GG3 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I was in a relationship for over 4 years. We used to spend everyday together. At the end of the relationship, I didn't look forward to one single day with him. I loved him, but was tired of a lot of our issues I guess, and tired of always doing what someone else wanted to do. (It was a very one sided relationship.) I know he tended to want to spend a LOT of time with his friends, which resulted in both of us spending time with his friends and I got tired of that. We mutually broke up. First let me say I do not want kids, and know that I never will. I'm not the wanting to "settle down," get married, have kids and decorate the house type. But I still want to be with someone like normal people. Lately I am meeting people in relationships that don't see each other that much. I'm wondering how normal that is? I guess everyone just has to find what works for them? One of my friends is a man in his 60's. He tends to take jobs out of town and come home to his wife on the weekends. He's been doing that for years. One of my girlfriends hasn't seen her bf for a week and a half and they've been dating for over 5 years. But I always thought of a successful relationship is one where you see each other almost everyday...otherwise something is missing or just not right. At the same time, I've REALLY enjoyed coming home to MY house and watch MY tv shows and be with MY friends. I could never go back to what I had. What does everyone else have to say? What do you like?
Elisa89 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I like to see someone I'm serious about maybe 4 days a week or something like that. I'm in college and I'm really not the type of girl who wants to spend every break with the guy I like, much less sitting next to him during lectures if we happen to attend teh same classes. I like having lunch with my girls, I like studying with my brother at the library and I do love to spend time with the guy I'm with. But I'm ok with not seeing him a couple of days, then just meet up for a quick coffee. I like to keep it balanced, there can be weeks I just see him twice at a coffee shop for an hour, then we spend an entire weekend together. Though I have to say communication is extremely important to me, I want to hear from him the days I don't see him. I don't expect him to send me 10 text a day but one or two to let me know he's alright and is thinking of me would be very much appreciated.
Jazzari Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 My 18 year marriage was one where my husband was frequently out of town for extended periods of time. The longest was 6 months and that truly sucked. On bright side, the romance never left the marriage and the reunions were wonderful. We did keep in touch daily. My currently relationship is LDR, so I'm back in the same boat. I've never had a "normal" relationship so I don't know how I would like it. But I'd like to give it a try.
fwang Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Me and my ex dated 2 months. Average, we saw each other 4 times per week. Even the week before we broke up, we saw each other 3 times. Guess we saw each other too much.
Author GG3 Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 I loved waking up next to someone I loved in the honeymoon phase of the relationship everyday. And I do miss sleeping next to someone everyday. But the idea of not seeing someone so much and keeping it that way kind of sounds nice. I get to do the things I want to do. I don't have to do all of someone else's things, and still get to see that person or have them be a part of my life. But I'm wondering if the other people that are doing that are settling? How much are they really a priority or how much of it is really a "real relationship" in this kind of way?
denise_xo Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I need an above average amount of space, so I'd be fine with a couple of times a week.
runner Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 if it's serious and we're not already living together, i think i'm fine with about 3-4 times per week. we don't even have to spend entire weekends together all the time considering that i have other people in my life that i'd like to spend time with, or other projects that need to get done.
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