nyckidd Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 We broke up 4 weeks ago and just like many people I was as hopeless and depressed as ever. I knew this was serious because she said she couldnt see a future with me etc. I was so heartbroken. I did resisit her desicion for the first day or two but know from previous experience that it is best to show you care and walk away maturly as hard as that is. After about 2 weeks of silence she texted me something simple, instead of ignoring it initially I just simply responded. Soon enough she wanted to meet up. The next day when we were supposed to meet up we didnt because things just didnt feel right. She apologized a couple times and I ignored. I just didnt want to be hurt anymore. She called left a voicemail asking why I was ignoring her. I called back and just told her it was time for me to heal and it was best we didnt talk. She told me she wanted to see me today, I said yes letting my emotions get the best of me-but i vowed to play it cool when I saw her. We talked and she basically told me how much she loves me and how she broke up with me because she felt like she had no other choice (our relationship became unhealthy).But she said she would really want to start over fresh and truly work on things. I agreed, and explained that we have to take baby steps but I am willing to work on everything. She was right- if she hadnt ended things we would have still been in that unhappy, unromantic, unhealthy relationship. Its time to start fresh now and truley work on being the man she deserves. We also agreed to go over everything that has gone wrong(which I have an excellent understanding of) So, for all of those feeling down just as I was there is hope. There is always hope, weather it takes a week a month or a year things will turn out for the best. Just stick to NC and focus on healing. I was obviously not completley healed but I am positive that each day with NC things became better.
loverboy1984 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 When my ex broke up with me she said it has become unhealthy because we are long distance, I started not to trust her, and we would argue. I can see myself in your situation and hopefully it will end up like that. I think you did all the right things and hopefully you had a chance to reflect on things you can do better. Work on it and make it better or else it will become unhealthy again. I have been in NC for over 2 months and have realized how I can be a much better person, even though I was good to begin with. Take small steps and rebuild a foundation with her. once you do it will feel more fulfilling. by the way when you talked who brought up the break up? Thanks for sharing your story. Keep us updated.
Author nyckidd Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 Hey no problem, and she actually did. I made sure I didnt bring up anything and just kept it casual. When she started to talk about it I actually shifted gears into something else and sure enough she soon said ok lets get back to talking about our relationship. Thats when I let my guard down a little. And your def right about rebuilding a new foundation. We had a great relationship AT TIMES but we have to start something totally new and fresh. As for your situation I think you made a good move by going NC it feels good to just focus on yourself, and too be honest I would have continued NC if she werent to contact me.
Sassygirl2 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Did you do any of the begging and pleading in the first two weeks after the break up?
Author nyckidd Posted May 16, 2011 Author Posted May 16, 2011 I tried reasoning only 2 times, but never begged or acted desperate to her.
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