greengoddess Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 How is your sex life? Are you ever injured after sex? I was reading another board (affair related one) and I have to say it was eye opening as to the sex some people have. I have never been injured during sex. EVER. I have never been sore after sex. It's always loving, passionate, sometimes crazy but always, always caring about me personally and what positions would injure, break skin etc...He would never want to hurt me for his sexual gratification and I also would not allow myself to be hurt... I was reading where women discuss not being able to sit for days comfortably after anal and what suggestions do people have. Are you kidding me? How about this for a suggestion, Find a caring partner who will take their time and make sure you're body is ready for it. OMG one person even mentioned bleaching the skin of their anus to make it more attractive.:laugh: Then people discuss how good it feels to be so sore from so much normal sex not even anal? I don't get it. So basically, in summary, are you sore after sex? Am I missing something here?
linwood Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 "Gentle" doesn`t do it for everyone. I often have gentle, slow, loving sex with my wife. We also often have wild, crazed, pounding, animalistic sex. A slow, gentle session that goes on for hours is just as likely to make you sore as a short wild session. Variety is a good thing. We`re both often sore the day after a good session. Sunday morning my wife texted me "I can`t even walk without thinking of you". Meaning she was so sore it hurt to walk. She considered this a good thing as do I.
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 The most dangerous position for me is reverse cowgirl. If she tries to go fast there's the chance that she could come down on me wrong, which has come close to happening a couple times. Otherwise all the other positions are fine.
Author greengoddess Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 LOL not to be insulting but are you guys fat and out of shape or something? Or don't have sex often?
xxoo Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I've def been sore the next day.... The state of being very aroused seems to block pain perception, ime. You don't feel those small injuries when they are happening
Author greengoddess Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 The most dangerous position for me is reverse cowgirl. If she tries to go fast there's the chance that she could come down on me wrong, which has come close to happening a couple times. Otherwise all the other positions are fine. :laugh: ouch!! Giddy up!
xxoo Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 LOL not to be insulting but are you guys fat and out of shape or something? Or don't have sex often? No Why would you assume that? These aren't injuries you can prevent with training
Author greengoddess Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 I've def been sore the next day.... The state of being very aroused seems to block pain perception, ime. You don't feel those small injuries when they are happening :laugh:I'm talking actual real PAIN though. Like they are in so much physical pain from having their butts torn. Like there is blood. Not that dull ache you get from a good workout.
Green Light Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 :laugh:I'm talking actual real PAIN though. Like they are in so much physical pain from having their butts torn. Like there is blood. Not that dull ache you get from a good workout. My wife once told me that her former partner would give her anal sex that was so rough that she could barely sit down for three days and she ENJOYED that feeling! Now the woman won't even do regular old doggie style because she says it hurts too much.
Lecturer Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Like all things, a mix seems to be best. Sometimes it is more gentle, passionate love making. Other times its raw, rampant, animalistic sex. You can be certain we'd NEVER do something that my wife didn't absolutely enjoy. I don't think she's ever been OVERLY sore the next day. Maybe just a mild reminder that there was action the previous day, but even this is rare. The most common is that for a few hours after, she'll say that it feels like her guts have been re-arranged (which she says as a positive thing). We also occasionally have anal sex, but she has never been hurt or torn from it. The most has been a very dull discomfort that goes away after a couple hours, but she feels it is well worth it from the incredibly intense orgasm(s) she gets from it.
bittersweet memories Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 LOL not to be insulting but are you guys fat and out of shape or something? Or don't have sex often? Funny, I was wondering that of you?
linwood Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 LOL not to be insulting but are you guys fat and out of shape or something? Or don't have sex often? Nope. I`m 5'9" 175lbs 45 years old strength training 4 times week and my job keeps me moving 40-60 hours a week. My wife is 5'0" 100lbs 40 years old goes to the gym twice a week and her job keeps her very active as well. We have sex 3-5 times week with two of those being pretty lengthy, intense sessions into the early morning hours.
