RetroFan00 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I have a habit of continuously texting my boyfriend over and over again out of anxiousness, and until he finally texts me back. Well, yesterday when I spoke to him on the phone, he sounded annoyed by the fact that I continued to text him over and over again. Especially after he told me he was busy doing something. He told me that it's a turn-off and it does annoy him when I send so many texts while he's busy. We continued to talk on the phone for about an hour, and he mentioned that we had so much fun this past weekend; so he couldn't understand why I would think his feelings for me would change so quickly to the point where he wouldn't love or care about me anymore. Some time after the phone convo, we started texting back and forth late at night. The texts between us were flirty and intimate. But after awhile, he abruptly stopped texting me. I texted him three more times and he didn't respond. I texted him once today regarding the fact that I sent a college project in, and I know I'm going to receive an A+. I left it at that, but he still hasn't responded. Do you think he's finally fed up with my bombarding of texts? Do you think he now views me as annoying and clingy? Is it possible for me to make a smooth comeback by backing off or is it too late?
CrestfallenNoMore Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Do you know why you're so insecure? I'd examine that about yourself if you don't. Otherwise, you won't be able to back off, because the incessant texting has nothing to do with him; it's a pattern you'll repeat in future relationships. I'd leave him alone for now and trust that he'll get in touch with you. It hasn't even been a day.
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Are they random thoughts-type texts or whiny "where are you?" texts. The former is ok with me, the latter gets annoying quickly. I would not send him any more texts til he responds.
Author RetroFan00 Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 (edited) Are they random thoughts-type texts or whiny "where are you?" texts. The former is ok with me, the latter gets annoying quickly. I would not send him any more texts til he responds. They were random thought type texts as well as an "Are you okay?" type of text. The thing in which I don't understand is that when I don't text him back fast enough he'll ask me where I am, or what am I doing. This past weekend, I left his house and got into a cab. I hadn't even gotten home yet and within a 9 minute period, he texted me twice, "R U okay?" Honestly, I didn't even think to look at my phone while I was in the cab. But when I had gotten home, I saw his texts and I called him. He told me to respond to his texts quicker next time. Or last week, while I was speaking on the phone, he texted me. And when I failed to answer him within a 10 minute period, he interrupted my call. I answered him and he asked me, "Who were you talking to?" Why is it okay for him to do this, but in my case it isn't? I'm simply puzzled by it. But yet, here I am thinking I've blown it with him forever. Edited May 13, 2011 by RetroFan00
sanskrit Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Stop the texting entirely. If he texts, call him and say that your phone isn't sending texts any more (you needn't tell him it's because you aren't pressing the buttons to make and send the texts). Wait for him to call you and keep your time occupied such that your relationship is a nice part of your life, not the whole of it.
TokyoG33kyGal Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 uh oh, if he's suspicious then hmnn... just wait for him to respond. when he does, do not reply right away and see if he will ask you where you were or anything like that. if he does then you should be alarmed. i believe there are reasons we get anxious sometimes, i think it might be woman's instinct but i can be wrong.
