes and restaurants on these occasions and you have a food intolerance or allergy? The best thing might be to take food with you and stick to what you have made and know is OK for you. If that works out OK, see if you can get tested for allergies. Good luck!
TuffCookieX Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 (edited) Are you Stan from South Park? Before I even opened this post, I saw the username "Timmeh" and thought to myself "TIMMEH!!!!" that kid in the wheelchair. Then I read the post, thought of Stan and Wendy. You beat me to it. As for OP, def go see a doctor. Anti-anxiety pills before a hot date for your girl will calm your stomach! Edited May 15, 2011 by TuffCookieX spelling
Author Timmeh Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Before I even opened this post, I saw the username "Timmeh" and thought to myself "TIMMEH!!!!" that kid in the wheelchair. Then I read the post, thought of Stan and Wendy. You beat me to it. As for OP, def go see a doctor. Anti-anxiety pills before a hot date for your girl will calm your stomach! That's funny because I couldn't decide what to name myself and TIMMEH! flashed in my head. Well... as far as anxiety I did feel it on my first date. On Valentines day and her birthday I felt stressed out planning something special initially but on the day of the event when the planning was finished I didn't feel nervous/anxious at all. As far as shellfish go... I'm not alergic but I hate all kinds of shellfish. I never eat them, and I always ask if there is shellfish inside the dish. I don't have any known food alergies or any known foods that make me physically sick.
Author Timmeh Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Sounds like a Mind Body Connection problem. Basically, your mind doesn't want to acknowledge something or perhaps repressed memories are rising to the surface. Your subconscious mind wants to avoid thinking about whatever it is to such an extent that it causes you to experience some physical symptom. In your case, vomiting. You are distracted by the physical and so the thought doesn't happen. Eh repressed memories are actually a rarity I don't think I have any of those.
Mr.Raindrop Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I really doubt it as well. Even if you did, your mind wouldn't be aware of it anyways to where it could make you physically sick enough to vomit. It's more than likely your nerves, try taking something for that before your next date and see how it goes then?
Author Timmeh Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 I really doubt it as well. Even if you did, your mind wouldn't be aware of it anyways to where it could make you physically sick enough to vomit. It's more than likely your nerves, try taking something for that before your next date and see how it goes then? What are some good things to take? Oh and FYI I've known her for a year and have been going out for 6 months.
Mr.Raindrop Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Green tea always does wonders to calm my nerves and relax me, you could try drinking some of that.
Ginger Beer Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I can relate to this, with the girl I love, I always had my stomach in knots and could never stomach food. Usually I eat 6 or 7 times a day, but it was around 4 when we were together, it was always smaller meals too. I lost a lot of motivation at the time as well, sleep was affected too. I was sick once and nearly sick another time so I know how the OP feels.
skydiveaddict Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 What are some good things to take? Oh and FYI I've known her for a year and have been going out for 6 months. See if your doc will prescribe you some ativan or something similar to help you feel more calm.
ladyinlimbo Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 See if your doc will prescribe you some ativan or something similar to help you feel more calm. Not trying to diss your advice but a young guy really should try to figure out other methods for dealing with stress and anxiety in dating, other than addictive medications like benzodiapepines, which Ativan is (in the same family as Valium). Very very easy to get addicted to these meds. Should only ever be used as a last resort..........and when all other methods for reducing anxiety and stress have been tried. And frankly, any doctor who would prescribe a young man an addictive med like Ativan for occasional dating stress/anxiety is a real tool. Would be much better to talk to a therapist or counsellor........learn some techniques for anxiety control.
TuffCookieX Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Regardless of pills he should or shouldn't take, it sounds like we have all come to the conclusion that Timmeh should go seek professional help. So there is our advice for you. Even if you didn't feel nervous or stressed in your head, your stomach could have been boiling a lot of fear in the beginning and you had to relieve it by the end. I would love to hear what your doc says about this condition.
Jazzari Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Eh repressed memories are actually a rarity I don't think I have any of those. I really doubt it as well. Even if you did, your mind wouldn't be aware of it anyways to where it could make you physically sick enough to vomit. It's more than likely your nerves, try taking something for that before your next date and see how it goes then? That's not how it works at all. And repressed emotions and thoughts are extremely common. I'm not talking about some huge childhood trauma. There are lots of things that people don't like to think about. If you care, here's a quick test that can help you find out if it applies to you. The test is geared to those with back pain but it still is useful: http://www.mindbodymedicine.com/q.html
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