Fedor Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 My gf and I have been together for over 2 years. Things have recently started to change like we dont see eachother as much as we used to, there is sometimes an akward tension between us when we do see eachother and she doesnt phone me like old times. Its a big change because before, she always had to text me and hang out with me but now its different. She says she is still in love with me but I feel like resentment is building inside me. Any advice? Btw, we recently went through a break-up but reconciled.
Author Fedor Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Any advice on how to handle a situation that can involve growing apart? It would be great to hear peoples opinions.
ladyinlimbo Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 My gf and I have been together for over 2 years. Things have recently started to change like we dont see eachother as much as we used to, there is sometimes an akward tension between us when we do see eachother and she doesnt phone me like old times. Its a big change because before, she always had to text me and hang out with me but now its different. She says she is still in love with me but I feel like resentment is building inside me. Any advice? Btw, we recently went through a break-up but reconciled. Well you've gotta talk about all of this. Have you asked her about this resentment that you're sensing? What did you recently break-up?
Author Fedor Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Well you've gotta talk about all of this. Have you asked her about this resentment that you're sensing? What did you recently break-up? Everytime I try to talk about the problem, it leads to a fight or to me being dubbed "up tight". But her attitude gets to me because I feel like our relationship is lacking emotional connection. Before, it was like nothing could break us. It was a very good feeling. Now, I just feel emotionally disconnected from her at times. The whole break up thing happend because she thought she needed space from me to concentrate on herself. Of course, I did the stupid thing and begged her back which worked. Then she told me a few week ago that "the last 2 and so years have been me and you, now it has to be me, you and my friends". I can understand that she wants time with her friends, but I have always encouraged it. I could never picture her telling me something like this?
mo mo Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Any input please Move down to LHW. Today's heavyweights are much bigger than you. Shoot.. Anthony "Rumble" Johnson weighs as much as you do and he fights at WW.
Author Fedor Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Move down to LHW. Today's heavyweights are much bigger than you. Shoot.. Anthony "Rumble" Johnson weighs as much as you do and he fights at WW. That is why I am fighting Hendo next. Thanks for your input on my fighting career.
eerie_reverie Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Any input please I don't think there is anything YOU can do to get the emotional intimacy back. There are things you can AVOID doing to get her to come back around, but they are the equivalent of mind games to make her feel like she's losing you. Avoid calling her, intiating relationship talks, or giving her affection. Give her more space... lots and lots of space. Act like you're losing interest. That will reel her back in temporarily, but in my experience, once someone feels like they need space, they are not going to stop feeling like they need it as long as they stay in the relationship. What I am trying to say is, I think it's over.
Author Fedor Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 I don't think there is anything YOU can do to get the emotional intimacy back. There are things you can AVOID doing to get her to come back around, but they are the equivalent of mind games to make her feel like she's losing you. Avoid calling her, intiating relationship talks, or giving her affection. Give her more space... lots and lots of space. Act like you're losing interest. That will reel her back in temporarily, but in my experience, once someone feels like they need space, they are not going to stop feeling like they need it as long as they stay in the relationship. What I am trying to say is, I think it's over. Maybe your right. I'm trying to ride this phase out hoping things will change. I have also tried giving her extra space by avoiding contact but this leads to fighting. She said that shes in love with me, but in the back of my mind I dont believe her. Then again, she has broken up with me before so why would she lie? Its just very confusing. I'm hoping its just a phase and nothing more..
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