Country_Girl Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Okay, Originally we were going to rent a movie for date #2, but when he picked me up he decided we'd go see one in theaters instead. Even though it was date 2, we technically were meeting for the 3rd time (originally met him at a bar and grill by my work and we talked for 30 some odd minutes). As usual, conversation just flowed. After the movie he asked if I had time for coffee so we went to ihop for an appetizer and cup of joe. That lasted about an hour and we talked about some of our childhood scars. Come to find out we both have similar upbringings. We could have easily talked another few hours but it was already 11pm at this point. After that he offered to drive me home, I said I could just take the bus, but he insisted on taking me home. Oh and I should mention on the date both times he opened the car door for me :-) What a gentlemen. When he dropped me off he didn't get out of the car but said "gimme a squeeze" and we hugged, as he said the same after our first date. Oh and he did refer to me as "babe" a few times throughout the evening. We have not finalized another date yet but that's how it works so far- he is very busy finalizing some projects and I work a mix of opening/closing shifts so we have really had to work at just getting these 2 dates in. Things will free up for him soon in the next few weeks and then we won't have to do this balancing act. Even though we haven't kissed, would you determine this date a success?
oaks Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Even though we haven't kissed, would you determine this date a success? Well, let's see. Did you enjoy the evening? That should be your measure of success. If you did, make sure you let him know because I doubt that he's telepathic. You could even tell him that you'd like to see him again. Don't worry about the lack of a kiss after just 2 dates. Some people just want to get to know the other person a bit first. Of course some people prefer to be sucking faces within the first hour, so it just depends what you prefer.
Author Country_Girl Posted May 12, 2011 Author Posted May 12, 2011 Well, let's see. Did you enjoy the evening? That should be your measure of success. If you did, make sure you let him know because I doubt that he's telepathic. You could even tell him that you'd like to see him again. Don't worry about the lack of a kiss after just 2 dates. Some people just want to get to know the other person a bit first. Of course some people prefer to be sucking faces within the first hour, so it just depends what you prefer. Thanks for the reply, didn't really think of it that way- yes, completely enjoyed myself so in that sense it was a success. I've been out of the dating game for years, and reading the forums and people talking about the 'friend zone' had me worried. Just had me thinking that our conversations flow so naturally maybe he does think of me as a friend. But then I realized, he wouldn't be insisting on paying my way for a friend he just met. I did let him know I enjoyed the evening. Few minutes after he dropped me off I thanked him via text for the ride and that I really enjoyed the conversation and look forward to more. He texted back that he had a great time too. Today he texted just to see how my day was going- so I think we are on the same page :-) P.S. I'm glad we didn't suck faces (lol), I don't kiss guys I don't have feeling for, or at least developing feelings for. I'm glad we both seem to be on the same page about this, and that's most likely why he hasn't tried.
Curious-One Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Just because he didnt kiss you doesnt mean the date didnt go well. If you had fun and enjoyed spending time with him then the date went well. Maybe he wants to take it slow or maybe he is the type of guy who is scared to kiss the girl. If i dont have alcohol in me its very rare that i will go for the kiss unless its very obvious that the girl wants one.
Dust Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 Some guys like taking it slow. Other guys are kind of dorky so they take it slow out of fear of women. If he keeps seeing you that means he likes you.
musemaj11 Posted May 12, 2011 Posted May 12, 2011 But then I realized, he wouldn't be insisting on paying my way for a friend he just met. Thats a dumb logic. Society teaches men to pay on dates whether or not they are interested in the women. I pay on dates even though I hate it because I dont want anyone to perceive me as cheap or less of a man. But then again, smart men know that paying on dates is just a down payment.
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