Lilmisus Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Tonight, I was the happiest at work that I've been in a long while, and everyone could tell. I was also trying extremely hard like always to ignore my ex and his girlfriend at work. It was hard, but I tried and for the most part succeeded. But I cashier at my job mainly, and at the end of the night I was taking care of some servers. I'm supposed to take care of customers first, servers second, and others third. So, when she came up to get some food, I flat out ignored her. Not only did I not want to see her face, but I was busy. After a few minutes of waiting and looking at me she said in a snippy and annoyed voice "I want to pay to eat!" which pissed me extremely off and I did the very immature thing and just snatched the money out of her hand and roll my eyes without looking at her..which I'm sure pissed her off even more. When I got done with getting her change, I basically dropped it on the counter right in front of me (not right in front of her) and went to do and talk to a couple of others who were asking me something. She just looked at me with a pissed off expression and her mouth open for a minute, finally grabbed her money, and tried to piss me off even more by standing there to talk to someone about nothing at all. Then she apparently went to complain to my manager about me..thankfully I didn't get in trouble. But I thought after that that I wouldn't have to see her again...but apparently I was wrong. My ex was still on the clock and I knew it, but I figured that she would probably get a ride with her cousin who was also still there. But after he got off the clock, he went to go get her from the opposite side of the restaurant where he typically leaves from, then they went around to where I was (together) and he stood right next to me and started talking to my manager..with her behind him, looking at me. When I saw them together it was an incredible blow to me. I was extremely happy all day today but at that moment it felt like I was going to fall apart and I just couldn't even look at either of them. My coworkers could tell how upset I was and couldn't believe that they'd do that and said that it was a horrible move for them to make. Up until that point, they've been kind enough to not flaunt their relationship in front of me or make me see them together. When they left, they said goodnight to everyone, and I saw her looking and smiling at me and laughing with him. I doubt he was laughing too since he isn't that type of person, but he was probably saying "I don't give a sh*t, she deserved it." I'm just wondering. I know I was a b*tch to her, but did I really deserve them to do that to me? I thought it was an extremely low blow to make, and I know that they knew how much it would hurt. Thankfully though I put my two weeks in tonight (before all of that) and so I wont work there anymore.
Fedor Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Wouldnt say you deserved that but you should have kept your composure when you took her money.
WillSingForFood Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 It sounds like shes an absolute bitch and that he deserves someone like that since he seems like a bastard. If she can just stand there and smile at you while youre hurting like that, then she deserves what karma she has coming her way when he f***s her over later on. I wouldnt say that you deserved that at all. You handled the situation poorly and immaturely though, but I can understand why you did. Next time, even if it hurts, smile at her and be the biggest fake bitch you can be. See if shell report you to a manager then
Author Lilmisus Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Yeah I definitely did behave poorly. Could have handled it so much better than I did. But when I get pissed..watch out. Especially if I can't stand you..it makes for a horrible combination..last night is just a small example. But regardless, it's hard not to wonder "What did I do to deserve this?" Whether it's about last night, how he treated me like sh*t, or how they lied to me for weeks..I just can't help but think to myself that I shouldn't be treated like this. I loved him, he knew that, and it feels sometimes that he's just abusing what power I foolishly gave him (and her) over me, on purpose. Last night just reopened that wound that I've been trying to heal. God, I can't wait to leave that place, I really can't.
yolatanga Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Yeah I definitely did behave poorly. Could have handled it so much better than I did. But when I get pissed..watch out. Especially if I can't stand you..it makes for a horrible combination..last night is just a small example. But regardless, it's hard not to wonder "What did I do to deserve this?" Whether it's about last night, how he treated me like sh*t, or how they lied to me for weeks..I just can't help but think to myself that I shouldn't be treated like this. I loved him, he knew that, and it feels sometimes that he's just abusing what power I foolishly gave him (and her) over me, on purpose. Last night just reopened that wound that I've been trying to heal. God, I can't wait to leave that place, I really can't. Don't be so hard on yourself. After an 8 yr break up and 7 mos later I confronted a girl my ex was talking out me to while we were at the same place and told her "run from this violent abusive p**ck" and I walked out. I felt like I had lowered myself too. I got him back last night by walking in with a guy and my ex (who was alone) couldn't handle it and walked out right after he ordered a drink. Guess he couldn't deal. It felt good, but today I woke up in pain again.
Delilah5 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Yeah I definitely did behave poorly. Could have handled it so much better than I did. But when I get pissed..watch out. Especially if I can't stand you..it makes for a horrible combination..last night is just a small example. But regardless, it's hard not to wonder "What did I do to deserve this?" Whether it's about last night, how he treated me like sh*t, or how they lied to me for weeks..I just can't help but think to myself that I shouldn't be treated like this. I loved him, he knew that, and it feels sometimes that he's just abusing what power I foolishly gave him (and her) over me, on purpose. Last night just reopened that wound that I've been trying to heal. God, I can't wait to leave that place, I really can't. Girl, as far as I'm concerned you did a lot better than I would have. I would have lost my job that night! I would have knocked that Cheshire Cat into next week and spit in his face. But then they would have really known how bad it had made me feel. You did good. He doesn't deserve you and I hope they both suffer the way you are some day and I'm fairly certain they will. What goes around and all that. Good Luck, sweetie. You will probably find a man that will adore you and treat you right. Good Luck, sweetie. Be happy. You deserve it.
Author Lilmisus Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Thanks y'all It's nice to hear that I didn't go too overboard last night with her. I'm just thankful I bit my tongue, even though it was incredibly hard to do..if I hadn't, I would have definitely gotten fired with no chance to come back. As of now..they are giving me the option to come back after the summer, and I don't want to lose that option over someone so insignificant. Don't be so hard on yourself. After an 8 yr break up and 7 mos later I confronted a girl my ex was talking out me to while we were at the same place and told her "run from this violent abusive p**ck" and I walked out. I felt like I had lowered myself too. I got him back last night by walking in with a guy and my ex (who was alone) couldn't handle it and walked out right after he ordered a drink. Guess he couldn't deal. It felt good, but today I woke up in pain again. I actually was considering doing that. Ya know, "warning her" and telling her to run away from him. I talked to a friend about it and I told her that that would probably be the kindest thing to do for her, to tell her exactly what I know he'll put her through (what he put me and other ex's through) and tell her to not waste her time on him. But I also realized that that's the incredibly selfish b*tch thing to do, so I've done the second best thing and ignored her existence. Part of me still wants to tell her all the horror stories I have from our relationship though..I wonder what they'll think of me then
yolatanga Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Well don't do what I did. My ex is so sore with me now and he's trying to relaliate. It makes him look just as bad so I don't give a darn. He's doing me a favor by proving what a ugly man he his inside and out. I feel empowered today. I let him know if he wants a fight. I'm ready.
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