milkmaterial Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 this is getting out of hand, i try to be friends but it just i cant hold a normal conversation with him without seemingly having an agenda of my own. i am thinking of really doing soemthing drastic and pulling out my whole life away from his until i can wake up and not even remember hsi first name, his last name or what he looks like. i cant fathom the thought of having a family and having kids and still having this weird nagging attachment to soemone who rejected me for some reason until now i do not even know.. i dont think i ever felt like this before, why the **** do we pursue something that runs away from us? i mean i am not even pursuing anymore im just feeling so ****ing unhappy not being able to hold a normal conversation with him i mean if it is attachment then how long do i sever a bond ..im starting to get really mad..and scared. it wil almost be 8 months soon and please dnt tell me i havent yet moved on cause i really do, hes wasted my time enough
proactivedreamer Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Have you tried no contact? I mean zero contact? What sort of activities are you involved in? You just need more time. In addition, you might need to take some more space-that means no more contact till you don't have any ulterior motives.Be easy on yourself. you will get through this tough time.
radiodarcy Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 just go full out strict NC. no IM'ing, texting, e-mailing nothing. i too tried being friends with my ex and it was a disaster. when the conversations weren't feeling awkward or forced; he would seem to initiate these pissing matches to see who was getting along better after the break up - - him or me. of course - - it was always him ; because he's the one who dumped me, duh! lol anyway -- i decided enough was enough and just put an end to it. and i'm feeling so much better. don't get me wrong, it wasn't easy to stop talking to someone i'd been friends with for close to six years and been intimate with for the last 2 and half years. but the longer we stayed friends, the more i realized things had changed too much for us to remain as such. so i decided it was just best to cut my losses and sever those ties for good.
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