phillyfan Posted May 17, 2011 Posted May 17, 2011 This is very well-worded. Your guts are telling you something is off is not saying he or you are the root cause of that off-ness. That your subconscious mind is saying "I don't like this" is key. Understanding why your subconscious mind is upset is how you will find happiness. Is is this relationship - between your conscious and subconscious - that creates self-confidence and inner peace. And this is why men dont understand women.
Author D-Lish Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 D, Skiman was a twin... They lived 8 houses apart on the same street. Drove me nuts. But Skiman was the "better" twin, I guess you could say. Yep, his twin lives less than a block away! We cooled right off. Not a peep out of him since 2pm yesterday. I'm pretty positive that his brother must have known I used to have a crush on him- and after the insecurity he displayed around not being the popular twin- I can't imagine that would sit well with him knowing that. It is a shame- but not anything I can do about it! I'm not going to go chasing after him or try and ask for any explanations. On to the next!
whichwayisup Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Did the bro know you had a crush on him? You could always deny it and tell the guy his bro has a huge ego and to get over himself! Anyway, don't assume the worst here...But, if by chance he talked to his twin and that's why he's backed off abit, HIS loss and he's a p.*ssy!! Ha, he's probably a closet HAB fan.
Author D-Lish Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 Did the bro know you had a crush on him? You could always deny it and tell the guy his bro has a huge ego and to get over himself! Anyway, don't assume the worst here...But, if by chance he talked to his twin and that's why he's backed off abit, HIS loss and he's a p.*ssy!! Ha, he's probably a closet HAB fan. Lol, He's a Flyer Fan- HUGE Flyer fan. I would feel like I was chasing if I started asking for answers. I have a feeling the evil twin bro does know I once had a crush on him. His cooling off coincided with his bro's return from vacation. I am pretty sure he must have asked him if he knew me and the bro must have said something. We had some mutual friends that I played baseball with way back when, when I had the crush- and I had asked about him to my friends on the baseball team. What makes it more complicated is that one of the guys on my baseball team that knew the evil twin had a crush on ME, and the fact that I didn't return the affection to him, was a HUGE problem for him. Who knows what he said about me to the evil twin back then, to put a barrier in place. He could have said I was a whore for all I know out of revenge. It's complicated right? All I know is that the brother I went out with was super into me until his bro got home from vacation- so I am pretty sure something was said.
whichwayisup Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Yeah I hate the Flyers too. Hate Buffalo, but hate the Flyers more. He's a complete idiot if he listens to his twin, and that's why he's silent at the moment.
Author D-Lish Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 Yeah I hate the Flyers too. Hate Buffalo, but hate the Flyers more. He's a complete idiot if he listens to his twin, and that's why he's silent at the moment. Lol, Flyers are my #2- only second to my closet love for the Leafs. Buffalo sucks ass! Dave Anderchuk (memba him?) came on to me when I was 14:lmao: He was teaching at my brother's hockey camp! I'm just going to let things go with this guy. I have too much pride to chase or try and "fix" things.
welikeincrowds Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Lol, Flyers are my #2- only second to my closet love for the Leafs. Buffalo sucks ass! Dave Anderchuk (memba him?) came on to me when I was 14:lmao: He was teaching at my brother's hockey camp! I'm just going to let things go with this guy. I have too much pride to chase or try and "fix" things. Buffalo does not suck ass, and a long time ago people used to think pride was the most deadly of the 7 deadly -- deadly, like, you're gonna die -- sins. I get what you're saying, and I don't think it would be a poor decision proper to let it go. But is it really worth it to thoroughly drop what has thus far been a good thing, over no real actions, but a vague suspicion about some fickle twin drama? On the one hand, nothing is good about trying to deal with cooling off so early on; on the other hand, it just all seems so silly....
Tybalt Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 It is all a little odd. I think you are right not to put too much stock in any of it and not pursue looking for am "answer." Awhile back I had gone on a couple dates with a guy, it seemed promising, then one day in the middle of an innocuous text conversation he totally blocked my number and never contacted me again, out of nowhere with no precursor. I've learned to say, "Oh well." Maybe he was really married and got busted, maybe he just does that as some sort of game, whatever. The point is, it is more commonly about that person than you anyway. Not everyone is meant for everyone (of course) so I say, "You bailed? Great! I'm one less person away from the right one." You never know, it may be nothing and perhaps you'll hear from him. Then again, if you are correct it isn't about you anyway, it's about his insecurity. Or the reason may be something else entirely. In any case, what you want is a person who is clear about wanting you and gives to you in a relationship, just as you give. If that isn't happening, you can whistle as you walk away knowing you deserve better. For me dating seems a lot simpler when I don't worry so much about it. Dealing with the here and now, and clear signals that someone likes me is so much easier and less tortuous than trying to understand someone else who may be totally mixed up or confused himself.
Author D-Lish Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 It is all a little odd. I think you are right not to put too much stock in any of it and not pursue looking for am "answer." Awhile back I had gone on a couple dates with a guy, it seemed promising, then one day in the middle of an innocuous text conversation he totally blocked my number and never contacted me again, out of nowhere with no precursor. I've learned to say, "Oh well." Maybe he was really married and got busted, maybe he just does that as some sort of game, whatever. The point is, it is more commonly about that person than you anyway. Not everyone is meant for everyone (of course) so I say, "You bailed? Great! I'm one less person away from the right one." You never know, it may be nothing and perhaps you'll hear from him. Then again, if you are correct it isn't about you anyway, it's about his insecurity. Or the reason may be something else entirely. In any case, what you want is a person who is clear about wanting you and gives to you in a relationship, just as you give. If that isn't happening, you can whistle as you walk away knowing you deserve better. For me dating seems a lot simpler when I don't worry so much about it. Dealing with the here and now, and clear signals that someone likes me is so much easier and less tortuous than trying to understand someone else who may be totally mixed up or confused himself. That does seem odd! But I agree it's a situation where he got busted- perhaps by a gf or wife! I don't feel bad or anything that things had cooled off- no one likes being rejected- but I wasn't invested at all. I agree with you statement about feeling better about dating when someone shows you clear signs they are interested- it makes it easier and less drama-free. That's what I enjoyed about my recent ex- he made it clear from day one he liked me and wanted to be with me- I found so much safety and happiness in that situation.
mitchell Posted May 18, 2011 Posted May 18, 2011 Go Lightning and Go D-Lish!! Back in the dating scene. Best of luck!
Author D-Lish Posted May 18, 2011 Author Posted May 18, 2011 Go Lightning and Go D-Lish!! Back in the dating scene. Best of luck! Thanks Mitchell! A little stab of rejection is never a great feeling- especially since I was already coping with being rejected by my ex. However, I had some reservations about this guy anyway- just something I couldn't put my finger on. It's just so hard to find someone I am attracted to. It's not a overly high standards thing in terms of looks- the last 3 or 4 guys I've dated have ranged from average to slightly above average in the looks category- it's usually just "something" about them that triggers an attraction for me. That trigger just happens so few and far between for me, and sometimes that leads me to believe I am destined to end up alone. I'm picky- but not in the sense that I only want to date a super hot guy (I am actually leery of overly attractive men). I like the right combination of humour, smarts, and that "physical" something that triggers a response in me. It just doesn't happen often that I want to respond to someone.
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