beanzmom Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Hi everyone: I want to preface this with the fact that my marriage is ending soon. That being said, I'm extremely interested in a guy. Let's call him...Steve. Steve and I work together. He makes me happier than any man has ever made me. And there is absolutely no physical contact between us. It's all friendship-type stuff. BUT there is a LOT of flirting. Steve is a natural, innocent flirt. I've seen him do it with other people. It's all a part of his personality. And that's what makes him, HIM. Okay, so before I fall completely head-over-heels for this guy (and hopefully not make an ass of myself and declare my feelings for him and ruin a friendship), here's some things you need to know: 1. Steve is living with his GF. She is horrible to him, and he's nearly at the point of saying goodbye. He claims she is going to lunch with an ex BF and spending a lot of time texting and calling him, and that it's a matter of time before she goes back to him. When GF calls Steve, and he's with me (in my office, at lunch, whatever), he leaves to take the call. He has lied to her about where he was and who he was with, so that he didn't have to listen to her yell at him that he takes ME out to lunch, his friend, but he never takes HER out (he does...she's just nuts). 2. Steve's office is directly across the hall from mine. Each time he exits his office, he does a funny little dance, makes a face, or some other thing to make me smile/laugh. 3. There is an undeniable chemistry between us. You can feel it. It could very well be my imagination, but others have commented on it. 4. Steve and I go out to lunch...a LOT. He pays sometimes, others we split. Most of the time, he will pay if he has the $$$. WE went out to lunch today, going dutch. He realized he still had the receipt in his wallet and made the comment that he had to throw it away before his GF saw it. I asked why, and he said that she sees receipts and says, "OH, you went out to lunch AGAIN with BEANZMOM..." He said she asks what I look like, etc. Yes, I have a crush on him, but I'm being honorable and so is he. 5. He has opened up to me in really amazing ways. Something horrible happened to him as a child and told me about it. I don't know why he did, but he did. I think it brought me closer to him. He talks to me about nearly everything that matters/is bothering him. We share a LOT, I talk to him a lot about my failing marriage, so he's aware as to where I am emotionally. 6. The LOOK. His face softens when he looks at me. His eyes light up a bit. He smiles. So here's my question: Do you think there is an attraction there, or could it be my imagination?
VicJay79 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 BeanzMom, I am so sorry about your marriage ending. Divorces are always hard to go through, and I am glad you have someone hopefully to help you through it. This being said, it might be best to fully move into a relationship after your DIVORCE has been finalized, as divorces can get really nasty really quickly! It does seem that you guys do get a long a lot. However you guys ALSO work together which could be the biggest hurdle in your situation. Its one thing to date someone, its another thing to date someone where you WORK. The last thing you want is office drama, and etc. These are somethings you might want to consider. If your 'man-crush' is very career driven, he might try to stay away from this because of the damage it might cause his careeer and etc. If 'man-crush' doesn't care, his body language and actions do seem to be indicative of him liking you! Hi everyone: I want to preface this with the fact that my marriage is ending soon. That being said, I'm extremely interested in a guy. Let's call him...Steve. Steve and I work together. He makes me happier than any man has ever made me. And there is absolutely no physical contact between us. It's all friendship-type stuff. BUT there is a LOT of flirting. Steve is a natural, innocent flirt. I've seen him do it with other people. It's all a part of his personality. And that's what makes him, HIM. Okay, so before I fall completely head-over-heels for this guy (and hopefully not make an ass of myself and declare my feelings for him and ruin a friendship), here's some things you need to know: 1. Steve is living with his GF. She is horrible to him, and he's nearly at the point of saying goodbye. He claims she is going to lunch with an ex BF and spending a lot of time texting and calling him, and that it's a matter of time before she goes back to him. When GF calls Steve, and he's with me (in my office, at lunch, whatever), he leaves to take the call. He has lied to her about where he was and who he was with, so that he didn't have to listen to her yell at him that he takes ME out to lunch, his friend, but he never takes HER out (he does...she's just nuts). 2. Steve's office is directly across the hall from mine. Each time he exits his office, he does a funny little dance, makes a face, or some other thing to make me smile/laugh. 3. There is an undeniable chemistry between us. You can feel it. It could very well be my imagination, but others have commented on it. 4. Steve and I go out to lunch...a LOT. He pays sometimes, others we split. Most of the time, he will pay if he has the $$$. WE went out to lunch today, going dutch. He realized he still had the receipt in his wallet and made the comment that he had to throw it away before his GF saw it. I asked why, and he said that she sees receipts and says, "OH, you went out to lunch AGAIN with BEANZMOM..." He said she asks what I look like, etc. Yes, I have a crush on him, but I'm being honorable and so is he. 5. He has opened up to me in really amazing ways. Something horrible happened to him as a child and told me about it. I don't know why he did, but he did. I think it brought me closer to him. He talks to me about nearly everything that matters/is bothering him. We share a LOT, I talk to him a lot about my failing marriage, so he's aware as to where I am emotionally. 6. The LOOK. His face softens when he looks at me. His eyes light up a bit. He smiles. So here's my question: Do you think there is an attraction there, or could it be my imagination?
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