waytogo Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 Yes !! Sometimes we do chat when W is around and he is bored.... I usually tell him I gotta go, swearing he is trying to get caught.. Don't lie, you would never leave me !!! I won't leave you if you show any hope of promise, like 'Nothingbutblueskies'. But if you continue to brag, refuse to listen to me or anyone who tries to show you reality, insult people who try, or call ANYONE jealous, darling, I will leave you. 2 ears, 1 mouth. You have to listen to get anywhere in this world. I've been in a similiar place. I was pretty thick-headed about it also. That's why I have given the room I have. If you insult others here, or call BW's jealous, that's where my empathy and room for fog or what ever you want to call it will end. It will be a race of who dumps you first, MM or me.
2sunny Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I know lots of sides to him that W does not know about. W does not know of his "day boozing" because he is back to "sober" by the time she gets home. W doesn't know he watches porn or has "dirty fantasies " because she is a prude and would not understand. W does not know about a lot of his past, because he once again he would not tell her because she is TO conservative. Im sure he has love for her but does he really want to be with someone who he has to walk on egg shells with or who he can't express his true self with without feeling like a dirty boy ? Know one on here knows my MM. You can say he doesn't deserve this or that me or her, but you do not know him. He is a super sweet man and who always puts my concerns first before his. No, I'm sure he doesn't want to let anyone down and thats probably why he is still with her. As mature as it is not. Most men either wait to get caught or act like a complete Ahole when they want to break off a relationship. Most men will not go straight to the W and say Hey, btw..I am deeply involved in an ER and very confused on what I want to do. he is a douche. his behavior proves he's a douche - yet YOU justify his bad behavior then reward him by giving positive reinforcement to his drinking, gambling, cheating, lying ways. he's a cheat and a liar... and YOU say that's good? you've got a twisted sense of reality and what good behavior looks like. YOU are in THEIR marriage - YOU are sleeping with him... knowing him - and all his habits - habits his wife needs to know more than you. maybe you will end up with him - let us know how that goes ten years from now. you, my dear, have stepped into the dark side - be prepared - it's an awful place to be. you may not get out without losing all sense of what's decent.
Author vweb1218 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 The drinking was what you wrote about him. So if he's an adventurer, or conservative, either is fine with you. Either is fine, if you get any kind of attention. You don't even know what you want, other than being observed in anyway. MY MM? He is married to me. I go to sleep with and wake up with him everyday. No cyber, no need. The real thing everyday. That is what I hope for everyone, even you. I can't understand the way you are going about this. But your MM is still married ?? F that, if he was sleeping my bed he would get a D or forget about it. I'm just saying.. My relationship is still very new!! He is from a conservative background but yes he has a wild side.. and i do love him so of course either would be fine with me.. I like him just how he is !!
2sunny Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 But your MM is still married ?? F that, if he was sleeping my bed he would get a D or forget about it. I'm just saying.. My relationship is still very new!! He is from a conservative background but yes he has a wild side.. and i do love him so of course either would be fine with me.. I like him just how he is !! he's broken, empty and MARRIED! you like that? a man who is cheating has work to do on himself. even if he divorced - you still get him as his broken self... unless he is willing to do the work to find out what it is - inside of him - that made him cheat - and becomes willing to change that part of who he is. otherwise - you get a broken man. there are reasons why he does what he does. you just happen to be the gal that got sucked into his chaos while he was doing it all. deep inside - YOU know this isn't the right thing - or you wouldn't have found this place - you wouldn't be asking. you're conscience is telling you something is off.
Author vweb1218 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 Aw, he's not a douche. He's a split self! Don't YOU ever call someone I care about a douche.. forum or not !! A split ??
2sunny Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 such a situation indicates that something deep is missing from your relationship. the THING that's missing is his ability to be faithful and honest. unfortunately - divorce and being with you won't change those character traits he seems to have - the traits you say you love about him.
waytogo Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 But your MM is still married ?? F that, if he was sleeping my bed he would get a D or forget about it. I'm just saying.. My relationship is still very new!! He is from a conservative background but yes he has a wild side.. and i do love him so of course either would be fine with me.. I like him just how he is !! Don't know how I missed this one. You are truly mixed up. The only MM in my life is my H. I promise, having a man who loves you and you only is a-ma-zing! You should try it. There's no doubt you will find it beats waiting for porn chat with an unavailable man.