RecordProducer Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 (edited) The thing in which I don't understand is that when I don't text him back fast enough he'll ask me where I am, or what am I doing. This past weekend, I left his house and got into a cab. I hadn't even gotten home yet and within a 9 minute period, he texted me twice, "R U okay?" Honestly, I didn't even think to look at my phone while I was in the cab. But when I had gotten home, I saw his texts and I called him. He told me to respond to his texts quicker next time. Or last week, while I was speaking on the phone, he texted me. And when I failed to answer him within a 10 minute period, he interrupted my call. I answered him and he asked me, "Who were you talking to?" Oooooooooohhhh... I get the picture now. He is a control freak. A CF will control YOU, but will not let you have control over him. It's not the texts he minds - he loves them, trust me. Besides, we live in a texting world. He just wants to show you that you're not that important, that you're bothering him, that you're annoying, etc. by not responding and by telling you how insecure (or whatever bad thing) you are. CFs want to make you insecure and vulnerable so they can gain and retain power over you. I was married to one. To this day, he'll hang upon me, but when he calls back if I don't respond, he leaves messages saying "I can never reach you, I don't even know why you have a phone!" Sure, I have a phone so I can answer when HE calls and not because I need the phone to make my own calls. If you must keep this guy in your life, don't show any insecurity ever! You have to be unattainable, above him, hard to get - but calm and cheerful. For as long as he is fighting for your attention, he can't move onto the next step: gaining power and control over you. By telling you to answer quicker, he is trying to move onto that step, but you're not letting him do that if you are not answering your phone. On the other hand, when you are texting him repeatedly, he is moving onto the next step. CFs are a lot of unwanted drama. My advice: stay away from him, but somebody has to marry (and divorce) those creeps, too. Edited May 13, 2011 by RecordProducer
makelemonade1974 Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I'm afraid Record is right on with this one. I think insecurity in a relationship can very well be brought about (or exploited / amplified) by your partner. I went through a similar dance with my ex - he complained that I texted too much or became upset when he did not respond, yet if he wasn't able to get hold of me immediately, it was "why are you ignoring me?" You can call this type of guy a Control Freak, emotionally unavailable, a narcissist, whatever, but Record is right in saying that your BF wants you to realize he's the important one - that he can't be bothered, yet you must always be available. And yes, the way to keep him is to appear unattainable, independent, etc. and give him something to chase. I would suggest looking outside the relationship for self-esteem, validation, etc. because you aren't going to get it from this guy. And realize that it takes TWO people to ruin a relationship. If you must stay with this guy, think of text like ping-pong - he sends you one, you send one back, etc. etc. If you don't get the ball, don't hit it back. Simple enough. Sounds like a symptom of a bigger problem though. I remember my ex and I fighting because he turned off his phone and didn't answer my text while he was out getting drunk with another woman. Of course, it was my fault because I text too much. Careful with this guy.
sanskrit Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Too much texting can create the appearance of all sorts of illusory emotional problems that aren't really there. Saying again, both of you try to stop the texting entirely and communicate via Email, phone and face-to-face only. We only had phone, snailmail and face-to-face when I was in my teens and early 20s, and phones were things attached to walls or on tables that you had to -go to- to use. We never had these nutty ass texting problems that seem to create a significant portion of relationship issues these days.
Author RetroFan00 Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 (edited) Not too long ago, I was on here feeling sorry for myself because I truly thought it was over when I didn't want it to be. But now, I'm slowly seeing the light in terms of his actions and words. I was so blind to it because I felt I had to appease him so I wouldn't lose him. I'm aware that I have to work on my own insecurities and flaws, but he's basically a child trapped inside the body of a 34 year-old man. Another example: We were texting each other the night before last night, and the last to text was me at 1-something AM eastern time. Not too long after that I went to sleep. I did wake up at about 9-something AM to see if he had sent me another text in the middle of the night, but he didn't. I went back to sleep and then woke up again at 12-something noon (if it's possible for someone to sleep for 8 hours, then it's definitely possible for someone to sleep for 10 hours, but he didn't seem to believe me). So he texted me later that day at about 5-something PM, and the very first thing he asked me was, "Where were you last night? I didn't hear from you." I told him I had fallen asleep, and then I proceeded to ask him why he hadn't texted me either after my last text. He mentioned that he thought I would be busy. Really? Busy at that time of morning? Eastern time? LOL! It sounded as if he didn't believe me anyway, and began acting differently toward me from that point on. I also asked him if he was busy at the time I had sent my last text. He told me was designing at that time. The fact of the matter is that he couldn't have known either way if I was busy or sleeping if he hadn't texted me to find out. But again, he didn't. I started feeling so guilty and that I had blown it with him. I also started thinking that I should've kept texting him so he wouldn't change on me, and suspect that I was lying when I truly wasn't. But now, I'm thinking he's just a control freak as mentioned, and that he has underlying issues of his very own in which have nothing to do with me. He has trust issues with women period; so therefore, I was a total fool for thinking that I would be different in his eyes and would be the one to change his negative view about, as he referenced it, "the ways of women". I turned my phone off last night; so if he's contacted me I wouldn't know. And honestly, I don't want to know. The only thing in which I can say I was wrong for was my incessant texting, which I'm aware can be annoying and can be viewed as clingy and needy, but he's in the wrong as well. He had the nerve to try to convince me that it was ME and not HIM. In terms of my insecurities, I can understand that. But coming from HIM? It's laughable. He's a jealous person himself so he had no place to tell me anything. One more thing, I was the main one initiating contact and he hardly ever called me. His main means of communication with me was texting. So most of the time when I would call him he wouldn't answer his phone. Edited May 13, 2011 by RetroFan00
Nexus One Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Do you think he's finally fed up with my bombarding of texts? Yes. Do you think he now views me as annoying and clingy? Yes and above all, controlling. Is it possible for me to make a smooth comeback by backing off or is it too late? Keep it reasonable from now on. He now knows you are capable of behavior like this. He probably sees it as controlling. I know a guy that is right now in the exact same situation your boyfriend is in. His girlfriend calls him all the time and he has to report to her about everything. He told me he's going to break up with her over that. I would probably do the same, because his girlfriend is insanely controlling, up to the point that it is scary. I saw some of the texts she sent him and also overheard a phone conversation of theirs and her extreme wanting of attention ALL THE TIME had a "crazy vibe" written all over it, up to the point that she didn't want him to work overtime or let him take me for a drive in a car he really likes.
