Pyro Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Most single women are happy enough to just have a man taking interest in them. But if she can get a guy who is more than able to and is willing to support her, she definitely wont refuse especially if she doesnt have the best career herself. I would consider being with a single mom only if she were some successful career woman. I am referring to the type who will right away (or close to it) start suggesting or expect the guy to contribute to her kids expenses.
musemaj11 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 I am referring to the type who will right away (or close to it) start suggesting or expect the guy to contribute to her kids expenses. Women arent that stupid man. Even if they plan to use a gullible man to feed themselves and their kids, they wont reveal their design right away. They will wait until he is already under their spell so to speak.
Pyro Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Women arent that stupid man. Even if they plan to use a gullible man to feed themselves and their kids, they wont reveal their design right away. They will wait until he is already under their spell so to speak. and the smart men who pay attention will pick up on her game in a short time.
Imajerk17 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 (edited) I like this attitude.. Take care, Eve x Haha, a lot of women do. They like to know that after they "knock it out" with Bad Boy, that there is a Nice Guy who will come in and provide and help raise their kid(s). I'm not willing to be putting so much energy to raising another man's kids though. Leave that to the Nice Guys on here. Jynxx is right on, by the way... Edited May 14, 2011 by Imajerk17
Jazzari Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Haha, a lot of women do. They like to know that after they "knock it out" with Bad Boy, that there is a Nice Guy who will come in and provide and help raise their kid(s). I'm not willing to be putting so much energy to raising another man's kids though. Leave that to the Nice Guys on here. Jynxx is right on, by the way... "Another man's kids" is what really confuses me. But you are willing to marry another man's ex? What's the difference? If you love someone, you want to be with them. Child or adult. Turning away from all that love is incomprehensible to me. As I said before, I consider my SO's kids to be a plus.
Darren Taylor Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Absolutely not. If I was 30+, I'd probably would. But at 22, no. Like another poster said, why should I settle for a single mom when I have better options?
Woggle Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 "Another man's kids" is what really confuses me. But you are willing to marry another man's ex? What's the difference? If you love someone, you want to be with them. Child or adult. Turning away from all that love is incomprehensible to me. As I said before, I consider my SO's kids to be a plus. In the right circumstances if I were single I would have no issue being a stepdad but men are right for wanting to avoid the trend of women having a baby with a jerk and wanting a nice guy to raise it. That I would never go for.
thatone Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 i wonder how many people (of both the yes and no persuasion) have divorced/remarried parents and stepparents that they get along with? i have them on both sides, and get along with both sides. that might be why i'm not averse to dating women with kids since i'm getting into an age range where more single women have kids, it wasn't a terrible experience for me from the kid's perspective.
Darren Taylor Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 In the right circumstances if I were single I would have no issue being a stepdad but men are right for wanting to avoid the trend of women having a baby with a jerk and wanting a nice guy to raise it. That I would never go for. Yep, I'm not rewarding someone that made poor choices. You make a poor choice, you need to held accountable. I'm not raising another man's child. Choose better men next time.
sagetalk Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 1. "Another man's kids" is what really confuses me. But you are willing to marry another man's ex? What's the difference? If you love someone, you want to be with them. Child or adult. 2. Turning away from all that love is incomprehensible to me. As I said before, I consider my SO's kids to be a plus. 1. The kid is worse because it will likely have his (the ex) likeness. The woman won't because she isn't his kid. More than likely the guy was a total jerk (not in all cases), so take a guess why that's bad. 2. It's your decision, but I can completely understand why someone wouldn't want to as well.
sagetalk Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 It's the perfect set up for the Alpha Male jerk. You knock up some dumb broad and then she gets some beta male provider to foot the bill and raise his offspring into adulthood while your genetic line dies out. She lusts for the jerk while seeing you as nothing, but a wallet. No thanks Too late, every guy in here that pays taxes is already funding this behavior through government handouts. Go to a Walmart and ask the women with three kids and welfare if the kid's Dad is a great guy.
Shadesofgray Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Yeah.. I'm in my mid-20s. I will probably be single soon. I'm attractive, healthy and financially stable but I know I will probably be single forever once I am on my own. I think most of my female friends would go for men with kids, but single guy friends always think it's too much baggage. Maybe it's just a societal double standard, or maybe it's just that women tend to do more work with kids than the fathers most of the time. I am 25 and a single mother. I was very worried when the baby's father and I broke up last year. I have been seeing my boyfriend (he's 26) now for 3 months and he is fine with my having a child. It may seem discourging but there are plenty of men who don't mind. If a man really cares about you..then that won't matter..or it can be worked through. It's not always easy to date when you have a child but it can definitely be done.
