XMizer Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I don't get it. This girl posted on a website looking for friends because she recently moved to the city. I responded to her ad and she responded back. There's a bit of rapport in the beginning and definitely some flirting. She even said that even though she posted an ad looking for friends, it seems like we were acting like we're looking for someone to date. I asked for her picture and she said she has them but she wanted me to show mine first. So I show her my baby picture as a joke and I said "now, it's your turn." Few hours later, I told her my "baby picture is too cute" and then I showed her my real picture. I haven't heard from her since. I secretly found her Twitter and because she's constantly updating it, I'm 99% sure she already saw my e-mail. I'm just wondering why she's not responding to my e-mail. Yeah, I know she might have lost interest but it seems like girls lose interest on the slightest whim. Granted that my jokes might've been a bit lame but it just seems like she judged me too prematurely. Technically, she still owes me a picture. And I don't know if it's dumb and desperate to send her an e-mail later asking where is the picture she owes me. But I saw pictures of this girl and she's really cute, so I really want to reinitiate interest if I can.
habbrown Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Love need honesty and respect. Both are sign of true love. Honesty, respect and communication are some signs you have to look for within yourself and your online partner. May be she find some loss of concern from your side. dating
Andy_K Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 If contact stopped dead after you sent her a picture of yourself, there's one obvious conclusion you can draw. It's not rocket science.
Author XMizer Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 If she truly thought my looks wasn't good enough for her - that's somewhat understandably that she doesn't want to talk to me but she stopped contact after I sent her my baby picture. I only sent her my real picture after like 7, 8 hours of sending my baby picture. I don't know how she can judge me purely on looks by looking on my baby picture and although I can't claim to be the most handsome person ever, I am confident to say that I am not bad looking. So besides the reason that she doesn't find me good looking enough, I really don't know any other explanation as to why she didn't respond to me. But if anybody have any tips on how to restart our conversation and pickup the conversation where we left off, please tell me how .
green_tea Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 People stop responding all the time with this online stuff. If they were interested they would respond, so just move on. Nothing you can say will make a difference at this point. I've just had it happen to me, to be honest I didn't think he was that great but it still hurt that someone would be rude enough to just ignore an email.
Arasae Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 If I were in this situation, my thought process would flash through my ahead a little something like this: Why wouldn't he just send the photo? Is there something wrong with the way he looks that's making him stall? Maybe there's nothing wrong with how he looks; maybe he's just insecure. That's really annoying. Why couldn't he just be direct? It's possible that your flirting style tends to be indirect; maybe you tend to put off giving information, trying to promote the "mystery"--I've seen that a lot in online dating and it is one of my biggest turn offs. Anyway, I can tell you that I, myself, would have probably been annoyed. I would have given myself a little distance to cool off--but you already violated that necessary "cooling-off" distance by e-mailing her again. Don't e-mail her again. You have a better shot with her if you let her initiate the contact again.
Intricategirl Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Technically, she still owes me a picture. And I don't know if it's dumb and desperate to send her an e-mail later asking where is the picture she owes me. But I saw pictures of this girl and she's really cute, so I really want to reinitiate interest if I can. She doesn't owe you anything. You haven't even met, so why are you under the impression she owes you, as if there's some debt that has to be repaid. Yeah, it would have been nice to continue conversation, or send you a picture back. But she didn't. Get over it and move on.
oaks Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Yeah, I know she might have lost interest but it seems like girls lose interest on the slightest whim. Yes, this is probably what happened. Either she didn't like your photo or something else you said, or she was talking with someone she found more interesting/attractive, or the prison warden took away her internet privileges, or she just changed her mind, or aliens kidnapped her, or something else.
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 If I were in this situation, my thought process would flash through my ahead a little something like this: Why wouldn't he just send the photo? Is there something wrong with the way he looks that's making him stall? Maybe there's nothing wrong with how he looks; maybe he's just insecure. That's really annoying. Why couldn't he just be direct? It's possible that your flirting style tends to be indirect; maybe you tend to put off giving information, trying to promote the "mystery"--I've seen that a lot in online dating and it is one of my biggest turn offs. Anyway, I can tell you that I, myself, would have probably been annoyed. I would have given myself a little distance to cool off--but you already violated that necessary "cooling-off" distance by e-mailing her again. Don't e-mail her again. You have a better shot with her if you let her initiate the contact again. 100% agree with this. You were annoying, now if she can get over that then she's open for the picking, if not then move on.
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