nordic Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I have a habit of continuously texting my boyfriend over and over again out of anxiousness, and until he finally texts me back. Well, yesterday when I spoke to him on the phone, he sounded annoyed by the fact that I continued to text him over and over again. Especially after he told me he was busy doing something. He told me that it's a turn-off and it does annoy him when I send so many texts while he's busy. We continued to talk on the phone for about an hour, and he mentioned that we had so much fun this past weekend; so he couldn't understand why I would think his feelings for me would change so quickly to the point where he wouldn't love or care about me anymore. Some time after the phone convo, we started texting back and forth late at night. The texts between us were flirty and intimate. But after awhile, he abruptly stopped texting me. I texted him three more times and he didn't respond. I texted him once today regarding the fact that I sent a college project in, and I know I'm going to receive an A+. I left it at that, but he still hasn't responded. Do you think he's finally fed up with my bombarding of texts? Do you think he now views me as annoying and clingy? Is it possible for me to make a smooth comeback by backing off or is it too late? you are fine baby. it is not down to these things anyway most often. just take it easy.
makelemonade1974 Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I think some people view texting as conversation, whereas for others it's just for emergencies and sort of an annoyance when the phone keeps going on. I don't think, as others have said, that this is some sort of symptom of your "craziness" or "insecurity." You seem perfectly able to give up the habit. The fact is - we are addicted to the technology, and addicted to our lovers when we are in love. You are getting some sort of "rush" every time that beep goes off because you feel connected to him when he's not there. The bottom line, IMO, is that you are not getting what you need emotionally in the relationship and are being made to feel like it's "all your fault." On the other hand, you are probably over-reacting just a bit. Just take it easy on the texting, and think of it like ping-pong, like I said. Men (especially emotionally unavailable men who can't express themselves) DO feel that always wanting to be in contact is trying to "control" them, and they will resist like crazy because THEY want to be the ones in charge - it's just evolutionary. Men who have girlfriends that are controlling feel emasculated.
Author RetroFan00 Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 (edited) Keep it reasonable from now on. He now knows you are capable of behavior like this. He probably sees it as controlling. I know a guy that is right now in the exact same situation your boyfriend is in. His girlfriend calls him all the time and he has to report to her about everything. He told me he's going to break up with her over that. I would probably do the same, because his girlfriend is insanely controlling, up to the point that it is scary. I saw some of the texts she sent him and also overheard a phone conversation of theirs and her extreme wanting of attention ALL THE TIME had a "crazy vibe" written all over it, up to the point that she didn't want him to work overtime or let him take me for a drive in a car he really likes. Honestly, it probably is over between us. Also, when we spoke on the phone the night before last night, my words and tone was forthright. I didn't beg, plead, or anything of that nature. I basically stood my ground and at the same time I owned up to my behavior in terms of texting. He told me I was being a smart-ass, and he also told me that he was going to spank my ass if I didn't quit getting smart with him. He said it jokingly, but I didn't find the humor in it. There is something about texting in which causes me to be self-conscious and emotional, but on the phone it's a different story. Edited May 13, 2011 by RetroFan00
CrestfallenNoMore Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Based on the additional information you've provided, I'd like to amend my first response. You seem very intelligent and pretty emotionally stable to me. I'd listen to that "ways of women" remark. It's ok to go through periods of cynicism, but to adopt that attitude about an entire gender will color his views about relationships forever. I'm guessing I have a few years on you, so I'll just say that one should never fall into the trap of thinking you'll "be the one" the change anything about anybody; however they've treated partners before you is how they'll treat you barring some significant and meaningful self-examination and emotional work on their part.
