Mindylove Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 So, I have been dating this guy for almost a year and a half. We have broken up a few times for him flirting but we got back together a while ago and we haven't had that problem and everything was going great. Until recently I have been getting so jealous about girls, he is a very good guy so everyone loves him at school which means he has lots of girl friends. And that makes me so mad and jealous. I always get mad and over react about it. People tell me that when he talks to them it looks like flirting, but he swears that he's not flirting and it's being nice and just talking. Because I have gotten jealous too much he says he's sick of it and latley has been feeling differently. I have no clue what to do because I love him and do not want to lose him. But he's been acting different. What do I do?
ladyinlimbo Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 He may be acting differently lately because he's becoming turned off by the fact that you're always jealous and accusing him (however right or wrong) of flirting. After awhile that can wear on someone....most especially if their heart is only with you and they're truly not interested in anyone else. Has he ever cheated? Have you always had this issue with jealousy? Do you have any close girlfriends who can give you an objective opinion about whether he really IS flirting or is just being his usual social self? Have you ever considered talking to a counselor or therapist about your issues with jealousy? It doesn't mean you're "crazy" if you talk to one............it's a good thing to do, to try to really have someone help you get to the root of why you feel the way you do.............so you can learn from it and that will carry with you for the rest of your life. Is your jealousy justified? I don't know, I'm not there. But maybe with the help of a counselor, you can look at WHY you get jealous.........and help you really determine conclusively if his behavior is inappropriate or disrespectful to you.............or if it's really just a case of a guy who's more of a 'social butterfly' and that's really just his personality and it's truly very harmless. Better to get a handle on this now than to end up sabotaging relationship after relationship throughout the course of your life because you're feeling jealous and insecure and fearful and may inevitably drive good guys away.
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