joshextreme Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 My ex and I while we were dating didn't really treat each other right towards the end of it. I do believe I have changed because I've seen what it is like to be without her. We've been broken up for 4 months and I can say I've partially moved on. Part of me still misses her here and there but nothing to stop me from living life how I want to. We went NC for 3 weeks up until May 8th where she texted me thanking me for being so nice to her at our prom (i guess not talking to her and smiling occasionally means a whole lot). So we talked for a few days until I told her that I need to go back to myself. I tried talking to her about talking more and seeing if we could be together but she thinks its impossible and is stuck on that theory. I can't change her mind. But I don't blame her. We've been LC pretty much the whole break up. We've both have changed so much. What I was thinking about doing was talking a little bit. Getting to know her again and attempting to show her why we fell for each other to begin with. If things don't work out as planned then I go back to NC but she'll know the "new" me that she has missed out on these past 4 months. I think this is an alright idea. Suggestions?
TaraMaiden Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 No. She's told you how she feels. Persistence is irritating. She's said no. Accept it, take it on board and respect her position. But continue to better yourself, for yourself,not in any effort to get her back. Any self-improvement is productive, and will help you be a better person in the long run. Which will be of great benefit to you. And also, eventually, others.
Author joshextreme Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 No. She's told you how she feels. Persistence is irritating. She's said no. Accept it, take it on board and respect her position. But continue to better yourself, for yourself,not in any effort to get her back. Any self-improvement is productive, and will help you be a better person in the long run. Which will be of great benefit to you. And also, eventually, others. Alright then I'll slowly ease myself out of what I've already done. I told her we could talk a little bit. It's not like I'm pushing myself or my cause on to her. Just talking.
Author joshextreme Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 I think I wanna talk to her so much because she kept telling me that I made her cry so much. Like I know for a fact I didn't do any of the things she said I did. Every morning we'd wake up and I'd call her beautiful. I bought her presents all the time. Wrote her long beautiful notes. I honestly think I'm that "1 in a million guys." Why does she say I was so bad? Will she realize how good she had it?
TaraMaiden Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Stop. Thinking. About. It. The more you keep mashing it up in your mind, the more like scrambled eggs your friend brains will become. You need to drop the baggage, and move on. Really. Don't ask any of the "yeah but...why?" questions. They won't ever be answered. By us, by her or by you. Leave it be, accept it, and get on with your life. It's the best form of 'revenge' you could have. To cope, survive and to succeed in spite of everything.
Author joshextreme Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Stop. Thinking. About. It. The more you keep mashing it up in your mind, the more like scrambled eggs your friend brains will become. You need to drop the baggage, and move on. Really. Don't ask any of the "yeah but...why?" questions. They won't ever be answered. By us, by her or by you. Leave it be, accept it, and get on with your life. It's the best form of 'revenge' you could have. To cope, survive and to succeed in spite of everything. Thanks. So true. Now that prom is over I can actually separate myself from her life. As I said, thanks
IfiKnewThen Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 i dont know, call me a romantic fool but why not just ask her out a on a friendly date and have a fun memorable time. can you ask her with no strings attached and just have a good time? see what happens from thee and dont talk about the relationship right away and let her do all the talking. girls love to be heard out. it maybe eventually win her heart back. i usually feel when your younger you are more flexible and its easier to remember good times. just my 2 cents
Author joshextreme Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 i dont know, call me a romantic fool but why not just ask her out a on a friendly date and have a fun memorable time. can you ask her with no strings attached and just have a good time? see what happens from thee and dont talk about the relationship right away and let her do all the talking. girls love to be heard out. it maybe eventually win her heart back. i usually feel when your younger you are more flexible and its easier to remember good times. just my 2 cents she would never agree to that.
brokenamy Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 U cannot show her that you changed. she has to see it with her own eyes. So keep working on u. Stop trying to get her back when she shows interest by texting/calling or trying to see u because usually that is the way to make sure u r still pinning for them and sadly if they detect an ounce of interest, they are not coming back.
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