teaforone Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 If you didn't have definite plans with the guy/girl you're seeing would you expect them to let you know if they weren't going to work out? And if they didn't tell you would you get mad over it? He had asked me if i wanted to do something after he got off work Saturday and grabbed something to eat. But by the time he finished doing all that it would be too late, so i asked if he'd want to hang out Sunday (Mother's Day) instead. He said that would be fine, but he seemed unsure on a time due to plans with his mom. So i told him to just let me know a time. He never texted or called to say if we we're or were not hanging out. Since they weren't definite plans in the first place, and it was mother's day is it silly for me to be upset with him? Should i have just texted him and asked? I'm not very good with plans, so i'm not sure what the procedure is if they weren't definite. Thanks!
Author teaforone Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 I expect everything to fall through. What do you mean? As in you never expect plans to work if they weren't definite?
guy777 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 i asked if he'd want to hang out Sunday (Mother's Day) instead. He said that would be fine He should have contacted you and let you know it wasn't going to work out because Mothers Day plans were running late.
Author teaforone Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 He should have contacted you and let you know it wasn't going to work out because Mothers Day plans were running late. Should i say something to him about it or, just act like it didn't bother me and text him tomorrow or something? 99% of the time he's texting me to tell me when he's on his way or if he'll be late for some reason. So i'm not sure why he didn't unless he just felt like they weren't actual plans to cancel since it wasn't definite.
Author teaforone Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Making him pick between his mother and you by complaining about tentative plans is a bad idea especially since we are talking about the mother of all holidays. True. I didn't mean for it to come out that way, i guess i was just expecting him to let me know either way. Then felt disappointed and upset when he didn't. He really shouldn't have to pick, and i don't want him too either. Maybe i'm just so used to my mom not wanting to do anything on Mother's Day that i tend to forget that other mom's like to go out and spend time with the family. I feel a bit stupid now, worrying about all this. Thanks!
Author teaforone Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Does she have any sons? If not that could be why. If she isn't on good terms with her son(s) that could be the reason. No, it's just me and my other sister. There is nothing stupid about it. If it becomes the new pattern then it is a concern which needs to be addressed. He doesn't really seem like the type to start doing that since every other time we've hung out he's called/texted to let me know if he's going to be a little late, if he's on his way, etc...But we'll see.
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