soria Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Would you consider dating a single mom? Why or why not, and what is your age..
Rinnix Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I'm not a male, but this topic has come up here before. A few men said they would. More younger men said they wouldn't. It depends on the guy. I have friends with children ages 18-22 and they have had no problems getting dates regardless.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I wouldn't, because I have no experience, and I don't want to be a father yet. Therefore, any relationship where the children came before me, and I wasn't able to "discover" what it was like in a relationship, wouldn't be ideal.
TheLoneSock Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Would you consider dating a single mom? Why or why not, and what is your age.. No, I would not. Because I have far better options available to me. I'm 24.
Author soria Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 Oh. So I guess single mothers really are unwanted.
Rinnix Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 They aren't always unwanted. Many men do date women who have kids. You also often see men who have kids dating women with there own too. People who are younger are more focused on making a relationship, not always raising kids. (20's especially)
Mangomonkey Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I wouldnt because I'm not in a financially stable position but if that wasn't an issue i would. For the long term i don't see why not. Just cause you have a kid doesn't mean you don't deserve to be loved as much as the next person. Plus every situation is different. You could find a million guys to say no and those same million probably would depending on the circumstances.
thehead Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I am 29. No, I'd rather not date a single mother at this point in my life. The responsibilities of a child aren't ones I want to undertake. In the future, in my later 30s, I wouldn't mind. At this time though, I'm still establishing myself.
Author soria Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 They aren't always unwanted. Many men do date women who have kids. You also often see men who have kids dating women with there own too. People who are younger are more focused on making a relationship, not always raising kids. (20's especially) Yeah.. I'm in my mid-20s. I will probably be single soon. I'm attractive, healthy and financially stable but I know I will probably be single forever once I am on my own. I think most of my female friends would go for men with kids, but single guy friends always think it's too much baggage. Maybe it's just a societal double standard, or maybe it's just that women tend to do more work with kids than the fathers most of the time.
MrNate Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I'm going to have to say no at this point in my life as well. Why? I wouldn't be the top priority to her, even when I'm making her mine. So, no disrespect, but I rather not deal with kids that aren't mine.
thehead Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 (edited) Oh. So I guess single mothers really are unwanted. Whoa, whoa. Not true. I didn't see this post or I would have edited mine to say "Not.True. It's all about timing. Enough men who are ready to settle down won't balk about you having a child. In my 30s, I know I wouldn't. Don't see you being a parent as a liability." Edited May 13, 2011 by thehead
Untouchable_Fire Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Yeah.. I'm in my mid-20s. I will probably be single soon. I'm attractive, healthy and financially stable but I know I will probably be single forever once I am on my own. I think most of my female friends would go for men with kids, but single guy friends always think it's too much baggage. Maybe it's just a societal double standard, or maybe it's just that women tend to do more work with kids than the fathers most of the time. No... You just will be forced to give up dating jerkoffs. Nice guys don't care if you have kids.
somedude81 Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I wouldn't, because I have no experience, and I don't want to be a father yet. Therefore, any relationship where the children came before me, and I wasn't able to "discover" what it was like in a relationship, wouldn't be ideal. I'm 29 and my reason is the exact same as Muse.
carhill Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Old topic... No problem. Dated plenty of them when I was single in my 20's and 30's. Why? I liked kids and had no issues with being a step-father. Now, I still like kids, but more like a grandfather, where they visit and leave Age is under tricycle boy.
Jynxx Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 No way in hell. I'm not ready to be a parent, certainly not one for a child that isn't mine, and most importantly I'd like to be the most important person in my girlfriends life, which won't and shouldn't ever happen with a woman who has children. I'm 25
Dust Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 No I always had a strong no mothers policy. (I’m in my upper 20’s)
Jimmyson Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I'm 20 and yes I would, providing the kid is not a baby but a young lad (2+) I'd have no problem dating a girl with a bairn it all comes part of the package, I've always wanted a few kids of my own.
Dust Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 If she was a widow it would take out the other guy element.
Jimmyson Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 If she was a widow it would take out the other guy element. I think the OP is referring to younger single mothers as to the older more mature.
Dust Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I think the OP is referring to younger single mothers as to the older more mature. I know she is, it still goes to the main reason I wouldn't mess with a single mother. (other guy)(kids to a lesser extent)
Jimmyson Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I know she is, it still goes to the main reason I wouldn't mess with a single mother. (other guy)(kids to a lesser extent) I guess that is your opinion, but surely if a girl is genuine a bairn shouldn't stop your chances with her? It's not like she's did lots of one night stands and has a reputation or anything.
Ross MwcFan Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I'm 35. It depends on the age of her kid. If her kid or kids are over a certain age and they had their own place, then yes. If her kid or kids were still kids, then no I wouldn't, as I don't want to look after kids, I know I'd be crap at looking after kids, and I wouldn't feel comfortable playing the role of a father.
Jimmyson Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I think this just comes down to personal choice. Many single mothers would probably think the spider cobweb tattoo on my face would scare her baby lol
Someguy1978 Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Generally I would tend to avoid someone with kids. I would consider it though if we really hit it off - they would however need to be something special. I am 32.
Jazzari Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I was a divorced single mother with a 3 year old son when I met my husband. We dated for about 3 years and then got married. We were both in our early 20s. It was never an issue for him. He loved my son just as much as he loved me. He adopted him 2 years after we married. The men I dated before I met my husband never had a problem with it. But I was never willing to let them near my son and a few were a little taken aback by that. My husband was the only exception and I was very sure of him before I allowed it. Dating with a small child has some concerns but in my experience, it was all on my part. I never lacked for dates and I never felt like it was a problem.
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