conehead Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 It seems that at one point or another, a guy will eventually ask me about my past relationships -- how long each lasted, why things didn't work out etc. Personally, I don't like talking about my past. I had some pretty crappy relationships and would rather not talk about them....I'm all about looking ahead. However, guys usually get curious because they see it as part of getting to know each other, which is understandable. My question is, if I meet a great guy and end up dating him for years and eventually marrying him and have kinds (super hypothetical i know lol)...will it be healthy and practical that I just NEVER tell him about my past relationships? Will it be ok and work if we spend the rest of our lives with him not knowing about it? Or does a marriage/relationship only work if we are completely honest with each other and know everything about each other?
alphamale Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 some skeletons should be left in the closet forever
vsmini Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 some skeletons should be left in the closet forever 1 or 2 skeletons but anything more than that is just bad news. You can say they just didn't work out. I would be alarmed at both extremes IE: if someone was not willing to talk about it AT ALL and if the guy kept pestering you about the details. It's the past - all that is important is that you learned from it and are honest now.
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 When we first started dating, my wife and I told each other about some of the boyfriends/girlfriends we have dated in the past, but never too much info. We agreed early on not to talk much about our past love lives so as not to make each other jealous, and we have never disclosed our "number" to each other. Seven years later and we're still happily married...
Untouchable_Fire Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 My question is, if I meet a great guy and end up dating him for years and eventually marrying him and have kids (super hypothetical i know lol)...will it be healthy and practical that I just NEVER tell him about my past relationships? Will it be ok and work if we spend the rest of our lives with him not knowing about it? Or does a marriage/relationship only work if we are completely honest with each other and know everything about each other? If he asks... tell him. If not... who cares? If he asks and you won't tell.... that is a problem.
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