loveshymanc Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 If I liked the girl enough then yes I would - Im 30 years old
Eve Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Haha, a lot of women do. They like to know that after they "knock it out" with Bad Boy, that there is a Nice Guy who will come in and provide and help raise their kid(s). I'm not willing to be putting so much energy to raising another man's kids though. Leave that to the Nice Guys on here. Jynxx is right on, by the way... Interesting assessment. I suppose I don't see children as a liability. Not all single parents are drama queens, nor are they in need of someone to look after their children. So saying, I imagine some are. I say if a woman was a bitch before she had children she will more than likely be a bitch after having them also. Men too. Does this make a single dad unattractive too? Why do people here diss women so much? I have never seen anything like it in real life. However for those who are actually decently trying to get on with their lives with children, hopefully he/she would pick up on negative attitudes such as yours 'imajerk' as not being conducive for children to be around and not pursue a relationship. That's that really. Gosh, at least allow a person their humanity! There are some mad attitudes here towards others. Like they are somehow any better, without any remote example of being so?! As if. Take care, Eve x
alexlakeman Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 I have kids, so I prefer to date single moms to they understand they are NOT the priority...nor am I.... so any single guy that is not a dad in your age bracket would probably prefer not to deal with kids at this stage in their lives if they don't have any of their own... Now, if I didn't have kids, I WOULD prefer to date women with NO kids.. Why date someone with baggage? (again, NOW they are not baggage on a woman, as "I" have kids as well). I think this just comes down to personal choice. Many single mothers would probably think the spider cobweb tattoo on my face would scare her baby lol How do you go for a job interview with a tattoo on the face is the question, forget about the single mothers, lol
NeoGen85 Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 I wouldn't, because I have no experience, and I don't want to be a father yet. Therefore, any relationship where the children came before me, and I wasn't able to "discover" what it was like in a relationship, wouldn't be ideal. People find that selfish but it's not. One of my best friends and I were really attracted to each other. We were in different places in our lives. She's a single mother who's obviously looking for a future husband, even though she tells me that's not the case. But almost every man she meets(and later leaves) becomes involved with her family and it is immediately a serious relationship. I know that for single mothers their child comes first. I am not asking to be placed on a pedestal above them(or even God for that matter). But she has to understand that at this part of our relationship a "child" isn't what I'm looking for. I want companionship with a woman. I also might believe that I'm not fit to be a father. But as the relationship grows there does come a time when you become willing to not only love her but the person she brought into this world. It's better to be patient. What people fail to realize is that you'll become blessed a thousand times over once it reaches that point.
lenny Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 Curiously, during one of our conversations, my boyfriend informed me that if guys were just looking for casual sex, guys went for the cougars and single moms. Some background ... he was quite the player in his past. Apparently, in general, they're less demanding, more realistic, and don't get all clingy and needy. The conversation never went to how datable either of these are (maybe because I'm a single mom).
thatone Posted May 16, 2011 Posted May 16, 2011 it's true. if you want friends with benefits, there are plenty of single mothers out there to go after. they get less attention because of the kids. they have less time because all of their free time is spent with the kids. less attention from men, less time for dating, more lonely. pretty simple equation.
milkmaterial Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 most guys here are brad pitt material, they have the luxury of choosing angelina jolie or megan fox looking women ...so i guess no. they are just here to offer us some advice but they are all good there are some nice guys here but the ones who posted 18-33 have got it made..dont even know why they are here in loveshack..being alpha and on top of their game. as for me i'd date a man w/ a kid as long as 1) ex-mom gets the F out of my face and out of their lives 2) kid is not a terror. spoiled brats dont cut it for me. not all kids by single parents are terrors anyway. the good ones just dont make it to the headlines, movie plots or discussions in forums. 3)as long as my life wont become financially worse by being with them. aka i dont want to solely pay for both man and child. it would just be kinda..unfair..ish. its kinda funny how we dont see threads made by a single dad asking if any single ladies would wanna date a single guy...and i wonder if these studs here ..if they become single dads ...would they wanna date or just order hookers?oh wait they cant...$$$
musemaj11 Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 most guys here are brad pitt material, they have the luxury of choosing angelina jolie or megan fox looking women ...so i guess no. they are just here to offer us some advice but they are all good there are some nice guys here but the ones who posted 18-33 have got it made..dont even know why they are here in loveshack..being alpha and on top of their game. as for me i'd date a man w/ a kid as long as 1) ex-mom gets the F out of my face and out of their lives 2) kid is not a terror. spoiled brats dont cut it for me. not all kids by single parents are terrors anyway. the good ones just dont make it to the headlines, movie plots or discussions in forums. 3)as long as my life wont become financially worse by being with them. aka i dont want to solely pay for both man and child. it would just be kinda..unfair..ish. its kinda funny how we dont see threads made by a single dad asking if any single ladies would wanna date a single guy...and i wonder if these studs here ..if they become single dads ...would they wanna date or just order hookers?oh wait they cant...$$$ You know what? Men are more likely to accept a woman and support her kids even if they arent his than the other way around. A man's love toward children are more universal than a womans. When a man has a problem with a single mother, the problem is not the kid. Its the thought that some other guy was screwing the woman and now its him who has to take care of his mess. Its the hatred for the other guy. This is why if the single mother is single because her child's father is dead, men are usually more accepting.
thatone Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 as for me i'd date a man w/ a kid as long as 1) ex-mom gets the F out of my face and out of their lives 2) kid is not a terror. spoiled brats dont cut it for me. not all kids by single parents are terrors anyway. the good ones just dont make it to the headlines, movie plots or discussions in forums. 3)as long as my life wont become financially worse by being with them. aka i dont want to solely pay for both man and child. it would just be kinda..unfair..ish. 1 and 3 will always be there. kids cost money. the other parent won't likely go away.
alphamale Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 Would you consider dating a single mom? Why or why not, and what is your age.. i am 46 Pros: single moms don't bug you as much they are easier to please since its harder for them to date they are hornier they tend to be more independent and responsible Cons: as a man you'll never be #1 in her life getting together and scheduling can be a big hassle her kid(s) may not like you and try to sabotage the relationship if you get along with her kids then breaking off the relationship is harder i personally could never help raise another mans kids
lolo1234 Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Wow glad I saw this topic. I'm 34 and I have two kids. I definitely think that some men are intimidated by the kid thing. It is a big responsibility. I've found for myself that men with kids of their own are much more open to women with kids as are men who are older than me. I have an online profile and I will occasionally get the emails from guys between 21 and 29 and I basically know what that's about. (looking for some milf action) So does that mean I have less options... yes and no. I have met many single dads who prefer to date a woman with kids. It just gives you a certain shared experience and understanding
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