Jono85 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 my pride. way too much pride to ever contact her again. she left me for her ex, and in the last month of our relationship i found out she was lying to me a lot and discussing her future with her ex, and i was completely blindsided. doesn't matter that she's really really sorry and wants to be friends. but i think the kicker, that makes it easier for me (if all that wasn't enough) is that when i texted her that i don't think the friends thing would work b/c i can't get past certain things that happened and it would also be easier for her and her new bf (i think i could have even taken her back if i tried, but the biatch obv isn't worth it), and told her to take care of herself and wished her all the best, she simply didn't text me back. i know she was upset, but really?? no goodbye? no well wishes for me?? just further highlights her complete selfishness. i KNOW she assumed i wouldn't be able to let go/leave without her saying goodbye or being upset, b/c of things that happened in the past. but nope, sorry hun not this time, i don't need your reply or blessing, peace biatch. in summary i think it's obv much easier when you feel you were mistreated by your ex.
Billie The Puppet Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 In the begininning it was all about goals and challenges like can I make it a day, a week, a month, can I make it through the Holiday season and with each checkmark passing those goals it has become second nature. I've lost official count of the days to be honest. That is the point you want to make it too that is when you don't even remember how long it has been. At the point when it becomes second nature you just don't have anything to say. Seriously there is nothing for me to ask so there is no point in contacting someone in which I have nothing to converse about. Trust me after some point even a Hey how are you? is moot point. You also realize this is a closed question that can be answered with a good thanks. Convo is dead sort of thing. Some users suggest using your mind planning out how a convo would go with you playing both roles. Ex Me: Hello, Long time no talk. Ex: Yea..... Me: So, what have you been up to Ex: Been busy you know......... Me: Oh I see. Convo dead.
bl22 Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 Some users suggest using your mind planning out how a convo would go with you playing both roles. Ex Me: Hello, Long time no talk. Ex: Yea..... Me: So, what have you been up to Ex: Been busy you know......... Me: Oh I see. Convo dead. You know this made me think, This is exactly how the conversation went when my ex ex broke NC to speak with me, this was roughly 2 months after my recent split. I had no reason whatsoever to speak to her. I wouldnt want that kind of reaction from my recent ex to me.
D-Lish Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 What stops me ultimately is knowing I will NEVER get the answer I really want- or worse, I'll get no response at all. I wouldn't put myself through that- the break up is hard enough- there is no sense in re-living it over and over again when I can control that NOT happening.
dressing up Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 My recent situation isn't about an ex; it's about a guy friend that found a girlfriend in someone else. My ego keeps me from contacting him. I'm almost sure that if we talked, he and I would have a heart-to-heart but it won't change anything. I miss him to varying degrees but I'm not going to put my ego through it. But if you have read my other threads, ask me again tomorrow.
Wicked_City Posted May 14, 2011 Posted May 14, 2011 It's second nature for me. I guess, I'm lucky that way, even if I have questions I simply don't have the urge to call or write. Besides, I don't engage people I do not like. This is true whether I'm the dumper or dumpee. I sour fairly quickly after a breakup and get into that warrior mode.
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