bornbroken Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Hi Guys, I have been speaking to this girl I like for a couple of weeks. she is in her 20's and I want to ask her out but I need some advice. Just under two months ago, she split from her fiance. They had been together a year. The reason they split up was because he is manipulative and controlling. Anyway, for the first month after they split, she ignored him and ignored his requests to get back together. But after a while, she started replying to him being nice and friendly. But still she refused to even see him. They went a couple of weeks without talking but then this week he e-mailed her asking to meet up. She refused the request and has gone back to ignoring him again. Now, she is sure that the break up is for good and she never wants to see him again. And I believe her. But if you just got out of an abusive relationship, however much you loved them, wouldn't you just cut contact all together? She has done this now, but does the fact that she has even replied to his e-mails mean that she still may have feelings for him?.....I mean even if she is being angry towards him, that's still an emotion right? Do you think its too soon for me to be getting involved with her? And in general, how long do these women take to get over relationships like this? She is quite a sensitive girl and she had really loved him. Although she dosnt anymore. Any advice welcome!
TheLoneSock Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Hi Guys, I have been speaking to this girl I like for a couple of weeks. she is in her 20's and I want to ask her out but I need some advice. Just under two months ago, she split from her fiance. They had been together a year. The reason they split up was because he is manipulative and controlling. Anyway, for the first month after they split, she ignored him and ignored his requests to get back together. But after a while, she started replying to him being nice and friendly. But still she refused to even see him. They went a couple of weeks without talking but then this week he e-mailed her asking to meet up. She refused the request and has gone back to ignoring him again. Now, she is sure that the break up is for good and she never wants to see him again. And I believe her. But if you just got out of an abusive relationship, however much you loved them, wouldn't you just cut contact all together? She has done this now, but does the fact that she has even replied to his e-mails mean that she still may have feelings for him?.....I mean even if she is being angry towards him, that's still an emotion right? Do you think its too soon for me to be getting involved with her? And in general, how long do these women take to get over relationships like this? She is quite a sensitive girl and she had really loved him. Although she dosnt anymore. Any advice welcome! She is not over him yet. She may want to be, and she may know that she never wants to be with him again, but that doesn't mean she's over him or their relationship. They were engaged to be married. Two months is not long enough. Think more like 6-8 months. It's up to you if you want to roll your dice on her.
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