Pfiend101 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 This girl that I was interested in dating said she was hurt in the past. Consequently she said she would only be friends ( for however long period of time) and then maybe be willing to date. I told her that we shouldn't even bother as I had bad experience with something similar in the past. I dated a girl in the past who had some serious mental/trust issues. I dated her for six months. Being patient about sex and everything. We didnt have sex and she left me for some trashy guy who ended up beating her. I told her she was a great girl but I shouldn't be punished for someonelses actions. Selfish of me or not?
betterdeal Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Yep, selfish, and there's nothing wrong with that. You were honest and authentic. What more can the world ask of you? Maybe saying, "well, if you find your way to trust again, gimme a call. take care" would be a way to put a positive spin on it.
chuckles11 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 I think you made a smart decision. Why would you want to sit around waiting for her decide that you were worthy of dating? She let you know that she was emotionally unavailable, so it was time to to go. She was selfish for asking you to agree to something like that in the first place.
EasyHeart Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 No, you weren't selfish, you were rational. You are not her psychiatrist.
Sabali Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Hasn't almost everyone been hurt in the past? I don't always agree with folks try to use their past experience as a reason to not move forward. As alluded to above, you are not her psychiatrist and those who try to be set themselves up for failure in the dating arena.
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