Ouchh Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Five months ago my gf of almost three years broke up with me for another guy about a week before Christmas. I begged, I pleaded and she only hurt me more and more by ignoring me and refusing to give much of an explanation. Its been five months and Im not over it. People tell me ill get over it eventually but this feeling wont leave me. Im miserably depressed. After the break up, I realized my social life revolved around her. I am currently a 20 year old junior in college with a 3.8 GPA and very few friends.. My depression is causing my GPA to crash and the confidence I once had to plummet. I can't concentrate or sleep and migraines are a constant. I wish I could just go out and meet new people and make new friends, but i've discovered I dont know how to talk to and meet others. Everytime I try, people seem to respond to me coldly. I try to brush it off but when it happens many times in a row, it really starts to get to you. I dont get it... When i was with my ex I think I felt that all I needed was her. She was my best friend. Now that shes gone I just dont have that.. I really dont know what to do guys. How do i get over this? its been five months! I know im young, but I feel like im ruining my life. I would never commit suicide but I have had suicidal thoughts.. damn. can anyone relate to this? BTW.. i kept no contact for about 2 months but collapsed and broke it. She responded to me horribly.. fully erasing me from her life (although she kinda already did that beforehand). Anyways, Im 1 month no contact now, but its getting to me..
Fedor Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I know its hard when your life revolves around 1 person. This could be a blessing in disguise though. Now, you can go out and do things for you. Strive to better for yourself, not for your ex. Then hell, maybe somewhere down the line, you bump into your ex and she will see what a wonderful person you have grown into.
secondname Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Hey man ! I am in the same boat as you, except I was married and we have a 3 year old boy. She left me back before christmas and shut me out of her life for 3 months. she just now started calling me, but only to stop here recently. I would never commit suicide, but I think about it EVERY ****ing second of the day. Especially at night man, I stay up til 1 or 2 in the morning with the craziest thoughts running through my head. I cant sleep. I go to work at 8am and cant even do my job anymore. I get my kid, but I want her also and she isnt wanting me. At times like this, I get on this forum and read everyone elses problems and realize I am not the only one. Its hard not knowing where shes at or who she is with. Im stuck in this empty house every night! 6 years of memories are in my house and its getting harder and harder for me. I need to vent too sometimes but I dont have many friends. hell dude, I dont even know anymore
secondname Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I would love the no contact because I think that would help me, but its hard with our kid in the middle.
Author Ouchh Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Ya thanks for the responses guys. Its just so hard when you dont have many friends to turn to. I know it might be rediculous to some and is something a lot of people feel after a break up, but I really feel like there wont be another person that loves me and I love as much I did my ex. Plus my ex was gorgeous... idk if im ever gunna do as good as that again. And its not easy going 5 months without much contact with any girl when Im used to having sex whenever I wanted it... ahh well.. just more venting I guess.
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