bentnotbroken Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Come on lol, it happens all the time on here and not very subtley either I think you made a vaild point LilyBart. You seem really happy too She seems really something.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 She seems really something. I would like some of that stuff that makes all the rainbows and colorful little ponies fly on their gossamer wings about my aching head about now ... can somebody fix me up?
bentnotbroken Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 I would like some of that stuff that makes all the rainbows and colorful little ponies fly on their gossamer wings about my aching head about now ... can somebody fix me up? When you find it...I want some too.
Mimolicious Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Yes, really. Explain to me how it's a NEGATIVE to point out that true love prevails? How it's a NEGATIVE to remind OW who might be in the same situation as MizzBlue - that sometimes, no matter what others may say especially on an anonymous internet forum - that IT'S WORTH IT. How it's a NEGATIVE for OW to realize that another woman had walked in their shoes, had travelled on the whole roller coaster ride, had gone through the ups and downs - and had a happy ending? And to realize, hey, this wasn't something that happened really quickly but took some time? I think it's quite POSITIVE actually, to hear stories like this. Because from what I've seen/heard, this is more common than not. Oh without a doubt you had positive nouns, verbs, etc... could have been over-the-top loaded with the celebration of what the post was about without the subjective adjectives. Like naysayers, yapping Debbie Downers and all that good shyte...blah,blah,blah. You know what I mean... ("Happy Endings" makes me think of something really naughty. ) Lay off the pharma-cocktails ladies! (Mme.) LOL!
4321sn Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Congratulations...you have done things the "right" was as much as possible. My former MM and I are together although it took over a year and a half. We are still in the middle of cleaning up our own messes but together and trying to be supportive of one another. We though about stepping away during the process but could not. It is draining when both people a gong through divorces and massive change so it is good that you two took your time
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Yes, really. Explain to me how it's a NEGATIVE to point out that true love prevails? True love prevailing is not a negative. But that expression is quite a well worn cliche, and does not encompass any of the dirty realities of the situations created by cheating. True love, raunchy lust, weakness, sex addiction or revenge ... cheating really is not so pretty and romantical. I daresay, most of us who have engaged in it, for better or for worse, regretful or pleased about it, would agree upon that. And, the term "true love prevails" is not in common usage outside of rancid romance novels. How it's a NEGATIVE for OW to realize that another woman had walked in their shoes, had travelled on the whole roller coaster ride, had gone through the ups and downs - and had a happy ending? Stuff like this is where your credibility starts to seriously slide, for me. "Happy Ending"? Truly, does anyone living in reality who's over 13 actually feature the concept of a "happy ending" with regards to relationships of ANY kind? I mean, what's the "ending"? Aren't relationships continuums? Do you consider it the "happy ending" when the man finally dumps his wife and runs off to marry the mistress in the pounding surf of a beach on Antigua? But then what happens? The OP here does acknowledge that both she and her man have messes to clean up. I imagine that it's hard. There are probably pitfalls and maybe even serious risks to their relationship, since it was born from dishonesty. I hope it does work out for her and that they get through all of that ... but I would not apply the term "Happy Ending." That only works for stories that stop with the application of a huge diamond ring, or a glass slipper, or with a floating walk down a flower-strewn aisle. I think it's quite POSITIVE actually, to hear stories like this. Because from what I've seen/heard, this is more common than not. Whoops. Now you've lost all credibility with me whatsoever. Really? More common than not, affairs have a "happy ending" where the affair partners live ... um ... I can hardly type this: "Happily Ever After"? That, my dear Ms. Bart, is just plain bogus. What's the status of YOUR personal affair? I think you might be a woman who's been involved with a married man for about 10 or 11 years by now, is that correct? When does the happy ending happen?
4321sn Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Yes! We are at the 2 year mark. My divorce is a mess and is still not final. Probably won't be until late fall. He has just started the process. So although we are essentially together now we still have so much to go through. This was not easy. There were many tears, fights, uncertainty and horrible times... It could never have been okay let's just leave our spouses and kids and do this. There were so many things to consider. My boyfriend lied and struggled until I walked away. It was not as simple. If he loves you he will leave. We could never stick to NC. The longest we went was 5 days and it was torture for both of us....we stuck it out...and we are coming out the other side...I little messed up but still hand in hand... Good luck to you
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