Author RetroFan00 Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 I think some people view texting as conversation, whereas for others it's just for emergencies and sort of an annoyance when the phone keeps going on. I don't think, as others have said, that this is some sort of symptom of your "craziness" or "insecurity." You seem perfectly able to give up the habit. The fact is - we are addicted to the technology, and addicted to our lovers when we are in love. You are getting some sort of "rush" every time that beep goes off because you feel connected to him when he's not there. The bottom line, IMO, is that you are not getting what you need emotionally in the relationship and are being made to feel like it's "all your fault." On the other hand, you are probably over-reacting just a bit. Just take it easy on the texting, and think of it like ping-pong, like I said. Men (especially emotionally unavailable men who can't express themselves) DO feel that always wanting to be in contact is trying to "control" them, and they will resist like crazy because THEY want to be the ones in charge - it's just evolutionary. Men who have girlfriends that are controlling feel emasculated. I agree and understand. This is certainly a learning experience for me, and next time, I'll know to ease up and not make the same mistake again.
Nexus One Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 I don't think, as others have said, that this is some sort of symptom of your "craziness" or "insecurity." You seem perfectly able to give up the habit. I didn't meant to imply OP was giving off crazy vibes, although her many texts would give off such a vibe, but she has indicated she can tone it down if she wants to. That's different from the example I mentioned, because the woman in that example refuses to tone it down. Then again I don't know OP, so I can't really tell. Regarding that example; we went for a drive anyway and his girlfriend called saying she didn't like the fact that he(her boyfriend) defied her. He told her "you better get used to it". He then said to me that he had it with her and that "she's not the one", "this will not last much longer, I'm going to break up with her". Back to OP again. I don't think he'd necessarily break up with you over it if you genuinely changed your behavior. Most guys can get over their girlfriend being insecure, most guys cannot however get over a girlfriend that is controlling, let alone controlling up to the point that they think she's batsh*t insane. Many guys would definitely break up over that, it's simply a limit that many if not most guys have.
Author RetroFan00 Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 (edited) I didn't meant to imply OP was giving off crazy vibes, although her many texts would give off such a vibe, but she has indicated she can tone it down if she wants to. That's different from the example I mentioned, because the woman in that example refuses to tone it down. Then again I don't know OP, so I can't really tell. Regarding that example; we went for a drive anyway and his girlfriend called saying she didn't like the fact that he(her boyfriend) defied her. He told her "you better get used to it". He then said to me that he had it with her and that "she's not the one", "this will not last much longer, I'm going to break up with her". Back to OP again. I don't think he'd necessarily break up with you over it if you genuinely changed your behavior. Most guys can get over their girlfriend being insecure, most guys cannot however get over a girlfriend that is controlling, let alone controlling up to the point that they think she's batsh*t insane. Many guys would definitely break up over that, it's simply a limit that many if not most guys have. According to what you've mentioned regarding the girlfriend (or soon-to-be ex-girlfriend) of the guy you know of, even I'm sitting here shocked by her behavior. He's right and I'm on his side because she sounds impossible to deal with, and also off her rocker. Defiance? I have never told my boyfriend not to defy me as if he's my child and I'm his mother. It isn't that serious nor has it ever been. But the incessant texting on my part is enough. Also, I may have said some things on the phone the night before last night in which may have rubbed him the wrong way. I didn't insult him in any form, but I did say what was on my mind. I didn't mince my words. After the convo, I began doubting myself and thinking, "Maybe I shouldn't have said this or that." But he didn't indicate that he felt insulted; except for his so-called playful threat of spanking my ass if I didn't quit getting smart with him. He's right that I do have the tendency to jump to conclusions; especially when I don't hear from him for at least 2 days. After the convo, we continued to text back and forth, but he simply stopped afterwhile. Maybe I should've stopped as well. His texts didn't seem angry although of course, it's quite difficult to determine one's mood at the time of a certain text. If he truly wanted to break up with me, he didn't tell me directly that he wanted to do so. If he did leave me hanging with the intention of not letting me know that he no longer wants to be with me, then I have no control over that. Although I would expect him to be upfront about it instead of simply leaving me in the dust; especially since he mentioned to me that he doesn't bite his tongue for anyone. Edited May 13, 2011 by RetroFan00
Author RetroFan00 Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Update: I finally checked my phone tonight, and found that my boyfriend had texted me three times within a two day-period. He basically asked me if I'm okay, what's wrong, and that he hadn't heard from me. First I called him with no answer, and then I texted him only once explaining that I wanted to give him some space because my texting had become incessant. Also, I told him that I felt as if I were coming off as needy and annoying. He hasn't responded, but I'm going to leave it at that one text I sent. If he responds, I'm going to keep my cool and take makelemonade1974's advice of Ping-Pong texting. I'm not going to bombard him again until he responds that's for sure. Never again will I do that. However, my explaination for not responding to his texts may not be good enough in his eyes. We'll see though.
