wholegrain Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Hello, HELP Loveshack forum community! I have been working at this job for about four months-graveyard, well I started showing interest in one of my co workers (graveyard)..and he seemed to have no objections. It started with texting, then to him asking for x rated pictures, to him eventually coming over once a week and us doing the DO. What I need help with is this: he has never invited me to his home, he always comes over on one of the nights that I am off (we get two nights a week off, and i have tuesday and wednesday off- so i see him on tuesday night or wednesday night-and he works on those nights) and on those nights he always shows up in his work clothes but never went or goes to work-its like he gets dressed for work and comes over to my house. Sometimes he comes over for a couple of hours, or he may spend the night making sure to not spend the entire day but leaving in the am before 9. We talk about some things, I know he has children, and that he is what he says "focused" (not really knowing what exactly that means) so to ME its not just sex but all in all I am starting to get feelings for him. He calls me babe, baby, etc and that makes me feel ecstatic. But is he hiding something???? What do you guys and gals think?? HELP!
BiscuitXOXO Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I think you are being used for sex. He is not hiding anything. You are voluntarily letting him in your bed with "no strings attached." His pet names don't mean a thing. I have had several guys call me babe, sweetie, sexy, honey, etc. before, and they really had no real feelings for me. You guys "talk about some things so it's not just about sex." PURE BS. Unless you guys go out on dates or he brings you gifts or you two do activities outside of sex or you have talked about a long-term REAL relationship, this is just a fwb deal. If even that. More like just a sex deal. So what do you need help with?
Author wholegrain Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 I think you are being used for sex. He is not hiding anything. You are voluntarily letting him in your bed with "no strings attached." His pet names don't mean a thing. I have had several guys call me babe, sweetie, sexy, honey, etc. before, and they really had no real feelings for me. You guys "talk about some things so it's not just about sex." PURE BS. Unless you guys go out on dates or he brings you gifts or you two do activities outside of sex or you have talked about a long-term REAL relationship, this is just a fwb deal. If even that. More like just a sex deal. So what do you need help with? Hey Biscuit, thank you so much for responding! I was wondering about him coming over with his work clothes on when he doesnt go to work and only coming on the night I have off. Ill just come out and say it-my friend thinks he has a live in girlfriend. :/ Well I guess I figured we dont go on dates because we both work graveyard and its hard on us. We talk after get off from work and then he goes home and we see each other at work again that night. And our personal time is like i stated on a night im off. Guess Im bothered by what my friend said..what do you think
Author wholegrain Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 I think you are being used for sex. He is not hiding anything. You are voluntarily letting him in your bed with "no strings attached." His pet names don't mean a thing. I have had several guys call me babe, sweetie, sexy, honey, etc. before, and they really had no real feelings for me. were you involved with them?
BiscuitXOXO Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Even with the added info, I still think the same thing. Even if you are tired with work, has he ever offered to take you out for dinner? or going out for a drink? And there's still the fact that you two don't talk about "deeper" stuff, such as what your direction in life is, where your relationship is going, etc. ~~~ Involved? No. Just friends who like to flirt. But they do so with almost every girl. I flirt back, and we all know it's nothing serious.
DontWorryBHappy Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Are you really so blind to not see what's going on here? He shows up at your house in his work clothes because he tells his girlfriend that he's going to work, but he's really going to have sex with you. And he doesn't invite you to his house because he girlfriend lives there. Duh.
Author wholegrain Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Even with the added info, I still think the same thing. Even if you are tired with work, has he ever offered to take you out for dinner? or going out for a drink? And there's still the fact that you two don't talk about "deeper" stuff, such as what your direction in life is, where your relationship is going, etc. ~~~ Involved? No. Just friends who like to flirt. But they do so with almost every girl. I flirt back, and we all know it's nothing serious. We do talk about his kids and the fact that he is "focused" (whatever that means), he always says he focused on his kids and career.
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