myname Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 He's sent me a long email. Not read it through, immediate feeling is sick, tearful, angry, rubbish again. Why couldn't he have just left it? Oh and I know why hadn't I blocked, junked etc is just as valid. I thought that I needed to see if he was going to start making threats again, so I thought I needed to know if he contacted, but it's had a horrible affect on my emotions, even if my ego is probably flattered somewhat. And I was doing so much better beforehand.
TaraMaiden Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 First of all, find someone who will either accept his mail on your behalf, or an understanding friend/relative to whom you can forward his mail to. They can then come back to you you and let you know whether it's pointless crap or pertinent crap. And you can deal with it accordingly. Secondly - never, ever respond, no matter what it is. Don't let him live FoC in your head. he's invading your space and giving you the jitters, because you're letting him affect you this way. Deny him that right. As they say - It's YOUR power. Take it back.
Author myname Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 First of all, find someone who will either accept his mail on your behalf, or an understanding friend/relative to whom you can forward his mail to. They can then come back to you you and let you know whether it's pointless crap or pertinent crap. And you can deal with it accordingly. Secondly - never, ever respond, no matter what it is. Don't let him live FoC in your head. he's invading your space and giving you the jitters, because you're letting him affect you this way. Deny him that right. As they say - It's YOUR power. Take it back. Thanks, that's a good idea, it would help me too when I get weak like I feel now not to respond.
greengoddess Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 A better idea might be to forward emails to the BS. yup he will run like a spineless coward to his wifes side and leave you alone. Go for it.
Author myname Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 A better idea might be to forward emails to the BS. I'd love to do that right now, especially after I was accused of doing all the chasing, not letting him go, being some mad pestering crazy woman, well here's the truth.... Unfortunately I don't have an email address for her.
greengoddess Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I'd love to do that right now, especially after I was accused of doing all the chasing, not letting him go, being some mad pestering crazy woman, well here's the truth.... Unfortunately I don't have an email address for her. I am sure you can find one or print them and mail them or facebook.
Owl Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 So to ask the obvious question... ...have you got him blocked out NOW? :)
Author myname Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 I am sure you can find one or print them and mail them or facebook. No facebook contacts with her or him, and we all have very common names. I suppose I could phone up her workplace and ask for her email, but I think that could come across as stalkerish. Yeah, print it off and post it to their home address, even if he got to it first it would put him off contacting me again.
bentnotbroken Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Block his behind. Nothing hard about that. Find a different way to get your flattery.
fooled once Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 How are you doing today? I think it is posts like yours (and others who are hurting) that need the attention, not others that aren't here looking for advice or support. So..how are you feeling today?
Author myname Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 (edited) How are you doing today? I think it is posts like yours (and others who are hurting) that need the attention, not others that aren't here looking for advice or support. So..how are you feeling today? I am feeling miserable, haven't done anything about his contact, that seems like the most I can do for myself at the moment, just not respond in anyway at all, cos any response, to him or to her, however much it is welling up inside of me to phone her back and say 'see, he's contacted me again, as he always did before, not me pestering him like he told you' or email him to call him a lying scumbag would only result in more pain for me. It's really horrible, I look back over two years and can't believe a single thing he ever said to me, I know people may say it's all my own doing, he was married, I should have known... that's all true, but I feel betrayed too right now. And I'm so angry, he was going on about how he's the only one to have suffered any consequences from the affair, making out like it only damaged him, like he's the victim in it all. Absolving himself from any guilt by saying that he opened my eyes to a better life for myself, that he gave me so much good, that he was a positive influence in my life. I can't take it, how dare he? I struggle to see anything positive, he used me and lied to me and then left me to deal with the aftermath with nothing but the realisation that the whole thing was a lie. Edited May 14, 2011 by myname
phillyfan Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 He's sent me a long email. Not read it through, immediate feeling is sick, tearful, angry, rubbish again. Why couldn't he have just left it? Oh and I know why hadn't I blocked, junked etc is just as valid. I thought that I needed to see if he was going to start making threats again, so I thought I needed to know if he contacted, but it's had a horrible affect on my emotions, even if my ego is probably flattered somewhat. And I was doing so much better beforehand. Dude post it here and let us mock his nasty letter , we can post stupid responses to it and make u laugh what a loser anyone who upsets u like that aint worth ur time.
Author myname Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Dude post it here and let us mock his nasty letter , we can post stupid responses to it and make u laugh what a loser anyone who upsets u like that aint worth ur time. It's sure tempting, and I need cheering up, but isn't that the sort of thing you're not meant to do on these boards? I wouldn't want to get myself banned from here.
fascinated Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Sorry he's upset your world with his email. Forwarding it or sharing it seems to be creating unneeded drama, which is exactly what you don't want, imo.
Author myname Posted May 14, 2011 Author Posted May 14, 2011 Sorry he's upset your world with his email. Forwarding it or sharing it seems to be creating unneeded drama, which is exactly what you don't want, imo. Yeah, you're right, doing nothing about it is the only way forward. Just so upset about it all, not just the stupid email, just feel so used and discarded and there's not anything I can do but wait to get through all the miserable feelings about it.
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