Author greengoddess Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 Nope. I`m 5'9" 175lbs 45 years old strength training 4 times week and my job keeps me moving 40-60 hours a week. My wife is 5'0" 100lbs 40 years old goes to the gym twice a week and her job keeps her very active as well. We have sex 3-5 times week with two of those being pretty lengthy, intense sessions into the early morning hours. and in that good of shape you really get sore to barely walk the next day? Or is it a nice aching reminder of the fun not actually pain?
xxoo Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 and in that good of shape you really get sore to barely walk the next day? Or is it a nice aching reminder of the fun not actually pain? I think the "walking" reminder is referring to more intimate parts, not muscle aches. A little rawness, maybe Sometimes some cervical cramping, too.
Author greengoddess Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 I think the "walking" reminder is referring to more intimate parts, not muscle aches. A little rawness, maybe Sometimes some cervical cramping, too. :laugh: yea that's normal sex stuff. What I was talking about were reading about actual pain from tearing etc or from their body being placed in positions that their body just should not be in for long. Like bending body parts to their limit.
Author greengoddess Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 My wife once told me that her former partner would give her anal sex that was so rough that she could barely sit down for three days and she ENJOYED that feeling! Now the woman won't even do regular old doggie style because she says it hurts too much. Do you think maybe rough sex really gets her turned on and traditional sex doesn't?
linwood Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 and in that good of shape you really get sore to barely walk the next day? Or is it a nice aching reminder of the fun not actually pain? I don`t often get "sore" but my wife will when we spends hours going at it. I will get muscle pains from the exertion of a long session but it`s not debilitating for either of us. Sometimes the occasional bruise. Just a nice reminder. I think the "walking" reminder is referring to more intimate parts, not muscle aches. A little rawness, maybe Sometimes some cervical cramping, too. Yes, that`s exactly what she says. :laugh:I'm talking actual real PAIN though. Like they are in so much physical pain from having their butts torn. Like there is blood. Not that dull ache you get from a good workout. No, that doesn`t happen. I misunderstood.
UnsureinSeattle Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 If there is honest PAIN, I think you're doing it wrong (unless you like that kinda thing). Yeah, sometimes you might get a little bit sore. But not bad sore like you fell down the stairs or something.
Green Light Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Do you think maybe rough sex really gets her turned on and traditional sex doesn't? She used to really get into rough sex. She liked hair pulling, spanking, anal, some D/s stuff. Then is just all went away and now nothing seems to turn her on AND she refuses to discuss it.
Author greengoddess Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 She used to really get into rough sex. She liked hair pulling, spanking, anal, some D/s stuff. Then is just all went away and now nothing seems to turn her on AND she refuses to discuss it. uh ou. that would put up some red flags for me. Are you close besides the sex aspect?
Author greengoddess Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 If there is honest PAIN, I think you're doing it wrong (unless you like that kinda thing). Yeah, sometimes you might get a little bit sore. But not bad sore like you fell down the stairs or something. That's what I think. I mean it's not normal to be in pain for days after sex?
Green Light Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 uh ou. that would put up some red flags for me. Are you close besides the sex aspect? I guess we are close in some ways. It throws a red flag up for me as well but in my gut I don't feel that she is having an affair. I've asked her before if she was having an affair and her answer was solid plus the other signs just aren't there. However, one never knows. Its just hard for me to grasp how someone could have such specific turn-ons and a healthy sex drive and then nothing. Just nothing.
Hanther Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I get sore from sex. Like really sore. To the point that we can't have sex every day or even every other day sometimes, because I need at least a day to heal. And this is the case even if we have gentle sex. It does hurt my libido. Sex ALWAYS hurts in the beginning, when he is first going in. After that, I usually get pretty numb so it doesn't hurt constantly during. But if we move into a different position sometimes I can literally feel my skin ripping. Sometimes there is blood afterward. Probably TMI, I know. lol. And no, this has nothing to do with how aroused I am, or how wet, or how much foreplay we have. We have tried it all. It has to do with the fact that I am 90 lbs and very slender whereas he is 165 lbs and above average down there. If I had three wishes, one of them would be for thicker skin in that area. Ridiculous, huh? lol
giotto Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I get cramps... not down there... in my legs! Trying to be an athlete, I suppose... maybe I'm getting old...
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 If we do doggystyle for more than 10 minutes my thigh muscles tend to get sore, like in a leg workout kind of way.
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