John Michael Kane Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 I think I'm a little confused as far as the point of this board... Silly me I thought it was a place to get point of views as and thoughts as far as what I could do to make things better past what I already did such as getting rid of the other guy and what not. I did what I did and I'm not sitting here trying to claim I didn't do it. I said I screwed up and I know it. I've said it to you people I've said it to my husband. I figured this was a place to not feel completely alone and to get a bit of hope. Didn't know I was asking for people I don't know to punish me further. To the people that actually gave a crap past getting insulting... He's out. Not even at the same place as me. There's an ocean between us and we don't speak what so ever so that's not an issue. I'm checking out the options I have for counseling and me and my husband have been communicating a lot more. Even if that means he yells at me sometimes to get his frustrations of what I did out. I don't try to justify it to him or try to make excuses. He knows I regret it. And while most days are good there are slip ups where we fight... But we're dealing with it. No one is insulting you. If you find the cold hard truth insulting, then that's one more reason why it would be beneficial if you two divorced.
Entropy3000 Posted May 22, 2011 Posted May 22, 2011 I think I'm a little confused as far as the point of this board... Silly me I thought it was a place to get point of views as and thoughts as far as what I could do to make things better past what I already did such as getting rid of the other guy and what not. I did what I did and I'm not sitting here trying to claim I didn't do it. I said I screwed up and I know it. I've said it to you people I've said it to my husband. I figured this was a place to not feel completely alone and to get a bit of hope. Didn't know I was asking for people I don't know to punish me further. To the people that actually gave a crap past getting insulting... He's out. Not even at the same place as me. There's an ocean between us and we don't speak what so ever so that's not an issue. I'm checking out the options I have for counseling and me and my husband have been communicating a lot more. Even if that means he yells at me sometimes to get his frustrations of what I did out. I don't try to justify it to him or try to make excuses. He knows I regret it. And while most days are good there are slip ups where we fight... But we're dealing with it. You could see it as tough love. You put yourself in a vulnerable position by becoming emotianally intimate with the OM. He was given ammunition to split up your relationship. He got what he wanted. If he had stayed where would you be now with this? Some folks are just trying to help you get past this "it was a mistake" and see it in a broader view. There will be others here who will console you to one degree or another. You need to own your affair. I expect you to say "I know this already". But you owe me nor anyone else here that answer. It is for you to come to grips over. Sorry you went down the road you did. You have to be to a point in your life that you truly understand why you did this and not repeat this activity. Good luck.
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