Lilmisus Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 What I look for in a guy, in order: 1.Humor 2.Personality 3.Drive 4.Looks There are other things of course, but those are the main things. Apparently one of my (no longer) crushes doesn't have much of a sense of humor though. Or maybe I'm just an insensitive, sarcastic b!tch, I dunno. All I know is that he reported a friend and me to our manager for being "too mean" to him after we were joking around with him the other night. He also told us that he didn't want to talk to us anymore and that he wanted to keep things strictly professional. Neither of us has any idea what he got upset about..and we are still trying to figure out what he thought was "too mean" that we said to him..but so far, we don't know. We said a few jokes to him the other night (mainly her, I said maybe two things to him all night), but never once did we insult him, or try to hurt his feelings. So it looks like he really just didn't appreciate the kidding around. So now, because of him, I have to watch what I say to people, or I could get written up or fired..which really pisses me off. Mainly because I'm always joking around with everyone, and from what I'm told by my friends and coworkers, that's what they love most about me. My friend said that she's just going to quit talking to people if they are going to overreact that much to what she says and if they take things that seriously...which my manager said not to do. But now I know just how important it is to find someone who gets your sense of humor. Who can understand when you're being serious and when you're kidding around. I thought during the first couple of weeks that we worked together that he had a good one, and that he got that I was kidding with him when I was (reason I had a crush on him)..but apparently he took it more to heart than he let on, or that I thought. But being able laugh together, was the main reason why I was so crazy about my ex...we got each others sense of humors, and we could easily understand when the other was kidding around and didn't take things personally. At least now I know without a doubt that this is not the guy for me and that I need to stay far away from him. Definitely glad that nothing came from him like a few people tried to do.
little.skittles Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Your jokes probably didn't seem mean to you but to him they were. We are all sensitive human beings, I don't know the guy but I would say to put yourself in his shoes that night it all happened. How would you have felt had someone said to you what you said to him. Another thing is that he probably felt attacked, you guys were laughing at him and not with him. I am a joker at work to, I like to have fun with my co-workers but I'm always very careful how I word things so I don't upset anyone. Sounds like the dude just wants more respect and acceptance.
BiscuitXOXO Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I COMPLETELY agree with your list. My high school crush once said, "The most healing thing is laughter." Which made me go :love:. ...I miss that guy... DAMMIT! MUST REESTABLISH NC.
Author Lilmisus Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 What were the jokes? I'm trying to remember, but I honestly can't really. Her and I were talking most of the night to one another, and to others there, and he came up only a few times. I do know that in the past he's called me a "mean cashier" but each time it was as a joke, not serious, and I didn't take offense to it. Once, I even offered to give him a gay friend's number when a few gay guys gave him their number. I told him "it's okay if you're gay..I have a great friend to set you up with!" I thought for sure then that he knew I was kidding then (especially since he said "yes! I love getting guy's numbers!), since he knew I liked him at that point..but he went and asked someone afterward if I was mad at him after that joke. But that night, he came up said "Hi lilmisus..." and I said "Hey guy #2" and smiled. But my friend was mainly the one joking around with him like she was everyone else..since she has about the same sense of humor as I do. She told him things like "go close out of your table" "mark the bills" "don't you have tables to go to?" but each time it was very obvious (to me at least) that she wasn't serious. At one point he laughed and said that she was "so mean" (which he's said to countless people, including me) and I told him that I was teaching her to be a mean cashier and that she was doing a great job at it..thinking he would get the reference to what he's said about me in the past. After the comment about the tables he laughed and said "Nah, I actually don't have any right now, and I told him that the table coming in right then was his table..since it was, and he walked away. After that, he stayed away for a couple of hours. When he came back up later, I asked what was up and if he was okay, and he just kind of shrugged and wouldn't look at me. When he got his money at the end of the night, my friend asked if he wanted to make it anything else (give us a dollar so we would give him a $50 back), and that's when he said that he didn't want to talk to us. Thirty minutes later, he complained about us.
Author Lilmisus Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 2 girls laughing at a guy and one of them he might be into....that sure would be an ego smasher. He may have been into me in the past, but apparently he's as sick of me as I am him at this point. I told his now girlfriend's mom about the picture I saw on his phone (story!) mainly to let her know that I knew that she set them up, and I told her to not let him know that I saw it since I didn't care that much anymore, and I didn't want more drama from him. She said that she wouldn't tell him..but believe it or not..she did. My friend overheard her telling him about it and how it pissed me off that he would show me that..and he apparently said that he didn't care what I thought about him. Other things were said, but my friend couldn't hear anymore. Maybe that had something to do with him complaining about me? I dunno. Quite frankly, I don't care. It just pisses me off that he got my friend and me in trouble over something so..unimportant.
curlygirl40 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 "It's the ability to take a joke, not make one, that proves you have a sense of humor". Max Eastman Always liked that quote.
Nexus One Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Vague story. So you guys said something to him that made him upset, but you don't remember what it was. Yet you felt a reason to ask him if he was ok. Something doesn't seem to add up there. That being said. If you ask a guy if everything is ok and he doesn't respond with yes, but shrugs, then something is definitely not ok. He just doesn't want to say it out loud.
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