Mimolicious Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 First of all if he loved her he would not need to talk to me 20+ hours a week.. He would not think I died if we didn't chat for 3 days. ME: what is the worst/boring part of your life right now Him "Trying to be SOMEONE I'm not " !! and I know he wasn't talking about his job that he has worked for a long long time ! And you don't know if she is a prude or not.. Who the F do you think you are anyway.. Dr. Phil ?? Maybe because uumm... (how do I say this delicately?) WTH does all that talking????????????? That's what you guys are doing. TALKING, TALKING, TALKING. And what'cha DOING though? Whoa! This is too much bulls already! He has you with free 20hrs to talk, I wouldn't be bothering with his a$$ either. You swear like you have a trophy. You barely have a ceramic ornament.
Author vweb1218 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 Don't know how I missed this one. You are truly mixed up. The only MM in my life is my H. I promise, having a man who loves you and you only is a-ma-zing! You should try it. There's no doubt you will find it beats waiting for porn chat with an unavailable man. I you have a H.. why are you even in here ??????????
Author vweb1218 Posted May 19, 2011 Author Posted May 19, 2011 the THING that's missing is his ability to be faithful and honest. unfortunately - divorce and being with you won't change those character traits he seems to have - the traits you say you love about him. Everyone has things to work on.. I never said he doesn't have things and or improvements about himself that he needs to work on. Don't you have a MM ?? If so is your faithful and honest..Whats your story ??
2sunny Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I you have a H.. why are you even in here ?????????? anyone can be here! maybe this is your MM's wife - checking up on what your MM is up to... funnier things have happened here... and that's no joke! now you have given out enough private info for a BW to recognize if this MAY be her H... happy now?
waytogo Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 anyone can be here! maybe this is your MM's wife - checking up on what your MM is up to... funnier things have happened here... and that's no joke! now you have given out enough private info for a BW to recognize if this MAY be her H... happy now? While that would be funny, it isn't the case this time. My H is a genius. Can you see where this picture just wouldn't fit? Also, he's a non-drinker, so...
waytogo Posted May 19, 2011 Posted May 19, 2011 I you have a H.. why are you even in here ?????????? Ummmm, then why did you ask me if my MM is still married? And 2Sunny is right, anyone can be here, even drunk MM's wife.
RecordProducer Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 I know lots of sides to him that W does not know about. W does not know of his "day boozing" because he is back to "sober" by the time she gets home. W doesn't know he watches porn or has "dirty fantasies " because she is a prude and would not understand. W does not know about a lot of his past, because he once again he would not tell her because she is TO conservative. Im sure he has love for her but does he really want to be with someone who he has to walk on egg shells with or who he can't express his true self with without feeling like a dirty boy ? Yes, because people love challenge, not approval! You are no challenge. You're just there whenever he needs you. And you're much older than he is.
phillyfan Posted May 21, 2011 Posted May 21, 2011 I so want to be in their relationship ??? Are you kidding me ? Their relationship totally sucks if you ask me. I'm not jealous of the relationship. Just upset that she doesn't see his value or really dig deep to see that he has more that one side to his personality. I'm sure she is very sweet but very wrapped up in the idea of a "perfect life" without really looking at the whole picture. She is quite young and very focused on checking things off in her life. Next is a house purchase, but he's not really going for that. Trying very hard to randomly spend every bit of money on anything else. Spending big bucks on his boss just to give him a fun time. Even trying to trade in their car's instead. I'm am pretty sure that she just know's his GOOD side but might be get a glimmer of his "BAD BOY " side. Quote: Worst thing in his life right now "Trying to be someone I'm not ".. A statement that truly upset me I was speechless and he knew it and made a joke about something totally different after . Why on earth would I want to be in their relationship ? A relationship where I can't be myself ? ****ing shoot me first, I swear to GOD. I could last maybe ten whole minutes being someone I'm not. A relationship were you have to hide and sneak around just to touch your very own body ? Once again F ing choke me. A relationship that has completely sucked his spirit and turned him into way to much drinking and gambling ? A relationship where you can't wait till they leave because you can finally be by yourself ? A relationship that has turned your male best friend into the new Dr. Phil ? Ahh, no thank you !! And most of all a relationship where your partner has completely bonded, sometimes obsesses over, tells everything to, dreams about and stays in constant contact with, gets jealous of her male interactions.. Ahh, can you say No thank you.. In that case I would for sure like to remain the OW. I get to see all the different sides of him. No matter what happens I can that an advantage any day !! Dude WTF are u talkin about. They are married, she knows him betta than u wil eva know him. Hes just ur standard skanka$$ douchebag who gambles, drinks, whines, cheats, jerks off and bones some sexy girl on the side. He dont do it cos he is trapped by her, shes the princess, he just needs a massive ego boost cause he has a shi*ty ego. No disrespect girl but man u r gullible and way 2 willing to be treated like crap.
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