lalalandman Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 (edited) 5 year relationship. Pretty rocky last 2-3 months. She basically dumps me because I said I wasn't happy with how things were going. We were just fighting alot. Mostly her, and she knows it. But we adore each other and everything. Anyways, she dumps me. For like the 10th time. I spend a good week trying to convince her back. Saying how we should work things out. Her mom gets on the phone and tells me to stay away and that she doesn't want to speak with me and won't talk to me anymore. I tell her mom she's wrong. Anyways, I'm texting her alot. Every reply goes something like, "We are too different, we'll never work out, something is missing. just stop it, Goodbye, I'm not replying anymore after this". Then I'll tell her how she's wrong or what we can do to reconcile, and of course she will text back. Over and over. Finally, she apparently calls my mom. My mom says "My son loves you very much, but if you're hurting alot and always crying and feel sick to your stomach, I agree to the breakup". She tells me "See even your mom says so" and I say "Even if God came down from the heavens and told me we weren't meant to be, I wouldn't believe it". So then I start saying things like "One day, you're going to wake up, and feel STUPID. And you're going to look back to this week and wish you had more fight in you. You're going to be with some douche your parents approve of, and miss me. You will, and you'll feel DUMB CAUSE THAT'S WHAT YOU ARE!" She responds "we're too different. And you're trying to make me feel guilty. That's why I don't want to be with you." So she then calls my mom again the next day, and my mom says basically "Listen, if you don't want to be with my son, don't text him, don't call him. But stop putting him through emotional rollercoasters. He's a good person, he loves you, if you don't want to work things out, just don't talk to him." In a nice way. This comes a week and a half of me trying to convince her to reconcile, and a day later, I text "I let my emotions get the best of me. I don't mean to make you feel guilty, I just have high expectations. I understand now. Sorry for hurting you. P'ce" She replies with "I don't hate you. Just please accept we're too different and won't work out. I talked with your mom again and I really adore her". My final text is "You can accept what you want. The only thing I accept is that I've done wrong and caused the girl I love pain and suffering. Like I said, I'm sorry for hurting you. I can move on. I don't have anything else to say" END I'm doing pretty well, and um, well, I sort of went straight into the dating scene. Already gone out with a couple people who are seeing me again. Everyone is different and the last thing I'm going to do is sit around and wallow in my sorrows. Sorry. Yes I love her very much. This doesn't mean I don't love her. In my mind, she is stupid. She's retarded. Yet I understand that she's been in pain these past months. I feel horrible, but if she doesn't want to work things out then it's on her. And she's an idiot. Maybe she's not an idiot, but to me she is. anyways, any comments or advice, please? Edited May 13, 2011 by lalalandman
rayne05us Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Great!!! It sounds like you're on the right track...just make sure you give yourself some time if you need it; don't think thats a bad thing. Everyone's different...but stay positive!!
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