Idylle Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 First of all sorry for the long story. So for the last 6-7 months I've been seeing this guys on and off, he live about 1 hour away from me and we have been friends for 3 years before we decided to go out sometime. We used to talk online everyday and we got along great. Then like a week and a half ago we met up again and he introduced me to his parents etc, which he was very hesistant about before. and yes we have been intimate during our relationship too. Thing is the 2 days after our meeting everything wa still normal. flirting, fun, he inciting me to this event. Then the weekend pased and he suddenly went all cold and distant on me. I was extremely confused, so I asked him what it was about and he aid there was nothing really. Then I discovered he met this girl on saturday and they have been texting and messaging on facebook and even going out for coffee. When I confronted him with this he said she was a long lost friend and he didn't like her, more over he said she was going to China soon. Eventhough he said that I'm not sure if I should believe it =/ he kept acting distant to me, and giving all these short answers on msn like kay, haha, yh. And when I asked him honestly and straight out f he still had feelings for me, he said he did but it's the whole situation (distance) that's keeping him busy. And he said wiithin hi last relationship he lost all his friends because he had to spend so much time on her, and he's afraid it will happen now to. When I ask him if he actually does wnat to give it a chance he goes i dont knowwww. So I decided to just leave him be for a while, cause I was being very pushy etc. Yet he still initiates convo's on msn with me, and then when I answer justdon't or hardly reply. So I was like well fine, and I just didn't react to short answers anymore and he went you don't talk anymooreee. And when I say something oh, you can talk? while if I do talk he thinks I'm being pushy. I really don't get it aymore, I really do love this guy so much and I'd hate to lose him. So I ho pe someone has god advise on what to do with this situation =/ cause there was nothing going on before!
PrettyLady1 Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Hey sorry your going through this. I sense a lot of questions going on in your head. There must be something very interesting about this girl because it seemed like things were really good between you and this guy. So in the last 6-7 months did you guys ever talk about being in a relationship or if it was going anywhere. That's a long time to not know where you stand with him. You should tell him how you feel and demand in a nice way that he lets you know exactly how you feel so you know what to do from there. If he keeps playing games just ignore him until he tells you something! Don't bug him though since he already has someone else he focus on if he wants to.
Author Idylle Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 It's so confusing =( and yes we have dated for like a few months and then he had some issues with the distance so we decided to just meet up and stuff so it's bene on and off pretty much and yes I've not known where I stand for a long time and it's killing me and he doesn't get that. I tried asking him but he shuts down or says im pushing so I'm at a loss for what to do
PrettyLady1 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 So is forgetting him an option for you? I know how hard it is to want someone badly and not be able to have them 100% to yourself. Its not fair to you that you've let him know how you feel and you ask him to let you know in return and he wont. If he wont fully commit to you, i really think you should let him go especially because you know what you want from him and he wont give it to. What if he never does and this whole time you've just wasted your time. Time is to precious, especially your own. Don't forget that.
Author Idylle Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 I know I really should it's just so hard. I've liked him like 2 years before we started dating. And it's really hard letting go and accept he's just not that into me anymore. I'm afraid I will regret it and wonder what if I tried a little harder. But I know that's twisted and well I don't know. It's teh first time I have to get over someone I really like and I don't really know what to do.
PrettyLady1 Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Well i understand your point Ive totally been in your shoes. And at the moment I'm kinda going through something similar. There's this guy I'm so into but theres many things keeping us apart. I feel like I'm the one over here all in love with him and he's just going about his life taking care of whatever needs to be done. I've told him how i felt and he said that we should talk in person and it's like he just put it off. So here I am being open about how i feel to him and he's like whatever. Thats how i feel. I hope im wrong. So in your situation..What are you going to do then? Keep trying? Love is so complicated and unfair sometimes. Have you talked to him recently??
Author Idylle Posted June 8, 2011 Author Posted June 8, 2011 I'm so sorry for the late reply, there has been so much going on! I totally understand how you are feeling. And yes I have talked to him, we never met up after that anymore though. Last week he said he was cutting me off completely, only to talk to me a few days alter again to say hey and denying he said he wasn't going to talk to me in the first place. So last monday he actually went. hey, i just never got over my ex. He always talked to his ex fater their relationship, it was the only thing we ever fought about...Apparently he became distant because she started seeing some guy and he was bothered by it. He never wanted her back before, but now she's trying to move on and cut him off he's begging her to take him back. The same day he told me he wasn't over his ex (just a few days after he ended things with me officialy..our half-half situation) he tried getting back with her confessing how much he missed and loved her and that they could be so good together without drama. She said she couldnt right now, but she believes they will be fine in the future. he doesn't know I know this. Right now I'm really hurt and lost and I just don't know what to do. I think I'm going to cut cntact for atleast a while to get my head in order...but I'm afraid it will hurt so much when he doesn't care...
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