little.skittles Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Just out of curiosity, do you guys out there prefer women who put out on the first date or do you like a woman who is more reserved. In the long run would you be more likely to marry a girl that sleeps around a lot and is easy to get in bed or a woman that is less promiscuous and more like a housewife who cooks you meals and watches your kids all day and lets you have that giant dirty nasty dog you always wanted. Not to say that an easy chick wouldn't do the same but basically I'm trying to figure out what a guy is looking for in the long run and what kind of girl he is more likely to marry if any of this even makes sense.
Ginger Beer Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I much prefer ''good girls''. Are there even many of them around these days? Why is it so hard to find virgins over the age of 20?
MrNate Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Just out of curiosity, do you guys out there prefer women who put out on the first date or do you like a woman who is more reserved. In the long run would you be more likely to marry a girl that sleeps around a lot and is easy to get in bed or a woman that is less promiscuous and more like a housewife who cooks you meals and watches your kids all day and lets you have that giant dirty nasty dog you always wanted. Not to say that an easy chick wouldn't do the same but basically I'm trying to figure out what a guy is looking for in the long run and what kind of girl he is more likely to marry if any of this even makes sense. Stop right here. There are so many of us guys out there, who prefer a load of different things. Your safest bet is being true to yourself. That's the only guarantee you can bank on. Let the cards fall where they may.
Rinnix Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 From what I've been reading here, many men don't respect women who sleep with them on the first date. They assume that because she's slept with you so quickly, she must be around a lot. I don't agree that the above is accurate all the time. I would never sleep with anyone on the first date, in fact I don't believe in sleeping with anyone unless I'm exclusive with them, but that's just my take. Being exclusive with them can take up to 3 months too. I don't put judgement on others who choose otherwise. Also, women who are less "promiscuous" don't always desire to be a housewife, and life the suburb life.
Rinnix Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I much prefer ''good girls''. Are there even many of them around these days? Why is it so hard to find virgins over the age of 20? You can find a good girl who isn't a virgin too. Just because a woman has previous experience it shouldn't rule her out for being a good catch.
Author little.skittles Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Stop right here. There are so many of us guys out there, who prefer a load of different things. Your safest bet is being true to yourself. That's the only guarantee you can bank on. Let the cards fall where they may. No I know who I am, I'm just trying to learn how some men honestly feel.
Author little.skittles Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 I much prefer ''good girls''. Are there even many of them around these days? Why is it so hard to find virgins over the age of 20? Haha, they are out there, you just can't see them cause they are hiding in their houses.
MrNate Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 No I know who I am, I'm just trying to learn how some men honestly feel. Ok good. Sometimes people around here take opinions from two people and run with it. lol. In my opinion, honestly, it wouldn't matter. I'm a strategic thinker by nature. But over time I've learned that things like extreme physical attraction, sexual desire, etc. utilize a part of the mind that goes way beyond logic. mmm. So my opinion: It really just depends.
fishtaco Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Makes no difference to me. If the sex was good, then one more check box can be checked. Only when enough check boxes are checked, then I'd consider her for something serious. The order that those checkboxes are checked makes no difference. So a woman that has sex with me the first date, but turn out have the qualities I'm looking for in a woman, I will date her seriously. A woman that "holds back" to be a good girl, but has incompatibilities with me, I may drop her before sex even happens.
Author little.skittles Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 They assume that because she's slept with you so quickly, she must be around a lot. These were my thoughts exactly. I had wondered if a guy would feel turned off if she's had too many sexual partners assuming she chooses to reveal.
MrNate Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 These were my thoughts exactly. I had wondered if a guy would feel turned off if she's had too many sexual partners assuming she chooses to reveal. They say silence is golden for a reason. Just watch what you say to them and then hey, you're golden.
Author little.skittles Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Now if she told you she was virgin, would this make her more interesting?
MrNate Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Now if she told you she was virgin, would this make her more interesting? Why would it? Would her virginity be the thing to make her interesting? If this is the case, then I hope she's ready for one date only. Virgin or not, it's going to take more than that to keep me around.
somedude81 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Having sex on the first date isn't a real good indicator if somebody is promiscuous or not. If I've known a girl for months and for some reason we just haven't dated. If we eventually went on a date and ended up having sex on the first date, I wouldn't think badly of her at all. Though if I just met her and had a date with her a couple of days later, then had sex, that would be a little too fast for me. So the time that I've known her is more important than the number of dates we've had. In the long run, I'd prefer a less promiscuous woman because it seems she'd be more interested in long term stuff instead of quick flings.
Author little.skittles Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Why would it? Would her virginity be the thing to make her interesting? If this is the case, then I hope she's ready for one date only. Virgin or not, it's going to take more than that to keep me around. I'm asking because sometimes it seems like men take a great liking to women who are virgins. I think we know why but again this is for my own curiousity.
MrNate Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I'm asking because sometimes it seems like men take a great liking to women who are virgins. I think we know why but again this is for my own curiousity. Well of course we know why. Yeah but again, it's gonna take more than the status of what's between your legs to keep me (and loads of other men, I'm sure) around.
Sanman Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 If I want to get laid and have fun, then I prefer the one who puts out immediately. If I am looking for a relationship, either is fine as it really is not important. However, I will say that IME those who are impulsive to jump into bed tend to be impulsive about other major decisions. That does not really work for me because even though I may jump into bed with you and can have impulsive fun, I tend to be a planner about major life decisions.
GoodOnPaper Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I would think that doing the opposite of what a particular guy is used to would help maintain his interest. Guys who attract women regularly and can get early-date sex whenever they want might be intrigued by the play-hard-to-get game. As a guy who has always been very BAD at attracting women, I need to be reassured that the woman actually is physically attracted to me -- moving faster rather than slower would be more effective with me.
refurb Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 To be honest, it has little to do with sex. I'm attracted to woman who have their **** together: - don't follow the crowd - have their own sense of "self" and personal values - have goals for the future - aren't impulsive - have a good level of self-awareness - put some thought into their decisions It's just that "easy" girls don't tend to have these qualities. RF
westernxer Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 You can find a good girl who isn't a virgin too. Just because a woman has previous experience it shouldn't rule her out for being a good catch. I think finding a virgin should be the least important item on one's checklist, all things considered.
sagetalk Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I much prefer ''good girls''. Are there even many of them around these days? Why is it so hard to find virgins over the age of 20? You and the rest of the male world. I'm 30, it gets even harder in that age range. Virgin girls are the best of the best. No matter how hard pop culture tries to push the opposite view, that will never change. Putting out on the first date is the biggest turn off to a LTR minded guy that I can think of. It's a huge mistake for a girl. Most self centered jerks love it though.
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