wholegrain Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Hello, HELP Loveshack forum community! I have been working at this job for about four months-graveyard, well I started showing interest in one of my co workers (graveyard)..and he seemed to have no objections. It started with texting, then to him asking for x rated pictures, to him eventually coming over once a week and us doing the DO. What I need help with is this: he has never invited me to his home, he always comes over on one of the nights that I am off (we get two nights a week off, and i have tuesday and wednesday off- so i see him on tuesday night or wednesday night-and he works on those nights) and on those nights he always shows up in his work clothes but never went or goes to work-its like he gets dressed for work and comes over to my house. Sometimes he comes over for a couple of hours, or he may spend the night making sure to not spend the entire day but leaving in the am before 9. We talk about some things, I know he has children, and that he is what he says "focused" (not really knowing what exactly that means) so to ME its not just sex but all in all I am starting to get feelings for him. He calls me babe, baby, etc and that makes me feel ecstatic. But is he hiding something???? What do you guys and gals think?? HELP!
linwood Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Sounds to me like he has an SO and is cheating on her with you. He is dressed in work clothes when he`s off and always leaves you when his work shift would be over. Sounds like a guy trying to convince someone he`s at work when he`s with you. I dunno call me skeptical.
VicJay79 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Dear WholeGrain, Its really tough to say if this person has a significant other. You can at the very least bring into light that he isn't being open about his life with you. This is something to be concerned of, and you may want to keep your heart at bay until you get more information. I definately don't have a very good feeling about this, but then again, its all about how you wrote it ;-). Hello, HELP Loveshack forum community! I have been working at this job for about four months-graveyard, well I started showing interest in one of my co workers (graveyard)..and he seemed to have no objections. It started with texting, then to him asking for x rated pictures, to him eventually coming over once a week and us doing the DO. What I need help with is this: he has never invited me to his home, he always comes over on one of the nights that I am off (we get two nights a week off, and i have tuesday and wednesday off- so i see him on tuesday night or wednesday night-and he works on those nights) and on those nights he always shows up in his work clothes but never went or goes to work-its like he gets dressed for work and comes over to my house. Sometimes he comes over for a couple of hours, or he may spend the night making sure to not spend the entire day but leaving in the am before 9. We talk about some things, I know he has children, and that he is what he says "focused" (not really knowing what exactly that means) so to ME its not just sex but all in all I am starting to get feelings for him. He calls me babe, baby, etc and that makes me feel ecstatic. But is he hiding something???? What do you guys and gals think?? HELP!
Silivren Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 It does sound kind of supsicious but I would ask a few questions of yourself first - it could be he has a significant other or it could be early stages of dating. First off, how long have you two been "seeing each other" Secondly, do you have his phone number for his home or does he just have a cell? A good way to test out if he's got a significant other is to evaluate contact times. Is he consistently unavailable to your phone calls and texts at times when he would be at home with his significant other? That is a telltale sign. I would definetly be cautious even if he is unnattached as it seems you are in "fling" territory. Right now you are having casual sex with a co worker with no guarantees that it will blossom into a relationship. I would be on your guard because it's very easy to fall for someone you are being physically intimate with. Which in turn makes it even easier to get hurt. Good luck.
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