t0ri Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 #'s 1, 3, 4, & 7 of this article describe my boyfriend. I'm getting really fed up with these antics. Have any of you dated someone emotionally manipulative? WTH do you do? I can't see telling my bf he's this way going well, I don't want to just run away, so is there ANY way to handle this? Can the person change or even recognize what they're doing? http://www.cassiopaea.com/cassiopaea/emotional_manipulation.htm
Rinnix Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Most people are aware of what they are doing, they know what to say to ensure that they look innocent. They often play the victim and make you question yourself. I would honestly leave a relationship if someone were playing games through it. It's not healthy.
Cee Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Leave him, grieve, and heal. I've been in your position and there is nothing you can say that will get through to him. You will break your own heart trying to reach his. Leave him and get support from your friends. Your friends will help you through this. And unlike your boyfriend, your friends will listen and understand. I'm sorry.
makelemonade1974 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Get out. Run. Away. There are healthy men out there. I haven't found one yet (at least one that I like a lot), but they are out there. Emotionally abusive men are dangerous - more dangerous even than physical abusers. I'd rather be hit. I'm not kidding. Take care of yourself.
ladyinlimbo Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 As far as I'm concerned, people who are manipulative are on some level abusive. It's emotionally abuse, IMO, to manipulate someone. It's also the sign of a control freak. Neither are the qualities of someone who's serious relationship material. Manipulative people know damn well what they're doing. Their manipulation is cunning and calculated and it's the epitome of selfishness and the opposite of love. So you realize he's a manipulator.........so why do you remain with someone who manipulates you? Don't you believe you deserve someone so much better?
tigressA Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I agree with all the advice posted here so far. I read that article and my ex meets pretty much all the criteria listed. He is extremely manipulative and he really did a number on my self-esteem when we were together. I was constantly questioning myself. I really think he abused me. Your BF will keep doing that to you if you let him, and by staying with him, you let him. You need to get out of this relationship--there is no changing him.
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