BiscuitXOXO Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 The other night I went out with 8 guys and I was the shortest. Is that an issue? It's only an issue if you make it an issue. Unless 8 people were all EXACTLY the same height, SOMEONE would be the shortest. And even if you had another buddy who was 1 inch shorter, then you would be the 2nd shortest. Whoopee. Look, you can't help your height. So stop obsessing. Post something new that shows you actually read these posts.
runner Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 social stereotypes aside, i would argue that presence is way more important than height. i've met many 6 foot+ guys who walk around like they were 6 inches- and play world of warcraft all day. likewise i have a friend who is (and i'm not kidding) 5'2" and gets incredible female attention, some of whom have been 6 inches taller than him. own your stature, no matter what it is.
Star Gazer Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 All other things being equal, I will usually pick the taller guy.
OliveOyl Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 All other things being equal, I will usually pick the taller guy. But all other things are never equal. I have NEVER had a list of guys to choose from and the only reason I chose one over the other was height. Never had any situation anywhere close to that. The OP's height is not going to be the deciding factor. If he was very very short, maybe, but he's not.
Star Gazer Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 But all other things are never equal. I have NEVER had a list of guys to choose from and the only reason I chose one over the other was height. Never had any situation anywhere close to that. The OP's height is not going to be the deciding factor. If he was very very short, maybe, but he's not. Speak for yourself. I've had circumstances where all of my other necessities were equal, so I went with the one thing that pushed attraction over the top. And in at least one instance, that thing was height.
somedude81 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Being 5'6 may very well be the reason or at least a very big one, why I've never been in a relationship. I just never had the personality/presence/game/charisma to make up for it.
Rinnix Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I'm a short lady (5'3) long as the guy is a bit taller then me, then I don't care. I wouldn't be opposed to dating someone 5'4 either.
runner Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 i know a couple where she's 5'3" and he's about 5'4". they are so cute together
TheyCallMeBruce Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Sorry, bro. I'm tall, and it's awesome. You should see some of the **** that I can reach. It's pretty high up.
OliveOyl Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I just don't understand the point of the endless threads about height, because unlike weight, or fitness, or hair, or even personality issues... there is nothing that can be done about height. I try to impress my belief that it is a non-issue to help make the OP feel better, because I really do believe it is a non-issue, and feeling better can be the only point of this thread. Instead people come along and say stuff like "I pick taller guys anyway". I mean WTF? Why even say that? What is the point? OliveOyl shakes her head.
Jazzari Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 (edited) I just don't understand the point of the endless threads about height, because unlike weight, or fitness, or hair, or even personality issues... there is nothing that can be done about height. I try to impress my belief that it is a non-issue to help make the OP feel better, because I really do believe it is a non-issue, and feeling better can be the only point of this thread. Instead people come along and say stuff like "I pick taller guys anyway". I mean WTF? Why even say that? What is the point? OliveOyl shakes her head. The point is giving an honest answer to a question. I would hate for someone to lie just to make me feel better. And yes, there are things that can be done about height. Wearing elevator shoes or shoe lifts can add 2 to 5 inches. Edited May 11, 2011 by Jazzari
HeartShineGirl Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I'm 5 foot 9, I'm not petite by any means, I'm realy muscular naturally, and attractive girls have always liked me... however, ever since I was 19(I'm 23 now) I have had a phobia of dating girls for the simple fact of how I feel next to a guy that's 6'0"+, it rubs my ego the wrong way, and quite frankly I feel flat out embarassed lots of times (yes I am over-egotistical, I know, I'm working on it)... and I feel that if I were to have a girlfriend she would always fantasize about a tall guy, simply because sooo much of a guys personality is based on their height, and looks, and I've had this complex about my height for far too long now. Can I date a really attractive girl without worrying about a 6'1" stud taking her away? How big of a deal is height to girls that aren't tall? I don't even go in public now because I hate my height so much... (again, it's not my height that i hate, it's how I get "towered over" and look like a child next to other guys, making me "less" than) Please no rude answers, or answers from taller guys wanting to feel good about themselves... I haven't had sex in a long time and I'm starting to go insaine because of it, I just don't want to get involved with a girl and get hurt because of a height-based issue with another guy Wow. 5'9 to me is tall. I'm female, and 5'6 and I've dated guys that were much shorter than I am, and one as tall as you and I have never thought the one that was taller was the best just because of his height. My own personal favorite is a guy the exact same height as me. That is the PERFECT kissing and hugging, everything is lined up right where it needs to be in a hug (if you know what I mean-two bodies pressed together hitting all the right spots) I think this is a very personal issue for you and one that is really serious. It's disabling you because you feel so insecure and unable to even date because of it or go out in public. Have you ever thought of going for counseling to find out what the root of this fear is stemmed from? Please don't let this fear take over your life. Life is way too short to stop participating just because you have a worry so big it takes over your life. You're tall in my eyes... and I'd probably think anyone taller than you was way too tall for someone my height. I even think truthfully, you're too tall for me. I'm sure there are girls out there that do not go looking for tall guys. I'm one of them.
