slothslap Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 So me and my girl have been together for about 3 years. We have been threw a lot of **** good and bad. I love her more than anything, and I thought she loved me more than anything as well. Recently ( she has mentioned this before ) she asked me if she thinks our relationship is at a standstill or are we still growing, and, if I lost her would it phase me. First off, we are 18 and 19 years old and we are going threw college and working and the usual stuff to prepare for the future. I explained to her that she can't expect us to constantly be growing because we are so busy and once we get our lives in order we can continue to grow. Is that a fair assessment? Also I told her that I would be phased if she left me. Apparently she says I don't show emotion very well, but I seem to disagree. She says she wants me to show her I love her not just say it, but how do you show it?? I spend as much time with her as I can, I would drop anything I was doing just to come see her, I offer to come see her after work ( she always says its to late and her parents would get mad ), I do things for her, I buy her nice things, I take her decent places, well as well as I can afford, I tell her I love her, I go out of my way for her, I drive her around, I cuddle with her, we have deep conversations maybe not as often as she would like but I honestly did try harder and she says she doesnt see it. We have inside jokes and we play. We watch movies and elaborate on them. We talk about the future and what it holds, We talk about our fears. We talk about theories and what our own theories are. What else can I possibly do?? Im going to prom with her. My god thats 250$ right there shes asking me to spend, but she wants me to save my money?? Which I have done very well until recently because of prom and I lent her some cash, and I pay my car insurance every money as well as 120 in gas a month. She wants to start a family with me, we have talked about it a lot. We have talked about getting married as well. Her parents even talk about it. We talk about how many kids and what there names will be. Where we will live what kind of house we will have. I asked her " What do you want from me? What haven't I provided for you? I also asked "What am I doing wrong, what can I do to change it, and What do I not do, that you do for me?" She said that she could not answer that If she cant honestly tell me what im doing wrong then how am I supposed to change. I dont want to completely change who I am, and even if I did Im sure it wouldnt matter because Ive tried very hard to please her and for some reason she just doesn't see it. Also Idk if we are aloud to speak about sex on here but, I always have to make the first move. She doesn't deny me most of the time unless shes "tired", but I always have to initiate it. She does tell me im sexy and slap my butt and all that. When we do make love tho, she looks at me in a way that she never does. Its pretty remarkable. What can I do? What is wrong? Is it me, her, or both of us? If its her, what do you think she wants? What should I tell her that I already have not? SAVE ME FROM WASTING MY TIME AND HAVING HOLLOW DREAMS JESUS CHRIST Thanks...
Author slothslap Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Also if this is in wrong thread please let me know and i apologize thanks
Author slothslap Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 Bump... Also an update. Yesterday she seemed to be her loving self. We acted goofy and did things we normally did. Hell she even teased me a bit which was a nice change. She told me last night that she has saturday off work and she would like me to spend time with her. Im going to try to get off work just for her lol. Maybe I was just over reacting. But I cant help being worried
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