AmericanHoney Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I was seeing this guy for 2 months and one day out of the blue he stopped contacting me. I was hurt and confused because we never fought and we got along great! I called him Tuesday and it rang and then went straight to VM. I didn't really think much about so I gave him some space ( Maybe he was busy) I texted him Wednesday and said Hey Brad wondering if you still wanted to meet up Thursday for happy hour and again nothing back. I prayed maybe Thursday he would text or call about Happy Hour and I never heard anything. It is Friday now and I am here wondering what happened?? I want to call him again or text him but I do not want to come off stalkerish. Should I realize it is over and not contact him or should I contact him one more time just to see what's up. I know he is alive and well because he just tweeted yesterday on Twitter.
sandman223 Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I would just assume its over, and if he wants to contact you again he will. Some of us, including me, were in relationships that lasted over 2-4 years (or more) and never got any closure.
Author AmericanHoney Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 I am just confused why he never told me the last time we went out like hey Sarah this isn't going to work out anymore.
radiodarcy Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 i'd leave it alone. you contacted him twice. that's good enough. if he wants to get back to you he will. closure really comes from within. so i wouldn't expect anything from him in that department. if he's not going to be considerate enough to return your attempts to contact him - - or at the very least tell you he isn't interested in hanging out anymore, then he doesn't deserve any more of your time and effort.
vsmini Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I agree - closure really does come from within. You'll be asking "what went wrong" all day if you keep trying to contact him. Just give it up. People blow hot and cold all the time. Don't tolerate it. Even if he did come back - do you really want a guy that's so comfortable with ignoring you? Forget him and move on.
nessaaa Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Some guys are such posseys. Why cant they just tell you what's up instead of making you wonder. If he doesnt want to talk to you, he should just say so..like damn it's that simple.
geegirl Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 His silence speaks loudly. If he couldn't have the decency to tell you it's over then, don't expect him to do it now. Let it go. He's alive and well and ignoring you. You do the same. Don't waste another moment wondering about this loser.
rayne05us Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 He didn't contact you because he's a douche bag!! And you don't want to spend your time with anyone like that, do you? Move on and forget about his punk behind!! He totally missed out!!!
Author AmericanHoney Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 I admit it still stings a bit. I almost want to go all Carrie Underwood on his *** and slash his tires or egg his house. I know that wouldn't be very mature but I am heartbroken:( I know it takes time heal a wound but when someone ignores you or cuts you off communication it does do some damage to your ego because you keep thinking what the heck did I do wrong?
Sugarkane Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I understand how you feel as my ex did exactly the same thing to me, after dating a year. Its best just to move on. What else can you do? He knows your number, so if he wants to contact you, he can.
nana841121 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 He is a coward. He couldn't handle the confrontation
Fufu Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 It's only 2 months relationship and he's already treating you like this. His action speaks the loudest, even if his action is silence.
Delilah5 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I was seeing this guy for 2 months and one day out of the blue he stopped contacting me. I was hurt and confused because we never fought and we got along great! I called him Tuesday and it rang and then went straight to VM. I didn't really think much about so I gave him some space ( Maybe he was busy) I texted him Wednesday and said Hey Brad wondering if you still wanted to meet up Thursday for happy hour and again nothing back. I prayed maybe Thursday he would text or call about Happy Hour and I never heard anything. It is Friday now and I am here wondering what happened?? I want to call him again or text him but I do not want to come off stalkerish. Should I realize it is over and not contact him or should I contact him one more time just to see what's up. I know he is alive and well because he just tweeted yesterday on Twitter. Do not contact him. Don't do this to yourself. Leave him alone and find someone else. If he wanted to be with you, he would be. Obviously and sadly, he doesn't. It is no reflection on you. You're not less of a person and you deserve someone that will care about you as much as you do him. This same thing happened to me. It hurts. I was seeing a man for three mos., we were online friends for 6 mos. before that. I fell in love with him and it made him run off. You can't make someone love you, if they don't. It's just that simple. You have to move on and find someone worthy of you. Don't sit there wondering why and wasting time on a rude, unkind jerk. He could have told you to your face that he's just not into you. But cowards always take the easy (for them) way out. My boyfriend did. Now, I don't respect him. I didn't get a call or an e-mail telling me. I'm moving on, because he's not worth my time. and then . Don't waste any more time!!!!!
Author AmericanHoney Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Is it normal to be sad when you pass the places you went to out on dates? Today I passed the restaurant he took me on my first date and I immediately got sad because I remembered the good times we had and how we laughed the whole time. I keep wanting to forget all about him but then I hear a certain song or smell a certain smell and think about him all over again. Guess what the worst part is?? My friend said she saw his facebook ( he deleted me) and it said he was in a relationship with another girl ( not me) that part really,really hurts because he sure moved on very quickly or he was seeing her while he was seeing me and didn't have the guts to break it off.
rayne05us Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Please Read this post from EgoJoe (it's short) He's definitely on the right track with all of this. I hope this helps and makes sense. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t277945/
Author AmericanHoney Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 I get what he is saying but in my case I found out he is already dating from someone else and him not talking to me and giving me the cold shoulder didn't help. I wish he would of been honest in the first place but I guess he didn't want to hurt my feelings but he kinda already did by playing the I am not into you anymore game and making me wonder what I did and why did he choose her over me:confused:
SleeplessRomantic Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I know the feeling, except the relationship I was in lasted nearly three years long. No closure at all.
Sugarkane Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Unfortunately some people are cowards and just leave things unresloved. Also if things don't work out with the next girl, watch out he might contact you, just so he can use you. I wouldn't worry about this other girl. He'll probably do the same thing to her.
rayne05us Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 It sounds like you're the kind of person who wouldn't leave people in the cold like that and would be honest with them. But it's good you found that out about him before it got even further you know? And now that you do know that, why would want to surround yourself with those kind of people. It's sad to say, but just because you want people to be respectful and honest, doesn't mean they're going to be. Some people are just big honkin jerks!! So you have to choose not to have those people in your life. He's not worth your time. I know the rejected feeling sucks, but look at exactly what kind of person he is...eventually you will see that it wasn't that big of a loss because he doesn't seem like the type of person you'd want in your life anyways.
rayne05us Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Remember you're not the one with the problem. I always try to remember that how people react (or don't react) does not have anything to do with me. He's the one with the issue....the fact that he can't be a grown man and tell you to your face that it's over. You did nothing wrong.
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