HeartShineGirl Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Then they drop their pants. GAMEOVER LOL, that made me laugh because I find it true but in a different way. I would not be looking at the SIZE of the package down below but whether or not he had a foreskin. LOL Isn't it funny how us girls think?
HeartShineGirl Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 The guys that are shorter than me are always really insecure, not smart, not good looking, etc. I swear the only guys I know that have my physical and mental qualities are always 6'0+, I'm like the only legit guy under 6 foot that I know. I would hang out with short guys I know but I can't stand how dumb they are, I don't like dumb people, and because of that I'm like always the shortest in the bunch. Your physical and mental qualities? Stocky- height does NOT equate to intelligence. The logic in that is wrong. Just because a person is SHORT does not mean they are STUPID. Perhaps that is what your issue is. You think that because you are shorter, than the other guys that they are going to think you are dumber? That's insane! No, that's DUMB! Can't you see how Dumb you sound saying something that stupid? That's really ignorant, I'm sorry I am not trying to be mean but you just said that short guys are dumb. That is completely not true. Some of the smartest men in the world are short. And, again height has NOTHING to do with smarts. I'm no genius and even I know that. Does it bother girls to be with a guy that is on the "shorter" side? Or do girls like good looks better? Personality FTW!
HeartShineGirl Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I'm not looking down on them because of their height. I look down on them simply because of their personality, character, intelligence, etc. Some of them are so insecure it digusts me Do I have issues? Am I dillusional? But, you are being insecure right now .... so I am thinking all of this is what is causing you so much fear of your height issue. You are so judgmental about anyone shorter than you and you are classifying yourself in a sense like them when you are around anyone taller, you don't want to seem insecure but you are insecure. You don't want to seem shorter, but sometimes you are shorter. The reality is however that there is no truth to the belief that short = dumb, ugly and stupid. That's silly. You are worrying over nothing. Your own judgment is your worst enemy.
HeartShineGirl Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 oh yea definitely *drools* mmmmhmm Some of them even have pretty, white gfs. Biscuit, I don't understand how "white girls" are some kind of prize with asian guys. I'm white, my boyfriend is Pacific Islander, and he was all happy he had a "white" girlfriend. What is up with that way of thinking? I just don't get it.
HeartShineGirl Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I just don't understand the point of the endless threads about height, because unlike weight, or fitness, or hair, or even personality issues... there is nothing that can be done about height. I try to impress my belief that it is a non-issue to help make the OP feel better, because I really do believe it is a non-issue, and feeling better can be the only point of this thread. Instead people come along and say stuff like "I pick taller guys anyway". I mean WTF? Why even say that? What is the point? OliveOyl shakes her head. I guess a guy would be like... if all other attributes were the same, I'd pick a girl with the nicer rack. Who knows why people say what they say but it is kinda shallow to actually base what a person picks by physical appearance, I dunno... I've dated short guys, ugly guys, stupid guys, tall guys, and really... you know what mattered most? Personality. It's always going to be that for me, well... and intelligence, I have realized I don't like stupid guys.
oaks Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Please no rude answers, or answers from taller guys wanting to feel good about themselves... I haven't had sex in a long time and I'm starting to go insaine because of it, I just don't want to get involved with a girl and get hurt because of a height-based issue with another guy I'm tall but not getting any either, so I can assure you that it isn't a magic ticket to bedding women. Best advice is to be happy with who you are and what you can offer.
