nyckidd Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 So instead of seeing my ex today I text her and asked why exactly we were seeing eachother. She said idk just to talk, but if i dont want to then its ok. I said I dont want to if you feel like you owe it to me. She said she didnt but it was fine and to just text her whenever if anything. I basically just came on here to vent. She pisses me, I should have just ignored her text from the begining. But I said you know what Ill be nice to her. And then she ends up playing games and being dumb. Stick with NC no matter what is the lesson for this one, unless they show a serious effort that they want to be back together etc.
Chi townD Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 No big deal Bro! If NC was easy, this forum wouldn't exist. Clack it uo as lessons learned and back to NC. Post here anytime you need to vent!
homebrew Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 (edited) I said I dont want to if you feel like you owe it to me. Ouch! Why on earth would you text her THAT MESSAGE? You basically said the following to her... "I am a pathetic loser and why would you want to even bother talking to me?" No worries though... Based on her response, I do not think she wants to get back together. Next time... Put your best foot forward instead of coming across like a total reject! What you did right: Asked her what she wanted to talk about. What you did wrong: Responded back to "I Don't Know, I just want to talk" text in the worst possible way. Correct Responses to "I Don't Know, I just want to talk" message: 1. Not Responding at All. 2. LOL - If you want to piss her off / confuse her. Edited May 10, 2011 by homebrew
Am4Real Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 Since your posting practically the same theme in two different posts, PLEASE READ your other post for answers and advise given on this topic.
Author nyckidd Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 not the same thing, two different days with two different conversations. Look a little closer, but thanks. And homebrew- I said that because im not going to be pityed by her. I let her know if she wants to talk we can talk, theres no obligation here, dont just talk to me because you feel bad. Im not a b****
Am4Real Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 Dude, looked closer, there's not much difference only a status. Keep it to one post if you want us to answer your questions. That's the preferred method on LS.
homebrew Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 (edited) And homebrew- I said that because im not going to be pityed by her. I let her know if she wants to talk we can talk, theres no obligation here, dont just talk to me because you feel bad. Im not a b**** With your response... "I dont want to if you feel like you owe it to me." You more or less said you wanted to meet with her but within the same sentence... told her to not met with you because you think that she thinks... you are a chump. Which is it? So of course, she has pity for you and you did come across as a b****. Can you imagine Clint Eastwood ever saying what you said to a women? I sure don't! Clint Eastwood Response(s) - Sure, X Day works best for me, No response at all, Let me get back to you, Maybe, okay, Not interested, Your place or mine, Is this a full service date?, You're buying, etc. Let's see what a couple of the ladies say about your response... I have a feeling, your "tuff guy" approach does not come across as very "tuff guyish". Sorry dude, Just trying to keep it real... Edited May 11, 2011 by homebrew
Author nyckidd Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 lol I see your point. She repedely said sorry after that whole convo, and kept texting me and asking me why I was ignoring her. So.. I kept ignoring her! Time to man up, sometimes after being dumped you loose some of that ego!
Author nyckidd Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 Dude, looked closer, there's not much difference only a status. Keep it to one post if you want us to answer your questions. That's the preferred method on LS. Try looking again, there def different. Actually why dont you just get off this page if its bothering you. Oh yea and grown men dont cry. HA.
homebrew Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 lol I see your point. She repedely said sorry after that whole convo, and kept texting me and asking me why I was ignoring her. So.. I kept ignoring her! Time to man up, sometimes after being dumped you loose some of that ego! I wasn't trying to bust on you... As you know, it's easy when you are in the cheap seats and not emotionality involved. You are throwing her for a loop with the whole NC thing... The power is back in your court again. Congrats for not letting her have her cake and eat it too!
Author nyckidd Posted May 11, 2011 Author Posted May 11, 2011 I wasn't trying to bust on you... As you know, it's easy when you are in the cheap seats and not emotionality involved. You are throwing her for a loop with the whole NC thing... The power is back in your court again. Congrats for not letting her have her cake and eat it too! Yea its all good, I needed a little Clint Eastwood inspiration!
nana841121 Posted May 11, 2011 Posted May 11, 2011 forget and forgive. be grateful for every kind of experience. even the hateful, in a long term. how you master the experience is much important than the experience itself
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