OCCDAVE Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Ok went to the game with Amy on the 29th of last month and it went well and she wanted to see me again.I waited few days to contact her and no word from her.I waited Wednesday but someone on ls said if you don't contact her it looks your not interested ok so i called her nope,text nope then came mothers day i texted her.I got a reply saying oh i been good thanks how are things with you.I replied and said i'd like to see you again some time next week.Well that was sunday and todays Wednesday not a single call or text.Friday will be 2 weeks sinced i've seen her . So is it safe to say no contact means buzz off cause i dunno what to do if i ignore her i will turn her off yet contact to much i look needed ?
Datura Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 You've shown interest, it's now her turn to reciprocate. This doesn't look very promising. Don't sit around waiting.
Rinnix Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 You contacted her and let her know that you were interested. You did all you can do, if she hasn't tried to make plans or contact then Id say it's best to get moving on.
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 ugh if she wasnted interested dunno why she accept my third date y not just say eh ya dont call me anymore
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 She's signaling that she's lost interest. In my opinion you made a mistake by waiting so long to contact her after the previous date. If I sense a date is going well I always set up plans for the next date immediately.
TaraMaiden Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I'd text her... "I take it due to your overwhelming enthusiasm, I guess I can safely take it that this is going nowhere? At least have the common courtesy to communicate." And then leave it be.
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 i forgot to mention after the first 2 dates i set the next one right after and she said for sure i like you.reason i didnt flood her the first time easter week then she was out visiting her mom for the weekend.way i see it even if ur busy a text takes a second of ur time sigh.ill admit im bit bummed mainly cuz.the last date we had a ton of fun and enjoyed the outing.
betterdeal Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 So be glad you had good times; not sad that they're over. And it is over. Now you can find other good times to have.
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 i guess just rather a girl tell me get lost the truth hurts but ill take it easier.i sent that text tara so will see anyway i tried nothing else i can do
betterdeal Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Why do you want to be with someone who doesn't talk to you?
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 well she replied I'm sorry mike- I'm not trying to be mean. I really like you, but I can tell you're wanting the kind of relationship that I'm not ready for, nor do I have e any time for. I guess I've been embarrassed about it abd I feel bad cause I like you and I can tell you like me , I just know you and I want different things right now im sorry
betterdeal Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 That's pretty clear. Thanks, but no thanks. Now are you going to be one of those hard sell door-to-door salesmen who keeps on flogging a dead horse, or are you going to let it go?
guy777 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Wow man, that message from her is complete trash. Saying twice that I really like you but I don't have time. That's a really cowardly mind trip she's trying to put on you. IMO, now you have a reason not to like her. Of course that must be her goal. Like you wrote, if she would have just said something like, "Mike, thanks for the invite, but I'm not feeling it, best of luck in you continued search. I hope no hard feelings if we run into each other" . . That's something you could respect. But what she wrote is something to be mad about. . . move on.
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 First of all why do you call yourself OCCDAVE when your name is Mike? Secondly, this relationship looks to be officially dead and buried. I got one of those breakup emails once, the girl couldn't wait to get as far away from me as possible.
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 That's pretty clear. Thanks, but no thanks. Now are you going to be one of those hard sell door-to-door salesmen who keeps on flogging a dead horse, or are you going to let it go?i was thinking its thanks but no thanks what made her think i wanted more cuz we held hands she could have just pulled away ugh i was gonna text something like this i wanted more ill admit heck who knows maybe give it another week i would have proposed.......anyway jokes aside i think your a nice girl i didnt expect things to happen over night that takes time glad to see you are willing to do that take care.
betterdeal Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 No need to have the last word, but if you feel the need to, something brief is better. "Okay, thanks for the feedback. Take care"
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 i was thinking its thanks but no thanks what made her think i wanted more cuz we held hands she could have just pulled away ugh i was gonna text something like this I got my breakup email the day after we rolled around in the sack for about 5 hours straight and did everything but have actual sex. We even went to breakfast the next day and held hands together the whole time before I got shot down.
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 think a friendship can come from this or shes letting me off easy instead of just saying get lost sigh
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 im feeling down i wont lie this really sucks.well in a 3 month span 5 girls only 2 were serious and both times i got dumped lol
betterdeal Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I did door-to-door cold calling trying to sell mobile phone contracts. The success rate is 1 in 10 doing that. You're half way to your first sale. And if you've only let 5 girls have your affections you in the past 3 months, you're being very selective and have turned down tens, possibly hundreds of women, subconsciously.
Author OCCDAVE Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 not really tbh i text her saying thats cool take care later.she then replied few hours later sayin maybe we can be friends but now i dunno it would be kinda odd i ignored her after that let her finish this gm else where
betterdeal Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Yes, anything is possible. But for now, you're looking for a playmate and have enough friends. So maybe in the future you can be friends (why not?) but presently, you want to be ships that passed in the night. Enjoy the good memories, learn from the not so good ones and move on.
Mrlonelyone Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Dave let me translate what that breakup text really means for you. I don't want the serious kind of relationship I think you want right now ==> I don't want a serious relationship with you. Just let her go don't be surprised if the very next guy she's with is mr wonderful love of her life etc etc. Especially if you remain actual friends with her. IMHO I believe in dating people I am already friends/coworkers with. However that's distinctly different from being friends with someone who my first interest in was romantic. The first situation is ideal the second never really works for both people.
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