Eeyore79 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I don't care how tall a guy is, as long as he's a few inches taller than me. Once that criterion is satisfied, I'm more interested in other things such as personality and intelligence. I know someone who is 6ft tall and has never had a gf, because he's overweight, not handsome, shy, and lacks confidence. My other friend is 5ft9 and has no trouble getting girls, so height isn't the issue - neither is looks, because this 5ft9 guy is also overweight and not handsome. However he is intelligent, successful, fun, and extremely confident and charismatic, which I assume is why the ladies flock around him! Success and charisma trumps pretty much everything else...
nyc_guy2003 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 The biggest player I know is about 5'8" or 5'9" and seriously nails 6-7 hot chicks a month. I have several friends in the 6'0"+ camp who are single and haven't gotten laid in weeks/months/years. In college the guy who was voted "best looking" in my dorm was 5'10", about middle of the pack. For me, before I got married my height cut-off for girls was about 5'3" on the short side and 5'10" on the tall side, but I've seen girls outside that range that are way hot and that I would've hooked up with if the situation was right.
chuckles11 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I just don't understand the point of the endless threads about height, because unlike weight, or fitness, or hair, or even personality issues... there is nothing that can be done about height. I try to impress my belief that it is a non-issue to help make the OP feel better, because I really do believe it is a non-issue, and feeling better can be the only point of this thread. Instead people come along and say stuff like "I pick taller guys anyway". I mean WTF? Why even say that? What is the point? OliveOyl shakes her head. Well, what's the point of posting a thread like this just to try to seek validation, then? OP should just ask his family and friends if he is looking for people to pat him on the back. When you post on an internet forum, you're going to get all sorts of answers, both positive and negative.
OliveOyl Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 I guess I don't understand why people in this situation post in the first place, then. This is something that obviously upset the OP, why he would post to hear negative responses about something that he can do nothing about (sans elevator shoes, but I don't think that's the solution he was seeking), well it baffles me. It isn't just this post, it's all the postings in the general format: "I'm XYZ, will anyone ever like me?" Well nobody is going to like everything about everyone, there will always be people who won't accept X, Y, or Z. I posted something like this myself, I received a lot of negative answers, and if my self-esteem was a lot lower, it would have bothered me for quite a while. "Honesty" from internet strangers is a bit overrated to me, I guess.
Cracker Jack Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 (edited) Oh, hai, Will. Good to see you're back with another alias this time. If height is at the top of the list for a woman, then it simply is. No reason to continuously try to understand why. Nor should you care. Funny story: a good while back, this really cute woman was showing me a ton of signs that she was attracted to me, but I automatically rejected myself because I thought I was too short (5'8") for her. When she no longer focused on me, I assumed it was because she found my height (while neglecting the fact that I never really talked to her all that much because I was scared) to be a turn-off. Boy, was I wrong. Come to find out, she thought I wasn't attracted to her and simply gave up on trying to get me to open up, but she found me to be pretty attractive, and I just couldn't believe someone like that would ever be into me. Completely missed an opportunity because of my own stupid insecurities. Accept your height and work on your attitude. If you're really ready to leave a job opportunity on the table because you saw a tall guy in the building, your issues are far more significant than anyone here is qualified to help with. TLDR: Stop whining. Edited May 11, 2011 by Cracker Jack
somedude81 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Oh, hai, Will. Good to see you're back with another alias this time. I thought it was him.
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