quietGuy13 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 You know what i'm discovering from all the work places i've been in. That most women go for the loud/jokesters/playboys/intelligent nerds. I'm none of that so at work, all the women are happy talking with these guys and i'm just left alone. Which is fine i dont need the yapping. But anyways, it's interesting all the women seem to flock around these guys. And nobody even talks to me. So That tells me something. Women love social guys. So i don't know why some women argue that every woman likes different types of guys. I'm not seeing that at all. All i see is women who love social guys(of any type they may be)
Datura Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Men and women both would rather be partnered with someone social, generally speaking. There are always exceptions to the rule, and and this case, it can often seem like searching for a needle in a haystack. That being said, sometimes it's necessary to put yourself out there. "Nobody even talks to me" ...do you ever talk to them?
TheyCallMeBruce Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 You can do it, bro! Just go out and be a charmer. Trust, it totally works. Chicks love me, and I'm really not all that good looking.
Jazzari Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I have to wonder.... Just like you are quiet and "disappear" at your desk, so there are girls who are doing the same thing. Is it possible that you only notice the loud social girls?
Dust Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 So you notice girls being social with the guy who makes attempts at being social? Doesn’t that just make sense the way you are phrasing it? I’m not the type of guy most women lust after. I’m the type of guy who spends his time reading through the Marvel Encyclopedia about the Fantastic Four. (Like the time Spiderman, Wolverine, Hulk, and Ghost Rider became the Fantastic Four) Even though I’m not the “cool” guy, I still think I’m cool. Life isn’t about being “that guy” the one who all the girls like. Even though I’m not “that guy” I still get girls, and have girlfriend. A girlfriend who at times drives me crazy, but in turn I’m crazy about. My major point is if you try you will get the girls you like. It’s not about all of them liking you. You just need to like “you.”
Stocky Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 So you notice girls being social with the guy who makes attempts at being social? Doesn’t that just make sense the way you are phrasing it? I’m not the type of guy most women lust after. I’m the type of guy who spends his time reading through the Marvel Encyclopedia about the Fantastic Four. (Like the time Spiderman, Wolverine, Hulk, and Ghost Rider became the Fantastic Four) Even though I’m not the “cool” guy, I still think I’m cool. Life isn’t about being “that guy” the one who all the girls like. Even though I’m not “that guy” I still get girls, and have girlfriend. A girlfriend who at times drives me crazy, but in turn I’m crazy about. My major point is if you try you will get the girls you like. It’s not about all of them liking you. You just need to like “you.” That's one of the best posts I've read in a long time
Eeyore79 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I'm one of the quiet girls. I usually find that guys notice the loud, sociable, popular girls, and I sort of slip under their radar. I'm attractive, and guys who notice me often end up fancying me; the problem is that I'm not often noticed. I actually prefer to be in a relationship with a quiet guy, because loud sociable people make me somewhat uncomfortable, and I much prefer to be with someone quiet like me. Maybe you would be better off looking for a quiet girl who would actually like the fact that you're quiet instead of considering it to be a disadvantage?
oldguy Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 It's been said a couple of times here already but I'll repeat it anyway; People who are loader & more visible get noticed. Also; most people like being paid attention to. In most most social situations the noise makers get the attention, they go looking for it, but are usually in the minority. I think the quieter someone is the more they seem to be ignored or even avoided.
orangelady Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 It's not just women. It's both genders. I know this quiet guy in my class. He doesn't talk much and once I tried to chat with him. He doesn't even smile and doesn't even seem interested to continue with the conversation. I felt rejected. And I can see why others don't talk to him. Because he gives the impression that he wants to be left alone and that he's not interested in anybody. Maybe that's what others think of you.
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I think it really boils down to who makes you more comfortable to be around. Think about it -- if there were two girls and one of them was friendly, outgoing, smiles a lot, and laughs at your jokes, while the other one was a nice person but quiet and keeps to herself, which one would you feel more comfortable approaching? It's not really that women are attracted to loud types, it's just the natural tendency to gravitate towards people that make you feel at ease.
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