PrettyLady1 Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I recently fell in love with my boss. He's single and so am I. We had been flirting here and there and talking about things that were not work related. I didn't think to much of it at first until some sexual things happened between us. We didn't have actual sex but things that happen right before sex i guess you could say. After that i definitely started feeling some strong feelings for him. It feels like love at first sight even though I've known him for months. And if feels silly to say I'm in love with him but I honestly feel that way. I would love to be in a relationship with him and be serious, the only thing is now it seems like he's avoiding me. Ive told him I like him and try to talk about our fun encounters but he wont talk about it with me. Everything we talk about is mainly about work and he talks to me as if he never once flirted with me and nothing ever happened. It bugs me so much because he's the one who initiated the flirting. Now I'm in love with him and basically alone because he isn't addressing this issue with me and it doesn't seem like he will be any time soon. I'm wondering if there is any hope since he hasn't specifically said that there can not be anything between us. What should I do? I am the type who likes to go after what she wants, just don't know how to go about it?..
EasyHeart Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 If he is your boss, then there are huge -- and potentially disastrous -- legal and professional repercussions related to having a romantic relationship with a subordinate. My guess is that he likes you and lost his head for a moment, but afterwards realized that he doesn't want to throw away his career. Sexual harassment laws are heinous and completely one-sided, so most people are (rightly) terrified of them.
Author PrettyLady1 Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 That's what I was thinking too. I would appreciate if he himself could tell me this. I feel like i at least deserve that. I just don't want to bug him anymore about anything that has to do with me and him. Totally suck being in this position.
thatone Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 he's doing you both a favor. let it go. think long and hard (no pun intended) about how that will play out when you aren't happy with him anymore, but he won't go away, or vice versa. he can take away your livelihood on a whim. you can also take away his. two people who barely know each other yet have complete and total control over the life of that other person, think about that. you might as well be standing across from each other aiming guns at each other's faces.
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 One of three things: 1) He found someone else 2) He was reprimanded by his boss for having an office relationship 3) He isn't really single
Author PrettyLady1 Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 It would be very easy to let it go if I never had to speak to him or see him. He might as well have had sex with me and acted as if nothing ever happened because I still ended up with that empty feeling.
BiscuitXOXO Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 He might as well have had sex with me and acted as if nothing ever happened because I still ended up with that empty feeling. Well you didn't have sex, right? And nothing ever happened that's provable, right? This is a professional setting. It may be hard to just drop it. But it is what's best. Forget about it. Why would you want your boss himself to tell you this? It's common sense and a touchy subject. Talking to you about it would make him admit that something inappropriate was going on after all. And anyways, you aren't in love with your boss. It's just an infatuation. @nyc_guy2003, I doubt it's any of those three things. Well maybe #2. But I'm of Easyheart's opinion.
Author PrettyLady1 Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Thanks everyone, I'm starting to feel better about everything.
ladyinlimbo Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 He's probably crappin' himself because he REALIZES the full potential magnitude of what happened between you two............that you could cry 'sexual harassment' and he could lose his career. Something caused him to have a major reality check.
musemaj11 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 You are not in love with your boss, you are in love with his status.
Author PrettyLady1 Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 I let him know that i wasn't the type of girl to use anything like that against him and get him in trouble because i'm really not. He could have let someone close to him know what had happened and maybe they told him to stop everything right away. And its not like i'm going to be at that job forever. I see myself there no longer than another year. I don't see myself in love with his status especially because hes not the type that flaunts it or anything. He's super laid back just like me.
musemaj11 Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 I let him know that i wasn't the type of girl to use anything like that against him and get him in trouble because i'm really not. He could have let someone close to him know what had happened and maybe they told him to stop everything right away. And its not like i'm going to be at that job forever. I see myself there no longer than another year. I don't see myself in love with his status especially because hes not the type that flaunts it or anything. He's super laid back just like me. If he was the janitor, you wouldn't even take a second look at him.
Author PrettyLady1 Posted May 17, 2011 Author Posted May 17, 2011 I didnt fall for him because he happens to be my boss, it's because ive known him for a while and ive hung out with him. My story might seem like im some young girl who fell for her boss because he has a good position or makes way better money than me. But its more than that. I've actually gotten to know him and i like his personality and the fact that he's not flashy or perverted. He has an amazing personality and he's so full of energy. He's someone that you want to be around and take care of just because hes so loveable.
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