muzik_lvr Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 The majority of threads on here are about the negatives of the breakup, (which is definitely understandable because I know of the heartbreak, sometimes unbearable, that comes as a result). But, I wanted to create a thread sharing the positive things that I have come from me breaking up with my ex-gf, and hopefully have others share some of those things too. Here are a few for me: -I've seen lots of areas I need to grow in and have been growing & maturing as a person -I now know the true qualities that I desire in a mate one day -I know how to handle the next situation 100x better (if it happens again) -I have gotten a lot closer with some of my close friends and family -I have been pursuing some hobbies and other interests a lot more (music, education, etc.) When we take a step back and look at the situation with a level head, often times we can see that there are a lot of positive things that happen as a result of the breakup. These things most likely would not have happened in my life if the breakup didn't happen. I just wanted to post something helpful/encouraging to those suffering through a breakup right now. Feel free to post anything that has been positive in your life as a result of a breakup.
chloe56 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 -I put together a flat-pack bookcase!!!! First time ever, and I am so proud of myself, especially that I had bought a screwdriver last year just in case, and in case happened! -I have started working on my tiny, very overgrown neglected garden at last. -I have realised that as a person, I tend to want to make everyone happy irrespective of what happens to me or how it puts me out, so I am learning to stay firm and focus on the bigger picture. -I have realised that I need hobbies that include other people. LOL this is the biggest challenge for me, although I am outgoing and approachable, due to the fact I work with the public, I tend to want my space and not want to have to listen to more people after work just to be able to switch off. I need to change jobs. -Realised that love can really hurt but need to get out there and be happy, it is all in my hands. Now, if only I can keep that in mind and do that would be awesome.
Author muzik_lvr Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 -I put together a flat-pack bookcase!!!! First time ever, and I am so proud of myself, especially that I had bought a screwdriver last year just in case, and in case happened! -I have started working on my tiny, very overgrown neglected garden at last. -I have realised that as a person, I tend to want to make everyone happy irrespective of what happens to me or how it puts me out, so I am learning to stay firm and focus on the bigger picture. -I have realised that I need hobbies that include other people. LOL this is the biggest challenge for me, although I am outgoing and approachable, due to the fact I work with the public, I tend to want my space and not want to have to listen to more people after work just to be able to switch off. I need to change jobs. -Realised that love can really hurt but need to get out there and be happy, it is all in my hands. Now, if only I can keep that in mind and do that would be awesome. These are great! Like you, I've learned very much about myself and things that I need to be aware of in the next relationship I enter. As hard as it may be to say, I am actually thankful for what transpired between me and my ex-gf because I now know the things I should do/not do from here on out.
ummike26 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I lost 17 pounds and counting and feel better about myself then I did with my ex/gf.
Thierro Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Self-realization; the chance to fully develop and cultivate a strong notion of self-worth and self-love that can aid you on the path of life. Remember all the emotions you went through when they broke up with you? An emotional roller coaster ride, isn’t that just exciting and tense? You are able to FEEL. Enjoy that privilege. Lighten up. You can do great without them. Thank them for all the opportunities they left behind.
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