RecordProducer Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 (edited) But the incessant texting on my part is enough. Also, I may have said some things on the phone the night before last night in which may have rubbed him the wrong way. I didn't insult him in any form, but I did say what was on my mind. I didn't mince my words. After the convo, I began doubting myself and thinking, "Maybe I shouldn't have said this or that." But he didn't indicate that he felt insulted; except for his so-called playful threat of spanking my ass if I didn't quit getting smart with him. He's right that I do have the tendency to jump to conclusions; especially when I don't hear from him for at least 2 days. After the convo, we continued to text back and forth, but he simply stopped afterwhile. Maybe I should've stopped as well. His texts didn't seem angry although of course, it's quite difficult to determine one's mood at the time of a certain text. If he truly wanted to break up with me, he didn't tell me directly that he wanted to do so. If he did leave me hanging with the intention of not letting me know that he no longer wants to be with me, then I have no control over that. Although I would expect him to be upfront about it instead of simply leaving me in the dust; especially since he mentioned to me that he doesn't bite his tongue for anyone.Retro, what I see in you is heart-breaking since you're such a sweet and smart young woman. Putting up with somebody's crap is not the worst thing in a relationship: the worst thing is when you blame yourself for all the crap. You have this circuitous drama going on in your head, lots of questions and no answers, because he is messing with your mind. You are full of life and he is a dead person. He wants to turn you into his marionette and you're partly accepting it because you think he loves you - and he does love you, but he doesn't know how to love and make someone happy. He told you text messaging was his way of communication and he doesn't answer his phone when you call? Can you see how wrong this is? Phone conversations are an irreplaceable part of any relationship when people can't see each other. His preferred tool of communication is the most impersonal and cold one. He can't be the one to set the rules in the relationship. My ex-husband did that, but he ended up being three times divorced at 54. By the way, I am confused about something: are you guys in a long-distance relationship? I don't hear you say you ever see each other. Edited May 14, 2011 by RecordProducer
ladyinlimbo Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Holy crap, stop with the texting!!!!! It's so juvenile. The odd text is fine but when couples can't go 2 hours without texting, it's insanity. I think texting is intrusive. If I don't answer right away because maybe, just MAYBE, I am busy doing something.......or don't really feel like just dropping everything and being at someone's beck and call to respond right then.......then suddenly there's this perception that I'm ignoring them, or am angry, or ................ then there's a potential misunderstanding or hurt feelings or insecurity, bla bla bla. If I'm at home and phone rings, I answer it IF I feel like it. If someone rings my doorbell, I answer it IF I feel like it. But with texting, there seems to be this expectation that one must respond IMMEDIATELY......because they should have their phone on them 24/7. Ugh! Now we've become a society where, based on technology, we must always be accessible around the clock and if we're not, god forbid, well then we've got some 'splainin to do. What a crock. I'm in my early 40s and I hate texting. I feel it's intrusive. The fact that someone can reach me 24/7 and everytime my phone beeps I feel like I'm obligated to stop what I'm doing and respond.........and if I can't, when I do I feel the need to explain why I couldn't respond earlier. WTH? That's crazy. I don't have to account for my time and activities to anyone and long before texting was available, people in relationships managed to get by by not having 24/7 access to one another. Stop it, both of you, with the damn texting. It's so junior high. Adults have busy lives and responsibilities and it's not healthy to be communicating with one another 24/7. Both people need some space. So many misunderstandings can happen from texting. Nevermind what he does, stop YOUR obsessive texting and work on your own insecurities. It's not normal or healthy to keep sending text after text after text (particularly when getting no response)......it's neurotic and the sign of deeper problems. If you know someone is busy, leave them the heck alone, respect that they're busy and can't nor should they just drop what they're doing to pander to your text. Sheesh!
