TroyNJ Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Some of you may remember me, last June while I was out of state working my wife brought another man into my House and even had sex with him in my bed. All this in front of my 13 year old daughter. The agony I felt was beyond words, I even started to blame myself but after months of therapy and healing I realized it wasn't me. We even tried to reconcile a few times, all ending with her leaving the house again. We are in the divorce stage and I've been in the House for the last 10 months without any financial help from her, I also pay her in excess of 2k a month in alimony/child support. Today I get a text from her saying she now wants the house, I will be damned if I allow that, I did nothing wrong nor did I want this divorce and now she thinks that she should be in the house after just up and leaving me to deal with the mess that she left. I think maybe me having a girlfriend now has something to do with it. I feel she is just trying to cause me more anguish but I just don't know why? Sorry for the rant but just wanted to throw this out and see if anyone has advice. thanks for reading. We were married for 15 years and i was completely blindsided by all this.
Author TroyNJ Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 please tell me she didn't have sex with the dude in front of your 13 year old???? sorry, that's kind of how the post reads. also - over 2k in child support/alimony after she was unfaithful to you? brother, i don't know your details but it sounds like you need to get yourself a better attorney. no matter what you do, do not let her have that house. No not literally in front of her but while she was in the house. New Jersey is a no fault state and unfortunately adultry don't mean ****....She won't get the house but it just makes me sad that she would even try to get it. What is wrong with some people?
Mauschen Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 You having a girlfriend definitely plays into her actions. My ex has always been a pain, but when I got remarried (never mind that he had a 3 year affair and remarried a few months after our divorce) he lost his mind. He started lying to our children about me - he told them he bought my house for me, that our dog is ugly, and that my new husband won't stick around for long. People can do horrible things to each other when jealousy is involved.
YellowShark Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I feel your pain. I caught my EX red-handed in-the-act while my son and I were sleeping inside. Talk about cold and heartless. Some people are simply so broken they will throw the people closest to them under a bus. The house is yours, protect it at all costs.
robf1971 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Today I get a text from her saying she now wants the house, . She can want anything she likes, lol Anytime she brings up this stuff, just ignore it. Better stilll let her bring it up with her lawyer
robf1971 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 You having a girlfriend definitely plays into her actions. . Yep cheaters are the worst at handling this.
Author TroyNJ Posted May 13, 2011 Author Posted May 13, 2011 Thanks for all the replies, I'm still very emotional about all this but I am getting better each day. To be honest I never thought this would happen to me. I just have to get my head out of my ass and face reality. She is not the woman I married 15 years ago. She has alienated my daughter from me also, IM THE BAD GUY! Not much I can really do at this point, I tell my daughter I miss and love her every day, thats all I can do. Sometimes I feel so overwhelmed emotionally that it's hard to do anything, I must realize it wasn't me and that she changed, it's still very hard to accept but I have too.
marqueemoon4 Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 why does it seem like a large percentage of the stories on here are always a WAW cheating, leaving for an OM, being completely disresptful, selfish, greedy and basically acting insane? where were all these stories before I made the horrible mistake of getting married? hang in there Troy.. you'll make it through this.
Surfer203 Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Yeah.. it does seem VERY common. I think women are psychologically more needy than men. They seek emotional comfort physically even though the two are not really related. Same s*** happened to me. Hang in there. Things were going well for me after we got back together 5 months ago, things are getting a little weird - so, NEVER get too comfortable. You never know what's around the bend. Good luck!
sumdude Posted May 13, 2011 Posted May 13, 2011 Been there, done that got the T-shirt. It sucks and yeah it really leaves a mark. Get the official divorce done as soon as possible and make sure to take as much control of the process as you can. You have to stay one step ahead. You'll heal and things will get better.
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