Velociraptor Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 It seems to be a common delusion among women that all of us men absolutley love to chase a woman who plays hard to get. So this will be a sort of poll, to see if that is actually the case.
alphamale Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 It seems to be a common delusion among women that all of us men absolutley love to chase a woman who plays hard to get. So this will be a sort of poll, to see if that is actually the case. actually its the woman who starts the "chase" when she finds a suitable candidate
Author Velociraptor Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 actually its the woman who starts the "chase" when she finds a suitable candidate How so?......
alphamale Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 How so?...... no chick is going to let you chase her unless she wants to be chased. otherwise it would be stalking
sanskrit Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 In the past, when men had some assurance that the object of their "chase" had some special value worthy of chasing, and was not blowing another guy right before an expensive date, the chase had some merit and made sense. Today not so much. The wise man today learns to get what he wants without chasing, to let the chumps waste their time and money instead. Machiavellian, yes sadly so, but we learned to be that way from women.
Author Velociraptor Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 no chick is going to let you chase her unless she wants to be chased. otherwise it would be stalking Women who want to be chased are not truly intrested anyway. I got no time for wanna be princesses with a "me me me" attitude.
nordic Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 It seems to be a common delusion among women that all of us men absolutley love to chase a woman who plays hard to get. So this will be a sort of poll, to see if that is actually the case. mmm, i dont like if they play hard to get. but i have noticed, that if its too easy i like it up to the point where i get inside them, and for another half an hour... but then i actually loose interest, coz the thoughts starts ticking on how often she does that with men in general. so its one of those hard to judge issues. i would say, if i dont want a relationship anyway, i just want the woman on her back as soon as possible and any time spent on the process is just boring and feels unecessary, like sitting on a bus, waiting to get finally get home. if i liek the girl, and she is a candidate for a relationship i still dont like the chase per se, but realise that it is necessary for me to attach to her.
Ross MwcFan Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 It's not something I'd enjoy at all, then again, I am a beta male. Anyway, when you finally do get her, it'd be hard to believe that she's that interested in you since she resisted for so long in the first place.
Author Velociraptor Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 mmm, i dont like if they play hard to get. but i have noticed, that if its too easy i like it up to the point where i get inside them, and for another half an hour... but then i actually loose interest, coz the thoughts starts ticking on how often she does that with men in general. so its one of those hard to judge issues. i would say, if i dont want a relationship anyway, i just want the woman on her back as soon as possible and any time spent on the process is just boring and feels unecessary, like sitting on a bus, waiting to get finally get home. if i liek the girl, and she is a candidate for a relationship i still dont like the chase per se, but realise that it is necessary for me to attach to her. I'm not only talking about the sex part. To me, hard to get means that the woman will let you chase her(for exclusivity) for a long amount of time, without putting in any effort herself, and instead make you jump through hoops and humilate yourself infront of her.
nordic Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 no chick is going to let you chase her unless she wants to be chased. otherwise it would be stalking yet, there is a fine line between the two:-) you approach and then pull away. a women will not know if she wants to be chased or not, until they are, and you take it away.
Author Velociraptor Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 It's not something I'd enjoy at all, then again, I am a beta male. Anyway, when you finally do get her, it'd be hard to believe that she's that interested in you since she resisted for so long in the first place. Exactly. A woman who plays hard to get is not intrested in you. If you need to chase a woman, like really chase and jump through hoops to get her... She do not want you, and you are only humilating and emasculating yourself.
nordic Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I'm not only talking about the sex part. To me, hard to get means that the woman will let you chase her(for exclusivity) for a long amount of time, without putting in any effort herself, and instead make you jump through hoops and humilate yourself infront of her. ok, that never works. a woman will not sleep with a man she doesnt resepct. never do any of that you just mentioned.
Author Velociraptor Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 yet, there is a fine line between the two:-) you approach and then pull away. a women will not know if she wants to be chased or not, until they are, and you take it away. If a woman wants to be chased it's because she wants an ego boost. She doesn't want you, she doesn't care about you and most of all she couldn't care less if she never got to be with you... So whats the point?
nordic Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Exactly. A woman who plays hard to get is not intrested in you. If you need to chase a woman, like really chase and jump through hoops to get her... She do not want you, and you are only humilating and emasculating yourself. why do you ask when you know? stop this crap.
chuckles11 Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 What exactly is the chase? I'm asking a serious question. Not returning phone calls? Flaking on dates? I've never heard anyone under 30 use this term.
Author Velociraptor Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 why do you ask when you know? stop this crap. I'm asking how many men actually like the chase. I only said how I felt about the matter.
Woggle Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 In the past, when men had some assurance that the object of their "chase" had some special value worthy of chasing, and was not blowing another guy right before an expensive date, the chase had some merit and made sense. Today not so much. The wise man today learns to get what he wants without chasing, to let the chumps waste their time and money instead. Machiavellian, yes sadly so, but we learned to be that way from women. Very true. I have no problem putting in effort of it is worth it but I have found that most women truly worth chasing will never play these games in the first place. Women who make men chase usually do so for their own ego and validation and once he has exhausted himself trying to win her over she drops him for a man who had to do very little work.
carhill Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 The wise man today learns to get what he wants without chasing, to let the chumps waste their time and money instead. Somehow, when I read the word 'chump' here on LS, this always comes to mind. I've only had that itch a couple of times, with disastrous results, so instead use Gold Bond powder and try a different approach, which includes *not chasing*.
Author Velociraptor Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 What exactly is the chase? I'm asking a serious question. Not returning phone calls? Flaking on dates? I've never heard anyone under 30 use this term. The chase is when the man puts in all the effort, by initating every date, every phone call, every text. While the woman plays you around, and makes you jump through a never ending amount of hoops to get finally get to be in a relationship with her.
carhill Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 IME, the dynamic was fraught with marked ambiguity, unanswered and unreturned phone calls, changes of plans, forgetting, 'maybe', etc, etc. Now I just call it insane and move on.
conehead Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Oh no, did I instigate this thread? lol There is also this common misconception that women like guys who are 'bad boys' and that 'nice guys finish last'...but is that really true? I for one hate bad boys and prefer the nice, bubbly guy . Most of the guys I've dated are of this nature.
sanskrit Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Somehow, when I read the word 'chump' here on LS, this always comes to mind. :lmao: Where'd you find my college yearbook picture? I use "chump" because of the excellent book "The Game," which I recommend to every guy in this thread who hasn't yet read it. It's NOT a how to pick up women guide, in fact the message is the opposite. In "The Game," "AFC" stands for "average f-ing chump" the guys, among other things, who believe "chasing" women in the traditional courtship ways works.
nordic Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I'm asking how many men actually like the chase. I only said how I felt about the matter. yes, and then you phrase the question in a way, that it is obvious that no man on the planet likes. unless you are a masochist. i can answer for all men here right now. not a single man will like what you describe.
CrestfallenNoMore Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 yes, and then you phrase the question in a way, that it is obvious that no man on the planet likes. unless you are a masochist. i can answer for all men here right now. not a single man will like what you describe. Neither would a mature, emotionally healthy female. We'd call it stalking.
vsmini Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Some guys (and girls too, of course) have such low self esteem that they enjoy the chase but when they actually get the person in a relationship they think less of them....sort of if to say "wait - you want to be with me? it's that easy? then you must not be good enough - I'll go for the one that's even harder to get" So unhlealthy but so common
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