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Holy crap, stop with the texting!!!!! It's so juvenile. The odd text is fine but when couples can't go 2 hours without texting, it's insanity. This sums it up right here. I have phone, text, and email all on the same device, but the only one I respond to with any regularity is email. I rarely answer calls unless I know it's urgent, and if I do answer a text right away the most I will respond with is one short sentence fragment. Homie don't play texting.
Author RetroFan00 Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Retro, what I see in you is heart-breaking since you're such a sweet and smart young woman. Putting up with somebody's crap is not the worst thing in a relationship: the worst thing is when you blame yourself for all the crap. You have this circuitous drama going on in your head, lots of questions and no answers, because he is messing with your mind. You are full of life and he is a dead person. He wants to turn you into his marionette and you're partly accepting it because you think he loves you - and he does love you, but he doesn't know how to love and make someone happy. He told you text messaging was his way of communication and he doesn't answer his phone when you call? Can you see how wrong this is? Phone conversations are an irreplaceable part of any relationship when people can't see each other. His preferred tool of communication is the most impersonal and cold one. He can't be the one to set the rules in the relationship. My ex-husband did that, but he ended up being three times divorced at 54. By the way, I am confused about something: are you guys in a long-distance relationship? I don't hear you say you ever see each other. Actually, we live in the same city and we see other at least twice a week. When we don't see each other, we speak on the phone but not for long, and the calls are mainly initiated by me. I have mentioned to him that we should cut down on the texting, and speak on the phone more often. It simply went into one ear and out of the other. He mentioned that he isn't a "phone person". I understand that some people aren't fond of speaking on the phone for long periods of time, but using texting as a main means of communication is ridiculous. At times, I lose touch of his tone because of it and I can't stand it. And of course it doesn't allow a display of real emotion. I actually loathe it, but appeasing him seemed to be one of my focuses. Some of his actions do reflect that of someone who is emotionally unavailable, and at times I believe that I'm being punished because of a relationship in which went wrong between himself and his ex-girlfriend.
Nexus One Posted May 15, 2011 Posted May 15, 2011 Actually, we live in the same city and we see other at least twice a week. When we don't see each other, we speak on the phone but not for long, and the calls are mainly initiated by me. I have mentioned to him that we should cut down on the texting, and speak on the phone more often. It simply went into one ear and out of the other. He mentioned that he isn't a "phone person". I understand that some people aren't fond of speaking on the phone for long periods of time, but using texting as a main means of communication is ridiculous. At times, I lose touch of his tone because of it and I can't stand it. And of course it doesn't allow a display of real emotion. I actually loathe it, but appeasing him seemed to be one of my focuses. Some of his actions do reflect that of someone who is emotionally unavailable, and at times I believe that I'm being punished because of a relationship in which went wrong between himself and his ex-girlfriend. Why not schedule in more face2face time?
Author RetroFan00 Posted May 15, 2011 Author Posted May 15, 2011 Well, the status of us now is beyond me. We did talk yesterday morning, and then hours later I texted him once, he answered, and then I texted him in response to his text. That was the end of it, and he hasn't contacted me since then. I may be over-analyzing again as well as over-reacting, but for some reason I'm thinking that he's punishing me for not having contacted him for two days. I'm thinking negatively again although anything could be happening on his side in which is unknown to me. Right now I'm thinking he's totally done with me this time; never to see him again nor hear from him again. Our convo on the phone yesterday morning went so well and we said our I love yous before hanging up, and now I'm thinking he's changed his mind within a one-day period and no longer wants to be with me. Any input?
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